Can people control who they find physically attractive?

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Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

No. So many factors fuel attraction: who were the first people in your family that you loved? What did they look like? It builds over the years. Who were your first crushes? In high school? Then college? What films did you watch? What men or women impressed you? This builds up into a portfolio of who and what you find attractive.
As a little girl, I saw Paul Newman in many films that my family took us to. I thought his voice and eyes were gorgeous. His manner. Same for Steve McQueen. Liked Belafonte, especially his singing. Poitier's grace, snap. I LOVE men's rich voices because my dad had that kind of voice. Yet, I liked sinewy guys more because they were the opposite of my dad and likely because that was a "popular" look. So it's your ezperience on myriad fronts. You can no more unravel that, than you can the man in the moon.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

Some people simply set  criteria s as their  guidelines  to determine who are and who aren't attractive.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Everyone has said no... But I believe it can be controlled. Unfortunately, your childhood probably will play a part. Let me explain. I can't say everything I want to say because I don't feel like getting into all that deep stuff. I will simply say you can alter the brain overtime through something like porn. Culture and what's accepted can alter or mold what you are attracted too. Big butts are in but skinny girls use to be the only ones in. In some cultures/communities, unibrows are beautiful. So if you program someone to believe that a certain type of girl is beautiful then they will judge everyone thing off of that standard. I'm sure you can see where this is at play without me saying it.

Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

Not really - there are many biological drivers that are part of your 'lizard-brain'. You don't even realize they're there.

For example, back in the cave-man days a woman chose best suitor to defend her and her offspring against saber-tooth tiger and roaming tribesmen.
Today she still likes tall muscular men. She wants to be protected, and feel secure.

Guys are drawn to wide hips and large breasts - they demonstrate her ability to bear and raise children, so those features attract his lizard brain.

MrOracle · Answer

I think you can mentally adjust things to some degree, but I also think there's a limit, for most people anyway, as to how much you can change from wherever you started.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Not in any meaningful sense. It's a pity; we'd all be a lot better off if we could. Do you think anyone  wants  to be a pedophile?

MCheetah · Answer

For some aspects, yes. Someone can LOOK attractive, but it doesn't make them an attractive person overall.

Regmorus · Answer

You can't increase how much attractive you find someone, but you can lower it. That works for sure.

normalice · Answer

To a point. A guy can just not masturbate until whoever is availible (no matter how unattractive) starts to look better than nothing. And girls can distract themselves with the hopes for status or attention. In either case having orgasms around someone makes it easier to overlook their flaws and eventually perhaps physical attraction may not be achieved, but a lack of repulsion can be easily.

MrTuxedo · Answer

I don’t think so.

slatyb · Answer

No, but over time we tend to become more open.

TadCurious · Answer

It depends on the individual person. Some people they find attractive will be more susceptible to being controlled than others. But being controlling of others is generally not a healthy or positive thing.

Amraam · Answer

i dont think so but the body types and body part that i find especially attractive changes depending on my mood

jestergent · Answer

Attraction is controlled and changed by your past experiences. It's an illusion that you control, but the controller is the winner anyway. I wouldn't fight it.

I met a Latina, went out with her for a year.
Now, Latina is a 10 out of 10. It happens. Blonde hair drops the points by a few,.
Latina did good job changing what turns me on. Very good job.
She showed me.

Anpu23 · Answer

No, but you can choose how you act on that attraction.

NewZion · Answer

You can train yourself to hate someone. Just got to create hateful scenarios in your head.

hellish-kitty · Answer

Nope.

here2helpuALL · Answer

I will say that the basics of attractiveness usually comes down to symmetry. After that it's up to body type preference

Nalix · Answer

There is certainly some wiggle room here. Somethings are just simply a turn off. Other things a turn on. But a lot of things that don't really do either can be either from the right perspective, which depends on you.

AmeerX · Answer

Not really it is based on hormonal response

JimboGB · Answer

No, but you can guard your resposes to that attraction.

newlysingle4high · Answer

Hell no.. my ex finally admitted to finding black guys sexy after I got her knowing that I was turned on by her with a black cock and after that she was onto it and she was always in to big dick but now she was really starting to be a little slut and wanted a huge black guy to do it not only cause I liked it.. she's super ashamed of her past and her sex publicly but I know that she is turned on by huge cock from who ever when she is high and is no fun with me anymore