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If you're not religious why do you care if your partner has sex with other people?

I understand many on here are deeply religious and want to obey their religions teachings on faithfulness in marriage. But a great many here are atheists like me or if religious don't go to church or take it serious.
So if you remove the religious aspect what are your objections to your partner having occasional sexual fun with other people?
If they practice safe sex are they really doing any harm and they could learn things that would improve your own sex life?
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  • I am atheists or agnostic not sure, definitely not religious. Idont care about marriage at all, it's just a stupid piece of paper to me, I really dont like and actually disagree with this idea that you have to be married to be committed to each other. The whole point is we love each other right? Do you not love someone if they dont get that piece of paper with you? I almost think marriage is a sign of less love, like the only reason you stay with me now is cause you have too, without marriage you are make the constant conscious choice to stay together. I'm not trying to trap someone with me I want someone who wants to be with me. So no marriage isn't the only thing that should keep you from sleeping around, if the couple is cool with fine by all means spice things up, but to thing 2 people can't commit to each other without marriage is just stupid.

Most Helpful Guy

  • if you are in an agreed monogamous relationship you dont have to be religious to want that type of 1 on 1 life partner...
    it's about the knowledge that you and they are for each other, commitment and loyalty...
    however while i am mostly focused on just one partner in a relationship i am not opposed to the openness of an open relationship type, but what i would stress is that while in a relationship of thay type, set boundaries and limits, make sure honesty and openness with each other is paramount and that there are things you won't do with the other sexual partners but only do with your actual partner, this way it shows them that you and they are not just there for gratification but more and the other people are purely there for the sex

    • That's another point where I think open relationships wouldn't work. It implies putting more boundaries in place in the end, there are more rules, and rules that are very easy to break, that are in place there. "Don't do this with other partners, don't do that, but still you can have sex with them, just make sure I'm first". You won't know if they're complying. You will get jealous. Your partner can fall for another person and it'll be easier than ever for them to emotionally cheat without you noticing. Basically, I think even if you don't mind someone else sleeping with your significant other, which for me is pretty ridiculous by itself, there will always be all that extra trouble anyway, and jealousy will find its way in, which beats one of the reasons I could see for an open relationship to happen. Sorry I went long on the answer, but I found it an interesting topic to discuss

    • @RemoErdosain the thing is if both follow the boundaries set by both parties involved then they can work and just as well as any other I've known cases where they've worked well and still are, and i've known cases where they dont due to jealousy and mistrust which is why anyone who is thinking about being in an open relationship, should first be certain and i mean 100% that they trust their partner and vice versa but if it's the dynamic of the relationship to be an open one and both are adhering to the rules both set and agreed to, then there isn't any reason why it would fail... i mean you have as much chance they your partner in a monogamous relationship would cheat or fall for someone else while in a committed 1 on 1 relationship tbf i say each to their own tbh some people like that or dont mind it, where as some dont like and do mind, i say for those people it's best to find someone who is of equal mindset and find happiness with them... i mean i get the idea of an open relationship and they fact it can introduce a level of variety to the dynamic, even keep your existing sexual side of the relationship feeling fresh and avoid a level of monotany and no worries about the long reply, i do tend to appreciate more thought that you get with a longer answer than a blunt short one tbf :)

Most Helpful Girls

  • Loyalty and commitment in a relationship are completely independent from religion.
    Maybe my boyfriend would 'learn new things' to try during sex with me if he were to fool around with others but I'm monogamous with him because of the trust and stability we provide to each other. The sex is like.. the reinforcement to that.

    If I placed a lot of importance on novelty in sex, I'd just sleep with someone new on a regular basis. Which obviously, is not the case.

  • Because that is wrong morally and counts as cheating, might as well be in an open relationship if you still desire someone else.

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  • Nothing wrong with it as long as both agree that having sex with others is OK, otherwise there are trust issues that are violated.

