That statement she made is certainly concerning. The months part doesn't bother me (assuming she's talking about just a few months and not a lot) because I think there's actually value in waiting until the emotional part of the relationship is pretty well established before starting sex. So I think 2-3 months and 5-6 dates is not unreasonable and doesn't mean there will be problems with sex long term. Also, a lot of women have been hurt by guys that have sex with them on the first or second date and maybe a few more times and then disappear, so wanting to wait until she's sure a guy is actually looking for a relationship and not just sex isn't surprising to me and seems reasonable.
The part about treating her "like a queen" and "earning" sex concerns me though. Of course the guy should treat her well, but to me "like a queen" might mean she has unrealistic expectations which will be hard to meet. And if she's going to use sex as a reward for doing what she wants, that's concerning. Sex shouldn't be used as a reward (or lack of sex as a punishment). Sex should be a wonderful shared experience between two people that care about and respect each other. If she's going to use it as a reward, it's hard to imagine a happy relationship.
Dude... Before doing that, try and understand her side too.
You want sex. I understand that.
But she wants to wait, coz her past choices may bot have ended in a good way. Maybe some guy just eanted sex and then left her.
That leaves a deep impression in your heart and the pain always lurks there.
So maybe coz of that she must have decided to have a guy, who loves her truly, and sex isn't the main bonding factor.
It's easy to say like "she wants to wait, so I'm gonna leave her".
But it's hard to think again and understand her side and all.
Talk with her. COMMUNICATION is key. Remember that.
And do try to understand and respect her requests too.
If she's a good woman, then what more do you need?
Sex can wait dude !!!
It's hard to find an honest woman in this freaking world. So my suggestion is don't do anything stupid
Nah dude she's a piece of shit. She's dead to me at this point. Completely vindictive and egotistic to the point where I, the most resilient person she'll ever meet, feels sick around her.
Mm... if that's the case, and you're uncomfortable, then it's cool
Sexual compatibility is an important part of a relationship and you guys should have similar views on sex for the relationship to work. It seems like she views sex as a reward or bargaining tool. This is a toxic trait in my opinion. If she was waiting to have sex because of moral/religious reasons or even just because she wanted to wait until she was comfortable, then there would be nothing wrong with that. But from what ur saying, it seems like she is withholding sex as a means to get things out of men. Therefore, I’d say it’s not bad for you to want to break things off with her. I definitely see where ur coming from.
I am sure you are misinterpreting her wordings, she just meant she probably wanna make sure any guy who is emotionally and timely invested in her enough before she is ready for that big step. She probably wants someone who is patient and understanding of that choice to wait (which is MOST girls anyways until we feel comfortable). However, it is your choice and preferences - if you wanna dip, dipped out if it's not your thang lol. So, you won't waste both of yalls time.
I am reminded recently that it is so easy to misunderstand each other on texts > phone calls > in-person interaction
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Egads that woman sounds like a manipulative bitch.
That's not a "queen", that's a goddamn bog witch.
Sex is an act of love and intimacy, not a prize to be won or a reward to earn.
Hell, even for me and my partner, who have a kinky sexual side and enjoy the idea of "trading sexual favours", it's tongue-in-cheek.
Neither of us would ever refuse the other sex because they haven't "earned it", especially if we want it.
That's healthy that you don't want to date this bitch. Good for you, King!
That sounds like a you problem because it’s her body and she doesn’t have to give you sex just because that’s what you want it and if she expects certain things before she gives her self to somebody that’s 100% OK because it’s her body to do so with.
If you don’t like the things she requires than she’s not for you yes absolutely leave her alone because she has her own standards for a man that you aren’t and that’s fine.
^this
As a girl who doesn't like or want sex, I would say yes if it is something you want. It's actually one of the many reasons I do not seek out a relationship; I feel it's unfair to withhold that from someone when for most people, it's a very important part of a relationship.
I think it's one thing to really get comfortable with someone and take things slow before deciding to have sex with them, but both parties have to be on board with that.
No it’s not bad. You have to be sexually compatible. You’ve got to have complimentary sexual desires.
Hey I remember you. You haven't been on in... years? LOL
I didn’t see her saying she doesn’t like sex. Just that she waits. Her wording was weird but she never said “ I don’t like sex”
but yes you can beak up if there incompatibility. You want to go fast she doesn’t.
