Will guys ever understand foreplay?

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This drives me crazy beacuse I have been with so many men in my life from ages 20-47 and they all seem to have this issue. Men are either selfish in bed or they just dont need it or they are lazy... but
My boyfriend was fine in the very beginning.. sort of. But he never seems to engage in roleplay and its similar to other guys I have dated and or been with. Its now getting to the point where it hurts to have sex.. like he will use lube rather than touching me to turn me on. Im young... so to get me going takes like 1 min lol. What should I do to make him understand I need forplay? And guys, what is your opinion on that topic of foreplay.

Massageman · Accepted Answer

Only the most patient of guys will.

Let HER steer your hands, and, slooooooow doooooown.

As a Massage Therapist, whenever I am doing an erotic massage, I know that I will have to be down there for the long haul, framing her back butt, inside legs, and "the area" with delicate touches, closing in ever-so-slowly, staying out of the vagina until the clitoris has done her job, starting with little peaks and valleys, verrrrry gradually upping the peaks and valleys, until she is aroused enough to finish her off. And guys- if she pushes your hand away, holds it for a few seconds, or moves it to a new place, or whatever- take a hint and LET. HER. DO. IT! You will be greatly rewarded for your patience. It's her body: she knows how it feels: she knows what will give HER the most pleasure.

As we said, let HER steer your hands - - - -

Class dismissed. Now, go and do your homework! Again and again- until you get the answer right!

thruholewizard · Accepted Answer

Wow ! you sound hot!
OK it is like this for a guy--- touching/kissing IS FOREPLAY ! We get turned on so easy! And you girls know it! SO --- if you want to role play... start out that way also rape your man ! Take charge and attack when he is not thinking of it! Just keep undressing him , slide your hand down his pants , tell him you are going to rape him --- watch him squirm.
If you lay back and wait for him to pleasure you ----- that is why he is bored. No wonder he would rather watch tv

ZiZi_Bell · Accepted Answer

I've found it really depends on the guy.
There are guys who almost prefer foreplay to actual sex. I've been with a guy where I literally had to tell him to stop licking my pussy and start fucking me.

But on average most guys just care about getting themselves off. I had a dude once who came in like, five minutes. He just rolled over and didn't do anything. I mentioned I didn't cum and he was like "Oh damn sorry" then reached over and handed me my own vibrator. Like, what the fuck dude?

Point is, find a guy who almost has a kink for foreplay.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend does foreplay for hours and he’s 27 but we’ve been together since he was 21. He does it himself and he’s really good at it too. If he doesn’t do it himself then you should just start snogging him, make him touch you wherever you want, sit on his lap and make him suck your boobs, he should get the hang of it and he will probably enjoy it. Then start sucking his dick and then you can slip it in whenever you’re ready.

MORPHEUS_12 · Answer

My husband has always gone from clit to vagina in 2.2 seconds. Maybe men need a training class and not be so dependent on porn for their education.

AustinMan · Answer

I'm happy to tell you that there are those of us that love foreplay and always engage in a LOT of it. I'm pretty kinky and foreplay is where a lot of the kinks get satisfied..

What's your favorite role play scenario?

purplepoppy · Answer

Mens logic is I'm hard so she must be wet

Shampan · Answer

Okay that is just messed up 😡 If you made it clear to him and he still keeps doing that then tell him goodbye because he is not respecting you !

Cherokeehp · Answer

I have this idea, and it’s so crazy it just might work. You could maybe just tell him what you want.

Tamera952 · Answer

You just gotta spell it out, directly, and to the point. Don't beat around the bush. Men are selfish when it comes to the penis.

LiamSawyer · Answer

I love foreplay, the more the better. Besides a lot of kissing, caressing and touching I like to include giving oral in foreplay and after giving her a couple of orgasms orally then it's time to slowly slide in and try to give her highly aroused clit another orgasm.

Amraam · Answer

I keep my foreplays especially long. Sometimes hours long. I want to make sure that she is more than ready, she wants me desperately. I know the wetter and readier she is the more fun she will have. I agree with you that most of the men just want to stick their dick in and be done with it. Men should learn more about making girls happy

MiamiMadness · Answer

Find more Cuban guys?

winterfox10 · Answer

Plenty of guys understand foreplay. It's just generally not as exciting or interesting for us as it is for girls.

magiusX26 · Answer

sorry you have only had guys bad at foreplay. foreplay is often about as fun as the sex its self

Abel9855 · Answer

Like just tell him?  Something some of my friends did was to stop the man from penetrating them if they did not do foreplay. When the get rejected they usually understand the issue

aadii_shama · Answer

In my case i love foreplay.. and i did and i will do i just love 69 position but some girls didn't like but it's great feeling. And According to me 20to 30 kin foreplay then you. Can do sex... And compare the difference between foreplay sex or without foreplay sex...

SirBearon · Answer

You have to make it clear to us. We are selfish and don't need lubes to get off. Womens orgasm take a long time to manifest. Truth is men are selfish and it's embedded in our DNA to just take. So we need to be instructed on how to pleasure a woman.

Trooper205 · Answer

This is a thing about Us Men... We don't require it... It's awful, since Girls and Guys are on a different Rhythm. Girls need it to get going! We're already there. A Gentleman will get Foreplay going! What Men need to understand is that Foreplay will GREATLY enhance Sex! The Desire! The Excitement! The Pleasure of Turning on our Girls! We're missing out!

Twalli · Answer

I love foreplay. Sometimes my girlfriend asks the we stop. so we can just have sex.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Hire my services and experience yourself the difference 😜

GreenGold1992 · Answer

Still a virgin here, but I hear foreplay is very important.

In_Trance · Answer

Some guys do; for sure

REDHOTLINE · Answer

I like foreplay your man choses are wrong

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