Yesterday I lost my virginity and today I’ve been feeling a little sad I don’t know why?

[Angelemonett_]

Last night I cried a single tear because I thought that my boyfriend was losing interest in me after having sex with me but really he just fell asleep at almost 3am. And then today I’ve just been in my room all day I went out for a short walk though and I’ve just been feeling a little sad I also cried one tear today as well, and I feel a bit anxious, and I might be feeling a bit empty I’m not sure. I also feel like a lack of energy today. Before losing my virginity I have been wanting to have sex for a really long time and this is the greatest guy that I’ve ever met and I just love him so much so I felt like I was ready to do it with him. He makes me really happy and he is always talking about how he wants to grow old together and even promised to marry me I’ve never had hope in a relationship before. I feel like after having sex with me his texts are getting a little shorter but I could be overthinking because I overthink a lot.

[Poppykate]

Maybe you are feeling like you might have rush things? Did you feel like he was losing interest in you before you had sex? If not, you are ok. Guys generally relax into a relationship after sex. (probably because they feel more secure in the relationship)

Take a deep breath. Use this as a learning experience. Take your time next time. Really build up a connection. Next time you see him, tell him how you are feeling. Maybe ask him how he is feeling/ was feeling afterwards.

[Angelemonett_]

We have a great connection I love him so much he is like a best friend and a boyfriend all in one. We even talk about how we want to grow old together all the time. But now I just feel sad for no reason after losing my virginity and I don’t understand why

[Angelemonett_]

When I lost my virginity it was bloody, painful, and at end it felt good but he came early but I was happy when we finished because I got to be in his arms again. And I told him I’m glad that you were my first and he told me how honored he was. Now a day after I feel doubtful about his feelings for me and randomly sad

[Poppykate]

Why are you having doubts about his feelings for you? Did he do anything that makes you think that his feelings have changed... or are you just overthinking this? I think if you were to look back on his behaviour, you will find that it’s just like normal. When a woman has sex, she experiences a range of emotions. Happiness, love, joy, excitement, but also vulnerability and perhaps sadness. It is normal. Don’t be afraid to share these feelings with your partner.

[Flower7]

It seems like you probably built up sex in your mind to a huge, amazing thing, but now that it's actually happened, it wasn't as special as you'd expected it to be. The anticipation was more exciting than reality.

[Angelemonett_]

I just feel a bit sad and I can’t explain why

[hellionthesagereborn]

Its you. You are creating the narrative in your mind and now you are looking for things to justify those feelings. A guy isn't going to be totally into you and then leave you after having sex. Unless all they wanted was sex in which case he wouldn't put that much effort into a relationship with you, wouldn't text you afterwards nor would he wait until you were ready to have sex. Your overthinking it.

[chriscdi]

at least you still have your lover, my girl broke up with me yesterday, i think you are overthinking, he is still there, he might just be busy lately

[Angelemonett_]

I’m so sorry

[chriscdi]

nothing we can really do, ill just have to move on, go where the train takes me, you know? 🙂

[Angelemonett_]

Why did you break up?

[chriscdi]

well i got sorta paranoid and well instead of hiding it i just told her, cause I've talked to her on the phone and stuff, she was planning on moving here and well lets just say that some things seem fishy and i called her out on it, she called me crazy and all that and the day after she broke up with me, what can i say, i guess some people werent meant to love 🙂

[Angelemonett_]

Wow after only one argument that’s crazy

[Angelemonett_]

You’re right she probably wasn’t meant to find love

[chriscdi]

funny thing is that I've hid my emotions from here before and she complained on why i never tell her anything and why i always hide it and hide it from her like she can't handle it, the time i actually tried to tell her what im feeling she dipped ha 🙃

[chriscdi]

I've been there emotionally supporting her through everything, sexual assaults, nightmares, i have even gave up my sleep to stay up with her when she couldnt sleep, made sure she slept before i did, i guess its what i get for simping lol

[chriscdi]

she said she loved me and all that, i dont think she ever loved me, she was just using me for support i guess, i actually loved her tho, i guess ill just have to live through the pain and wait for it to get numb and then move on, your relationship seems to be going well, dont overthink, dont stress about anything until it happens, live the moment as they say 😆

[Angelemonett_]

You deserved better king 👑

[chriscdi]

thanks i appreciate that but what can i say, life isn't always fair and every story must come to an end, some ending are bad and others are good, ima let you go now, remember to try and reason before overthinking, he might just be busy the past few days, it happens

[Angelemonett_]

Everything is okay I just randomly feel sad

[chriscdi]

well im sure your relationship is fine and find something to do to distract yourself while your boyfriend handles his business and stuff

[Robertinho]

You just said it yourself you overthink a lot. Give him time and keep your head up.

[yucychan]

The sex is that bad, huh?

[Shah11]

When dick enter into pussy,
Love fly away from butt hole.

[Iron_Man]

Is guilt of losing your virginity

[aadii_shama]

That is only overthink. Stop overthinking if you want to be happy

[COMMODOREII]

You are swimming through a lot of emotions right now. Try talking to him and see if you can spend more time with him like cuddling. Im sure you just need reassurance. I hope you feel better. *hugs*

[Twalli]

You're probably overthinking it.

[Guanfei]

Unlike what many people say nowadays, the first time is still special. And you only have it once. Now that it's done, you've lost every feeling you could experience for something you're waiting for, the anxiety, the expectations, the thrill.
But now it starts, you've made the first step, and you have a lot to discover. And your boyfriend will accompany you in that new adventure.

[asshole_]

You have a boyfriend, but you only just lost your virignity

You did that all wrong!

[Oric5]

This is what happens when women are left without direction. The wheels completely fall off.

[yaseminleylaoğlu]

It is a big thing that u lost ur virginity its normal that you overthink a lot but if it is really bothering you try talking about it to him and if he acts weird or uncomfortable again then you should probably think about the relationship

[InkRat]

Men usually gets sleepy after sex, add nervosnes and he probably was exhausted by the end of it. Dont think to much of it.

[Anonymous]

i assume he had to hit on you first.