Girls, would you ever lose your virginity with the guy you have a crush on, knowing that he's a fuck boy?

[LucyPag]

That's my struggle at the moment,
Some people tell me not to do it, that I will be heartbroken
Others say "fuck it" the most important thing is that you will enjoy it.
See.. me and my crush are friends and most definitely he would have sex with me ( at least I suppose)
He is also known for being a fuckboy ( I mean... who isn't these days)
And I know that if I waited so long I shouldn't really throw it away like that.. but I swear.. the chemistry is too much 😌🔥😬
So.. how should I approach this situation?
Any advice?

[Hannahm67]

Please don't do this. I lost my virginity at 15 to a boy at my sister's wedding and have only ever seen him once since and I felt so awful that I didn't date even for 4 years even though I had a ton of interest. I have since met the love of my life who I have been dating for almost 4 years now and we didn't have sex for the first year and a half of dating and still today I wish I had still been a virgin for him.

There has been a shift in the idea of what sex is over the years so now people are told that it's just a meaningless action that two people do for self-pleasure. But when you have sex with someone you truly love it is like nothing else. It's like you are completed for the first time. Something that would help a lot of people and reduce the number of divorces that happen today is that love is not the same thing as lust.

Lust which is what you are feeling for this person will fade and you will be left with a hole that you will try to fill with more lust and you will go on and never have a true connection with someone. I have seen it in many girls I have known over the years. They hear their friends tell them that they shouldn't be with a guy and the lust only gets stronger from it and they get in their heads that they will be the one to change the guy. But it never happens because people really don't change.

My advice is just to masturbate for the time being and look for a guy who decent looking and who most importantly shares many of your interests who you like spending time with and for connection with and when the time feels right turn it into something more. It's really sad that I see it all the time that a girl has a long time guy friend who would be a great life long match but is not the 10/10 the girl is looking for so she "friend zones" the guy and looks for that 10/10 that shares her interests who doesn't exist so she spends years sleeping around and by the time she feels like she made a mistake and wants something more the guy has moved and has a family and the girl is left alone in her 30's trying to date.

[Embarrassing123]

I’ve been in a Similar situation and I totally regret NOT doing it.
Girl life is too short to overthink. If that is What you feel like doing, then do it! Who wouldn’t love to lose their virginity to their crush with no strings attached? Like at least you already know that it’s just for the sex and that will make you move on so much faster. Honestly just do whatever you feel like. <3

[chriscdi]

im gonna let you make the choice because the virginity is yours, first, its not really promised that you will enjoy it because since you haven't had sex before you might be tight and if its not done right, it might hurt, if he is a fuckboy and only cares about his pleasure then he might ram you not caring about your pleasure, so yea you will have sex with your crush but there's a 50 50% chance you might regret it after so the choice is yours 🤷🏽‍♂️

[ElDiablo666]

You should lose your virginity to a man you love and who loves you.
The first time, you always remember.

Do you want to remember losing your virginity to a guy you love and loved you, or some dickhead?

[DevikaButts95]

Probably not worth it unless he's actually doing things to make it worth your while, like going down on you.

[DrippingHoney]

It all depends how meaningful your virginity is to you. You don't want to have regrets, but if it's no big deal to you then go for it.

[Avicenna]

Lose it with a boyfriend, not some fuckboi.

[LucyPag]

It's so hard to find one.. no one ever really wanted me..

[Avicenna]

I have a hard time believing that, tbh

[LucyPag]

Trust me , if guys ever flirted with me or actually made a move on me I would have lost my V card a long time ago, and not because I'm a slut or anything, but just because I can be easily flattered.

[Avicenna]

I'm flabbergasted. This sort of thing didn't happen when I was your age.

[Abel9855]

Virginity is overrated, just do what you feel like doing and forget about social norms

[COMMODOREII]

Find someone who will not treat you just like another conquest.

[Anonymous]

I would just lose my virginity to my crush; they would have to marry me first. As well if they sleep around a bunch then I wouldn't even date them; I don't need to get an infection or two from them.