I couldn't fit inside her, what do I need to do?

[Duddy]

I have been together with my amazing girlfriend for nearly a year now and last night we finally decided to have sex. It was going to be both our first times, so we dint really know what to expect. It started with me doing lots of foreplay with her and getting her super turned on and wet, yet even with my fingers I felt how extremely tight she was, It was difficult to even fit one finger inside her, and after roughly an hour I manged to loosen her up enough to get 2 fingers in which was still a tight fit... Anyways we continued to kiss and I gentle talked to her to relax her and really tried my best to get her ready, so after probably an hour and half of foreplay and kissing we decided it was time. Now before I continue, we talked a lot about this before hand and I knew she was very tight already, and she knew I had a large penis (about 7.5 in x 5.5in if that helps you answer this question) but I never expected it to be this hard... I tried to push myself in gently while kissing her and making her feel loved and relaxed, but I swear I couldn't even get the whole tip in, It was like a wall, I couldn't even feel that there was an opening, and I slowly pushed harder and harder, hoping to slide in, but it was starting to hurt her... So I went back to foreplay and we continued this loop for nearly 4 hours, even going into the shower together with warm water, all without any success. We still had a good time and I made her get off with my fingers and I jerked off to finish. What are we doing wrong? We both want it so bad but despite al efforts I can't fit my penis past the first inch inside of her. She even broke down crying thinking it was her fault and it broke my heart that she thought that and I had to comfort her and reassure her that it wasn't. The one thing I think we definitely should have done is use lube. I though I had some with me but I guess I forgot it somehow, but for any of you out there, was are some other tips or advice you might have?

[purplepoppy]

You can poke and prod as much as you want but getting aroused is as much psychological as physical. It sounds as if she has a mental barrier thats stopping her vagina expanding as it should. I suggest a few sessions of non penetrive intercrural sex just to relax her without the threat of penetration. If fingering is uncomfortable to her she'll clamp up even more and even with lube it will hurt. Intercrural sex will provide her with pleasurable sensations, possibly orgasm without penetration. After a few sessions she should be more open to penetration

[Duddy]

okay, I will look into that!

[Liz_thorne]

Try lube and experiment further. Maybe it'll work better next time. If she was very nervous that could also have been a reason for why her muscles cramped up.

[Duddy]

Thanks for a decent answer. I came here to seek some advice and the rest of the answers are so fuckin stupid.

[Anonymous]

If it’s her first time she might be so nervous that it was hopeless from the beginning. Try it again and let her get used to it, maybe even let her take control.


Also, get sex positions that open her up more.


4 hours of foreplay without sex. Sorry for them blue balls

[AustinMan]

Maybe she should buy a set of graduated dildos and make some room in there. Then you should fit. You could use them on her.

[MannMitAntworten]

Some hymns are thicker than normal. Her’s maybe one of those hymns. If this is the case she might actually have to go into her OB and have it ‘cut’ for her. Just have her visit her OBGYN. Really is not a bog deal.

[Liz_thorne]

The hymen does not define tightness

[talulahbee]

It could b what he is feeling as tight though, if it didn't break it can make it difficult

[Liz_thorne]

Many hymens don't actually break, some do even before sexual intercourse. Hymens stretch and normally they cover only about a fifth to a third of the vagina. Also the whole vagina wouldn't feel tight, as he said.

[MannMitAntworten]

I never said the whole vagina would feel tight. I say hymen because he is having trouble just getting two fingers inside which would indicate there is a hymen present - ordinarily. The vaginal passage just isn’t that narrow unless a hymen is still present. Just visit the OB.

[Thatsamazing]

Uh, keep trying and keep going. Literally nothing else. Just go slow when you're trying to get in there.

[jmf909]

You not doing it right she is not relaxed and get her to guide it or just put it in her buttl o l joking

[TheFlak38]

Almost a year with her and just now starting to bang her. The definition of a cuck emotional tampon.

[Duddy]

Maybe because she wasn't comfortable with it before? Wtf is wrong with you, you are the definition of a piece of shit, because that comment says everything about how you treat and think about women.

[TheFlak38]

Yeah yeah the usual female bullshit. She wasn't comfortable. And of course the white knight cuck will believe it and support her. All it takes is for the man of her standards to pass by and she will fuck him the same day she met him and probably without knowing his name. Everything else is for white knights like yourself who like to play the role of the therapist. When it comes to you she needs time, she needs space, she needs to think, blah blah blah.

[Duddy]

Mhm, clearly real love doesn't seem to exist for you xD, you go on fucking those sluts that 30 guys have been inside of. Its as if you feel proud to say youd fuck a girl without caring of what she even thinks xD I could literally go outisde rn and find a girl to fuck within the next 15 minutes, its not hard, Im just not a jackass like you.

[TheFlak38]

You ignorant IDIOTIC white knight. What women call "love" is "give me". She only cares what you can give to her. When you play her therapist for almost a year putting up with her dumb bullshit that's true love for her. She doesn't give a fuck about you. Clearly she doesn't. When you do all this white knight shit you're like a circus animal jumping through a woman's hoops.

[Duddy]

LMFAO Im starting to enjoy this. I've been talking to her for nearly a year, "together" we have been maybe a month or so since I've been seeing her... so if you call me being a "white knight" for trying to fuck her on the 4th date, then wow my apologies that I didn't fuck her right after saying "hi" on the first date xD I really do feel bad for you to have a mindset like that. Have you ever actualy had a relationship longer than 1 night? Sure doesn't seem like it

[TheFlak38]

I'll be here for you next question where you'll be whining about how that bitch was taking advantage of you but then dumped you once she found the bigger better deal and doesn't lose any sleep over it. The end of the story for every white knight therapist like yourself. Go waste your money, time and sanity for a thot.

[Duddy]

ill be here for you whne you whine on here that your lonely ass isn't able to find a real girl to settle with

[Duddy]

Wonder if you are acutally 29... I thought you were around 17-19 judging by your comments, but ooofff damn thats gotta suck to not have anything figured out by 29

[TheFlak38]

loneliness is for weak white knights. Look in the mirror for loneliness. These bitches are preying on guys like yourself.

[Duddy]

So that makes you the white knight then? wtf lmfao you are the lonely one here, I have a girlfriend xD by the way did you learn this from your mom that got fucked by some guy and got her pregnant with you and then left to find another one of those "Bitches" since your mom was not worth caring about? Seems like he really managed to pass his genes on

[TheFlak38]

She's not your girlfriend you naive idiot. You're just her therapist. She might even banging behind your back other dudes who are much better than you. Holy shit! The guy who doesn't even get pussy trying to teach me. You're not fucking anything besides your hands. You already showed us what a pussy slave you are.

[Duddy]

you're just a lowlife scumbag buddy. Go back to wherever the fuck you came from, youd be doing everyone a favor

[asshole_]

You can fit in her

The vagina stretches to fit all penis

You're lying

[In_Trance]

Jesus...
Everyone says the same thing; she's so tight, he's so big. She's not... you're not.
You're both too tense and inexperienced.

[CubaPirate]

More lube required imfao

[Anonymous]

You're not doing anything wrong. Keep trying eventually you will make your way in