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Girls, is the female orgasm really that important?

I never really gave it much thought before, but recently I saw a porn of a guy performing cunnilingus on a really beautiful woman. I usually skip over that part, but the more I watched it, the more I found it arousing hearing her scream and moan in extreme pleasure (I can't be sure, but it sounded like she came on his face from his performance). Once she started giving him a blowjob (POV style), I noticed she was in a really good mood, her face expressing how happy and satisfied she was in how he pleasured her in what seemed like genuine sexual gratitude, something I've never really noticed before in most porn I've seen.

So I guess my question is... is oral sex very important to women in regards to orgasm? I know all women are different in this regard, but does hell well oral sex is performed really make all the difference?

Still a virgin here, but I'm hoping I can satisfy a woman like that when the time comes, I wouldn't wanna disappoint.
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Yes, I realize the majority of high quality produced porn is fake with phony acting, but I had to ask anyway to see if it applies to real life women.
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  • You've got a couple of questions here, and they are not the same.

    1. "Is the female orgasm really that important?"
    Uh, yes. That's something you should consider non-negotiable. Once a girl experiences it, starts having them, a life without them would be very muted... sad.
    Why would you ask that? Would you give up your orgasms? I doubt it. You are watching porn. You're not asexual. Porn or no porn, people who are sexual usually want to continue that.

    But, orgasms can be elusive. They don't just happen easily for all. Often the younger the girl is, or the more uncomfortable with sex she is, the higher the chance of them being elusive. Even intermittent are great, and proof that she is capable of them. Many guys take it on as a personal challenge, and love every minute of it, trying. They also feel like a true stud, if they end up being the guy who gave them to her - either the first time, the most intense, the longest, the most repeats back to back, etc. This is where men's problem-solving nature comes into play, and is at its best. On this, they are determined.

    2. "is oral sex very important to women in regards to orgasm?"
    It depends on the girl. Some can't live without it being performed on them. Others really don't care for it, or about. (Don't listen to the ones who say it's absolutely always necessary. That is their opinion, not everyone's.)

    Now it gets a bit more complicated - about 40% of women do not orgasm through penetration. Sex feels amazing, but there is no big bang/conclusion that way. So they move onto G-spot or clitoral stimulation (the latter being either by the guy's hand, a toy or vibrator, or her hand.) For the g-spot, that's got to be achieved by his finger inside her, or a toy which she or he can apply. Or oral sex on her.

    There is no one-size-fits-all here, and that's good because you can look at that as a fun exploration, each girl is different. It also means they won't all have the same expectations. There is no manual that applies to all, but also no rules to follow. Just communicate with them and find out what they like, and what will work.

    • Amazingly answered.

    • You answered this perfect

    • This is a lot of good info to take in, thank you very much.

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  • If a girl really wants/needs to have an orgasm, I would have to say yes it is important. The reason why oral is performed is because it helps stimulate the clitoris more to reach orgasm. Some women are different though. I know some have to use a sex toy in order to get it.

    • Really? I never knew that before. I always thought oral was a form of foreplay.

    • No, oral is a type of sex. Kind of think of it like a blowjob for a female.

    • I hadn't realized there was a difference.

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  • I think it’s amazing to have a guy spend some time giving oral. I like to give so getting the same enthusiasm is appreciated

  • Orgasm yes... A woman isn't going to keep enjoying sex if her partner doesn't care if she's enjoying or not. But whether it's orgasm from oral or from sex, don't think that's as important as long as orgasm does occur

  • I moan just from the ticklish pleasure. I dont have to be orgasming to moan. Oral sex makes me extra wet and cum faster but its not as wanted as penetration. I prefer being fingered or tonguefucked or dicked down

    • So it varies and depends on the woman?

    • Yep. I usually like to give more than receive. Receiving is not often required but maybe once a month would do. But i do need to cum eventually in general otherwise i’ll consider him a selfish lover

    • That makes sense, never would've figured that out on my own.

  • If you don’t mind her just lying there while you do all the work, then orgasm doesn’t matter. If you want an active lover who is really into the experience then orgasm is essential. I often see men complaining that there girl is a ‘star fish’ in bed (meaning she just lays there).. and to us ladies it’s obvious that she’s not engaged in having sex with him because she’s not cumming from it.

  • The female orgasm is just as important as the male orgasm. Why it wouldn't be? Most women don't orgasm from penetration alone so oral and any other clitoral stimulation is best if you want to be sure a girl orgasms. And yes, how well you give oral makes a difference.

    • Well I just learned something today, thank you

    • No problem.

  • Yes of course it is hahaha

    • Does everyone have to orgasm every time from sex?

  • Honey the vast majority of women can't cum from penetration and if you're not going to bother trying to make her cum and feel good she isn't going to want to come back. Oh and remember porn is fake, they're actors following a script not how sex actually goes down.

    • I feel stupid, I keep forgetting porn is fake. I mean I know the sex is real, but it's still all acting. Maybe it's easy to fall for cuz I'm still a virgin?

    • It's all you've been exposed to it's perfectly understandable, as long as you remember it's fake, whenever you do have sex (basing this off your age alone) she probably won't be a virgin so just listen to her and let her teach you.

    • Great sound advice, thank you

  • I’m a virgin

    • Small world, so am I

  • Its just as important as the male orgasm. Did you think before males are the ones who were more important to orgasm? I dont know if she was in a better mood or looked happier, but that is just one example and does not mean all girls behave like this. Personally I prefer orgasm through intercourse, not oral. But oral is nice too.

    • Like I said, I never gave it much thought before til now. Not that I thought male orgasms were more important but, I don't know, maybe I'm just starting to notice these things. There's still so much I have yet to learn about sex, even though I tend to think I already know enough, yet I keep learning something new every now and then.

  • I wish I could answer this question but I can't because I'm also a virgin 😞

    • Small world

    • True

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