The problem here is that you feel offended for it, that are her rules (fair or not) you wouldn't mind it if you have real feelings for her.
Are you reading what he wrote? She said she makes guys wait to earn sex. It's not like she has moral values or doesn't like sex. She just like to play games and feel a guy's work that he puts in justifies her giving it up. That's a crazy selfish broad right there. Sex should be natural not predicted off how much someone does for another person.
Yeh, I read it and his comments about it. So for that is my answer, I don't plan to judge him, he is who is. Is his word against someone who we don't know.
I personally think it SHOULD be earned!
It wouldn't be bad if she was just holding on because she wants to make sure she's with the right guy before being ready for and having sex with them. But I think the queen thing could be concerning.
Oh man, she sounds very... Interesting.
I'm gonna quote my favorite movie
"Run. Run away and never return."
😂😂😂
Personally, I wouldn't break up with her because of a lack of sex, I'd break up with her because she has a sexist old fashioned idea about sex and likely struggles with trust issues.
That's ridiculous, you don't 'earn' your right to having sex with someone, you both reach the conclusion that you want it because of how much you like each other. I understand waiting a while if she'd had past traumatic experiences involving sex early in a relationship, but making your S/O your servant until you reward them with sex is toxic.
Exactly
If she uses sex as a commodity or as bargaining power, them she is a whore and you are just haggling about the price. Marry that girl and you'll probably have a miserable marriage.
I don’t mind waiting a bit, and putting in some work. But if a woman isn’t pursuing as well I’m out. We as men should not have to put all of the work in all the time. Sounds like she’s on a power trip. Just another woman that thinks she holds all the power because of what’s between her legs. She’s probably use to men acting like little pissing puppies around her. And takes advantage of that. Don’t be that dude. Personally this is where I’d pull back from her and see what she does. If she doesn’t hit you up you can escape the situation and save face. If she does hit you up be short with her. Make her put in some work. She’ll look at you as being different then most guys. Stop chasing her, texting her good morning, or whatever else you are doing. Trust me. She won’t be able to stand a man that pulls back from her. She has to be the winner. She gets that by making men gruel over her. And most men play right into it.
women actually do hold all the power. If we are not wet, you guys cannot go in. It’s like we are a locked door and it’s a mans job to polish “the key” correctly to get through that door.
No you think you hold all the power. Huge difference. And you might just hold that power over 90% of men. But there’s a solid 10% of us men out there that it just doesn’t work on. The pussy has absolutely no control over some of us. Some of us care more about how you think. How you carry yourself. Your ambitions. Whether you can be apart of the empire we are building. Because at the end of the day. Pussy is just pussy. Last I checked it’s all warm and wet. Doubt that’s going to change any time soon.
It doesn't mean she doesn't like sex. It doesn't even mean that she makes every guy wait.
Often women will make one guy wait months, and they'll have sex quickly with a different guy if he's more attractive. It all depends on the guy. But of course they won't admit to doing the latter, especially not to men. If they did men wouldn't be as easily fooled into playing the dating and waiting game.
This is sad but true
That's a preference. You like what you like and what you both like doesn't match up.
She sounds feminist.
She's useless to you.
Forget her.
Fuck her! RUN !
You are making a smart move dude. What else is she bringing to the table besides her supposed golden pussy? She would be constantly making you jump through hoops and control you holding her slot over you as a reward. Fuck that.
You can easily find another chick who won’t make you bend over backwards to get love AND intimacy from her. Wise decision, my man.
That doesn't mean she doesn't like sex. It means she's serious about having a connection and wants to see if the man will respect her for who she is and not just stick it into her and then leave.
Leave her though. Both of you are clearly toxic.
Yeah I'm toxic for noticing her toxicity 😂 someone's period raging
Nope. I just know a sexist and disrespectful man when I see one.
But you're literally the sexist one?
A month isn't a long time and she waiting with the first time isn't the same thing as she not liking sex. So there must be something unreasonable in that post beyond that.
Sexual compatibility is important for a successful relationship... if a woman won’t have sex with me before marriage then I will probably not bother putting forth the time as I’m a very sexual person and she obviously is not...
Nothing wrong with wanting something and calling it off if you don’t get it. Not like she didn’t try and find 10 qualities about you she liked before investing.
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