Do you think doggystyle is degrading? Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

[SjE78]

not at all, no

like any position it can be whatever you want it to be but to look at omething which provides pleasure as something bad i would say is more degrading than the act of taking part in it...

some people will always find something wrong with whatever is out there, if one person enjoys it someone else will have a problem with it...

sure it comes across as a submissive position however just cos it is doesn't mean it is anyway a submission...

there are other positions which could be classed more as degrading than doggy, i mean take missionary position for example... the woman is underneath and the man clearly has control.. but why is this not viewed as such?

both positions provide depth and pleasure, both can be seen as one in control and one in submission... but both provide enjoyment and.. a lot of women i've spoken to or have commented on the matter about their favourite position over the years have stated that Doggy is the one they prefer while others prefer them being on top or under etc

[Asker]

Missionary isn't seen as degrading as doggy for many reasons.

[SjE78]

no but some still see it as such as the guy is in a position of more control but neither positions are degrading

[Asker]

Why not?

[SjE78]

the only way they could be degrading is if people allow them to view them as such, i say just enjoy them or dont, if dont feel comfortable being in any position simple solution is dont be in the position (s) that would make you feel like that.. they are there to provide more enjoyment and if you dont feel that enjoyment from them that defeats the purpose of using them... but anything can be degrading or not depending on how each person allows themselves to percieve them

[Asker]

Is violence subjective too?

[SjE78]

violence is a different case entirely and has varying forms, there are forms of violent sex which is different to being violently used during sex or violently abused or violently beaten so in a way it can be classed as subjective.. i suppose from one point of view, if you see 2 people having rough sex it can be mistaken for an act of violence or even rape, depending on how you look at it. whereas rough sex is not violence... it is consensual... however violence in general comes in many forms, consensual, non-consenual, attack, defence, reactionary, random acts of, premeditated, unprovoked, and primal, I am sure there are more variations but you can actually act aggressive or appear aggressive and to some be viewed as violent

[Asker]

Violence is violence. No excuse.

[SjE78]

I'm not making excuses just pointing out it isn't always black and white on the matter there are grey areas in the matter as i've pointed out

[Asker]

Honestly, I don't see any grey areas...

[SjE78]

there are grey areas, to pretty much everything... you might see rough concensual sex as violent, when it isn't... you may see self defence as violent... when in fact it would be a necessity in order to be safe the grey area is what 1 person percieves as violent another doesn't... even a disagreement, you might feel that someone is arguing, where as all it is is a difference of opinion... i've known people to cry bloody murder at constructive criticism, claiming someone is picking faults with them when in actual fact all they were doing is giving avice i've seen someone sparring with each other, and someone saw it and reported it as they were beating the other person up... like i say "grey areas" nothing is always black or white in any situation

[Asker]

Self-defense is justified violence. It's still violence.

[SjE78]

that is my point, and so is say someone having rough sex, you someone else that would be violent but while it can be aggressive if it is concensual it is no way degrading nor violent but to someone else's point of view it could be seen as such... so grey area

[Asker]

It's violence. It just happens to be "consensual violence". That's why people from an outside POV see at as an agression and violence. Because it is.

[SjE78]

exactly my point but it doesn't mean something is bad just cos it looks distasteful to someone else

[floorislava85]

Yes I find it very degrading towards dogs

[Asker]

Poor dogs... Such a nice animal, I know.

[floorislava85]

So loyal loving and obedient

[Asker]

Yep, nice guys.

[floorislava85]

And bitches

[Asker]

🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶

[kaylaS91]

No, doggystyle doesn't cause me to lose self-respect or leave me humiliated.
I mean... why would it? It's just another position to have sex in. The only difference between it and good old missionary is that I'm not facing my boyfriend.

The confidence I have in myself is high enough that it'll survive simply not seeing him for a few moments.

[Asker]

If you're into being degraded...

[kaylaS91]

If I’m into degradation as a kink, any position could accomplish that.

[Asker]

Yes and no. Some are better for it than others.

[kaylaS91]

how so? I mean... degradation is a dynamic. It's far more dependent on interactions and mind-set than positioning, in my opinion.

[Kimdracula9]

Not really degrading but its also not fun either... not intimate enough. Just feels really impersonal.

[scooogy]

What about oral?

[Kimdracula9]

Well here's my somewhat graphic explanation on that: Oral is actually really personal in my opinion like you can look in each others eyes. You can see their facial expressions, exchanging bodily fluids and then probably swallowing it. I don't know seems pretty personal to me. Except of course there are guys that its not personal for so I guess it depends on your relationship with that person. Probably between partners its very personal and for some random tinder hookup it means nothing.

[Asker]

I agree. I don't understand how some can think doggystyle is personal. It's the total opposite of personal (probably why it's a favorite these days lol)

[Kimdracula9]

I know everyone's anatomy is different but I have no idea why people think it feels better because it really doesn't in my opinion

[potatoiswhoiam]

This is highly subjective. Some guys intentionally want it to be degrading to their woman and make her feel like she's less. While some other couples just have it as a preference. Others are into the "sub-dom" thing.