  • Because there is no true intimacy without fidelity.

  • I think jealousy and some feel it destroys the intimacy-integrity of the relationship. It’s what I’ve been told in any case. Myself I don't know in theory I’m open to it. I’ve never experienced it though so I probably. Why say with certainty.

    • Not ok to cheating mind you but polyamory or “ open”

    • I used to like watching my girlfriend take her top off at the town beach and see people's reactions

  • I am not religious and don't believe in invisible beings. But I do believe in monogamy. I never cheated on my partners and I think if would be icky to have a partner who went around having sex with others on the side. I wouldn't want her back.
    I can fuck my partner any time she wants. If she likes the way I fuck her, fine. But if she needs a variety of cocks, she can do it without me in her life.
    For me, open relationships mean lack of commitment. I don't want my partner to be out looking for a man. And she wouldn't be comfortable with me looking for a better piece of ass.
    I'm not judging people who sleep around. I've done my share. But they should stay single.

  • Morality and having the sense not to be a cheater is not exclusively tied to religion.

  • I think thats where the world is heading for I will be the first to say I love love, but I also feel more people are not getting in to relationships because the odds of breaking up are greater than 10 20 30 years ago people are more open minded and have that desire to try something new I think more people woukd be doing it if they understood unconditionally love and love the is an emotion but different type behind both then there is the respect factor I don't know if people are mature enough ,, right now our world is a me me me and a mine mine mine world

  • Better to practice with each other. I'd also be concerned with STD's, what happens after their sex session is over if they stay to have breakfast, or innocently cuddle and watch some movies, or slowly start to drift into the realm of cheating over time.

  • Why do you assume I care? I happily share my wife, my gimp, and my cat. After all, sharing is caring.

  • It’s not about religion, it’s about commitment.

  • Because I'm strictly monogamous and want to have sex with only one person in my life.
    Each person who I would have sex with who wouldn't turn out to be my life partner would be considered a mistake by me.
    That's the only way that sex has meaning to me, I just don't *want* to have sex any other way or for any other reason.

    I don't understand the concept of casual sex and promiscuity, it's so antithetical to my understanding of love, romance and interpersonal connections that it actually makes me uncomfortable.

  • I don't like other people driving my car either 😂

  • Actually, most religions, at their core, support infidelity for men. You don't hear it, but so many males had so many wives each.

    Sorry, religion doesn't enforce monogamy on others, except for those that are the most dedicated and uninformed. Granted, that's most of them, but hey.

    Sounds like what you are describing is polyamory. That works for some, but you know people are jealous in relationships and want to be mutually dedicated... that doesn't have anything to do with religion. Religion doesn't create jealousy - it's natural and normal to seek out a single mate. We know cave-men probably didn't hear the deeds and adventures of Moses.

  • The desire for an exclusive relationship is much older than modern religions. Monogamy has obvious practical benefits.

  • I think it it natural to want an exclusive relationship.

  • I prefer fidelity.

  • How would that improve my own sex life if they're having sex with others and not me, I'll pass on that lol, I might not be religious but I have some traditional views when it comes to love and relationships, maybe even somewhat of a toxic view. Like she's not just my girlfriend/wife but like my best friend who can put up with my shit. So it's beyond just sexual at least for me

  • If I'm in a monogamous relationship, then her cheating would be a dumpable offense. If I'm just in an open arrangement and I'm already fucking other girls then it would be hypocritical to deny her having her own fun on the side

  • Maybe those that care belong to the non-religious sect Monogami Genitalia - the extreme wing of its members have their partners wear chastity belts and cock cages.

  • The woman becoming pregnant to another man comes to mind.
    Really and truly, how warped does someone's thought process have to be to not see the obvious here?
    This has nothing to do with religion.
    It is about a man not wanting to invest his resources in raising the child of another man. That has been hard wired into us by millions of years of evolution.

  • Dafuq? Loyalty is independent from religion.

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