[Asker]

In your view, are some stuff inherently degrading then?

[potatoiswhoiam]

They're only degrading if they're intended like that. If both partners are ok with it, I don't think they are.

[Asker]

Getting slapmed isn't degrading then?

[Asker]

*slapped

[potatoiswhoiam]

Some girls like it, others don't. As long as both partners enjoy it, it's not degrading. (Referring to getting slapped during sex or sexually)

[Asker]

You can enjoy getting degraded.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Well some people may enjoy it, others see it as just a kink or whatever, don't see any harm in that. As long as it's enjoyed by both partners it's fine.

[Asker]

It wasn't the question. Just because one enjoys something doesn't make it less degrading. It's degrading, it's degrading.

[potatoiswhoiam]

In your opinion yeah. It's highly subjective so who are you to tell others what is degrading to them and what isn't 🤷

[Asker]

Some stuff are objective. End of the story.

[potatoiswhoiam]

To you 🤷

[Asker]

Objectively.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It's such a satisfying position. Folks who think it's degrading have a much more serious view of sex than I ever will or care to have, lol!

[Asker]

They probably see it for what it is.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Lol, I doubt it. If they saw it for what it really was, they wouldn't take it so personally or seriously. Sex is something that can be fun, loving, and intimate. But at the same time, no kink shaming from me if what gets those folks off most is feeling degraded. It's not my thing - I like that my partner respects and adores me - but it isn't for everyone.

[Asker]

Sex is part of a all whole social system which says a lot about today's society.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Omg no, why would anyone think it is? It's just a sexual position... Just because it's termed "doggy style" don't mean they're testing you like a dog... It's a great sexual position that feels good for both the giver and receiver...

[Asker]

No... It's just randomly its name lol

[Simple_Desperate_guy]

I read lots of comments from "what the girls said " section 😉 almost every girl or a ladie said no. so my vote goes with the ladies ! that is abso*fucking*lutely no!

[Asker]

#Noopinion

[OlderAndWiser]

Whether it is degrading depends on the attitude of both partners. Obviously, you see it as degrading but you haven't stated why. There are two things about this position that some girls don't like.

You are in a position in which you are very vulnerable. You have your back to your partner and you can't see what they are planning to do. If this bothers you, I assume that you would also feel degraded by a guy blindfolding you and trying your hands and feet to the corners of the bed, or lying flat on the bed on your tummy while he gets on top of you and enters you vaginally.

Sex involves trusting your partner and that may be difficult for you, particularly if you have ember had a bad sexual experience with a partner abusing your trust. If people trust their partner, those position can be an exciting variation but very few women regret having had sex in this position. My previous partners all enjoyed it and frequently request it. If it is a problem for you, I understand, but why do you need to insist that this is degrading for all women when it is not?

The other aspect of doggy position is that a guy will have a very clear view of your butt, including your butt hole. Some women get aroused when a guy sees their backdoor, it aroused some guys, some even enjoy anal play. Some people aren't into that and they simply accept the fact that this position involves revealing the most secret part of their body. So what? Again, sex involves trust and lowering your guard. The very same reveal happens if you are on top with a guy doing reverse cowgirl or 69.

If these things bother you, you will need to find a sexual partner who is extremely vanilla and never wants to do anything different. Hopefully, you will find such a guy.

[Asker]

Don't try to psychoanalyze me.

[OlderAndWiser]

You asked for my opinion and I gave my opinion. Did you just want to hear from users who would agree with you? If so, you should have stated that in your post.

[Asker]

No I just want interesting opinions and arguments.

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. I gave you a detailed opinion.

[ushagomez]

Not at all. It is a lovely normal fun position to enjoy

[CuteNerd9]

No, and if you lean your head down it feels fantastic!!! Its a position of power for the man and submissive for the woman, but that can be sexy as hell.

[Asker]

Get some self-respect.

[CuteNerd9]

I have plenty of self respect, thank you. You don't think knowing what you like is respectful of one's self?

[CuteNerd9]

I think its disrespectful if a man expects it or pressures a woman to do it if they don't want to.

[Warrior_Nun]

exhilarating and animalistic

[Asker]

If that's your story lol.

[TonyV]

Over all no it's not, but in a way a little but in a good way. I think of it as more a submissive position, making yourself is vulnerable is part of intimacy. It is not inherently degrading but that may be why some people like it but I'm sure people like it for all sorts of reasons.

[modelUN242]

If you look at every female animal, they do it doggystyle? Why would it be degrading? Well, sure the guy doesn’t see your face so it’s not personal. You could try doggystyle if you know the person intimately and more comfortable with them.

[Asker]

Or do they? Do most animals walk on 2 legs too?

[modelUN242]

Well, we did come from apes so that doesn’t make any sense. Stop acting like a prude and accept that it’s a sex position. Who told you it was degrading?

[Asker]

It's not acting like a prude but to respect myself lol. What I said was very obvious by the way.

[modelUN242]

If you want to respect yourself, don’t sleep around and be a whore. But this is simply a sex position that makes it easier for the dick to get inside, deeper penetration.

[Asker]

No, it's not "simply a sex position" lol.

[modelUN242]

Look if you think it’s degrading because it’s a guy doing it from the back, by all means find a guy who likes to get pegged.

[Asker]

Did I say that? No.

[modelUN242]

Oh my god, I can't with you, I feel like you're 15. 😫😫

[Asker]

Lame

[modelUN242]

Your ass is lame, I guess you want to just do missionary.

[Asker]

😂 Nope

[AndyOh]

No, not at all.
Just another position, and an easy one.
Also good for larger people to work with.

Sex should never be degrading unless you want that kink in there.

[Asker]

Of course, it shouldn't but some do like it that way...

[AndyOh]

Some like it and some don't. If the person you are with likes it and you are not into it... one or the other is going to be frustrated.

[JaneDoe377]

No I don't. It's just a position

[Asker]

Why?

[JaneDoe377]

Why not

[Asker]

Deep...

[JaneDoe377]

Not everything needs to have an in depth explanation

[Asker]

Especially when there's no argument lol.

[JaneDoe377]

Yea. I see no need to argue.

[Asker]

No argument.

[A_Bell]

It's the best as far as feeling goes. Easiest position to orgasm. Missionary is awkward physically.

[Pulse75]

Yeah I hear that A LOT of women tend to orgasm in this position.

[Asker]

@Pulse75 And a lot hate it...

[_Ved_Dev_]

It is. According to me. The only objective that it aims to fulfill can be accomolished in many more sober ways. I for once am taking that this is happening while making love. For someone at a brothel house, they can do whatever the fuck the want to do. But while making love... it's a bit degrading indeed. Plus, the enjoyment is in seeing the other one's face at the same time. Just an opinion.

[Asker]

I agree. Some like to be treated like a sex doll I guess.

[_Ved_Dev_]

Yeah. Some indeed have sexual priorities. It's only human.

[Asker]

Wanting to be treated like a sex doll is fine to you? 🤣😂😅

[_Ved_Dev_]

Nah. Not me. I'm saying there are people with whom it might be OK. Depends on what people think. But i know i don't remotely feel that it's ok and i know i will not want to be with someone who does. For it won't be my type. Besides... there are 7 billion people... There can be many who'd be willing to be a sex doll... who knows

[Asker]

Some people are willing to do crazy stuff. It doesn't make it less disrespectful.

[_Ved_Dev_]

Respect. Crazy. It's all about perspective. And it's all relative. Einstein's relativity applies to everything in this universe including subjective ideas as well.

[msss98]

No its not

[Asker]

Why?

[JPrez]

No. It's just another position. It used to be a male favored position but I've seen many survey's where women now put it as their favorite. I'm not sure where the thought came from that it was degrading.

[Asker]

It comes from people who know what respect means.

[JPrez]

Geez... at the rate you’re going you are never going to get laid. What a personality you have there. Good luck with that.

[Asker]

Hilarious assumptions...

[JPrez]

Wow, it’s another feminist social justice warrior who hates men. Shocking...

[DrippingHoney]

Not at all. It's just a position to get different penetration.

[Asker]

Yeah... Right...

[boggboss]

Inherantly no is crazy subjective so it will chamge person to person

[Asker]

Is getting slapped, spanked, spit on degrading?

[boggboss]

Again dependent on the people in question for me i would see it as degrading but my girlfriend enjoys spanking so meh

[Asker]

Some like being degraded...

[boggboss]

They do but others don't see some of it as degrading

[Asker]

They're kidding themselves lol.

[boggboss]

U can say that but that means nothing when talking about actual enjoyments and not as if someone says they don't see it as degrading it dont matter what I or you say for it thats simply how they may see it

[Asker]

Some think getting hit by their SO is normal... Everything exists lol.

[boggboss]

Sure they do but the lines between the 2 are vary different

[Asker]

Yes and no.

[boggboss]

U can say that but the difference between abuse and pleasure are two massively different things

[Asker]

Is being degraded abuse?

[boggboss]

Not if its requested no

[Asker]

If someone wants to be murdered, is it OK to do it?

[boggboss]

So murder is equal to degradation?

[Asker]

Why this question?

[boggboss]

Because what you just asked has no bearing on the subject someone asking to be degraded is not the same as being asked to be killed

[Asker]

Both show some deep psychological issues.

[boggboss]

Yet 1 is illegal whilst the other is not us commenting on that act means nothing yes u may not like it or agree with it but thats irrelavent to the person in question

[Asker]

Degrading someone : spitting on, slapping, spanking, insulting,... Is illegal.

[boggboss]

Yet its not within context but its clear u are being a clown at this point so meh

[Dargil]

I do if a girl feels it is degrading, I do think it hints at rape.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Dargil]

Mistype. I believe it is degrading if a girl believes it is. I think it hints at rape. I never do it.

[Asker]

So it just depends on one's mindset, hu?

[Dargil]

Pretty much. The same us true of fellatio. You can see it as vulgar and cheap or you can see it as skilled therapy.

[helva]

As long I like to do it isn't degrding.

[Asker]

You could enjoy getting spit on. It doesn't make it any less degrading.