Is this sexual assault?

[Anonymous]

I was hanging with my friend and he asked to motor boated my boobs and I let him cause it’s funny and he has done it before... then he asked to suck them and I said no but he just pulled my shirt down and started sucking them. after he was done sucking them he gets up and pulls his dick out and puts his hand on my head and moves it closer to his dick... and I told him I couldn’t suck him and he just laughs is this sexual assault? and should I stop being friends with him?

[Zeus_66]

Tough one here. Can't answer for sure if this is assault or not. You allowed for a certain level of play. You did however say "no" to follow on play. But... Did you say no again? What were his thoughts? When he went further, it seems that you clearly stated you didn't want to do more. You allude to him stopping. It is true that "No means no." But you welcomed a second advance. So it is tough to say for sure that you were assaulted based on what you've provided.

What I can say is this. Both his and your behavior welcomed potential issues. Glad it didn't go any further and he seemed to understand that. My advice is that you always protect yourself and be careful not to welcome advances you don't want. Please believe me when I say that I'm not condoning his behavior. What I am saying is I wouldn't want to see something bad happen to you. A girl has gotta keep her guard up, unfortunately. So please take care of yourself always and be safe.

[Thatsamazing]

Wow an actual decent answer, rather than what all the other fucking morons answering this post are going with. Well-said.

[Zeus_66]

Appreciate it.

[mmv99]

What the hell... Of course it's assault.

God damn! You are a few drinks away from getting rapped there. Don't think it doesn't happen.

Stay away from guys like that. I love tits and I would love to motorboat all kinds of women... all men have urges but I respect women and people in general. I have basic self control and an understanding of how we live in this society.

That dude has problems and needs to be thought a lesson.

Any further misbehavior from this prick and you have to call the cops.

[AvaW359]

Maybe you shouldn't have a guy's head between your boobs cause some might think that is a yes to the whole thing. Was there nobody else around? Did you try to... whack him over the head along with the No? But if you ask if you should stop being friends with him , nope! No assault!

[Asker]

his sister was around but she was in the restroom and no I didn’t, I said no very sternly though

[potatoiswhoiam]

Yes, you said yes to a particular request, after which you said no to the things that followed but he still did what he wanted. You should have stopped him as soon as you got uncomfortable, but even if you stopped him a bit later, I'd say it's still sexual assault.

[Daniela1982]

Sounds to me like you were enjoying it too and participating on your own free will. You never told him no until he got to the BJ part. I'm not sure if you are bragging how far you went or complaining that you didn't go further, or just trolling. I'll take trolling for 50 Alex!.

[sensible27]

Alex? Huh wot maybe?

[888theGreat]

I wonder who invented motor boating?

[Daniela1982]

@888theGreat Really? A plus 1 year old question?

[888theGreat]

I knew you were going to say that. Let me find a 3 year old question. Anyway It is the thought that counts.

[purplepoppy]

You made no attempt to escape or physically stop him. A feeble no is merely flirting. It's crap like this that clogs up courts, stops real attackers facing justice, stops real victims being taken seriously and turns men into women haters.

[anonymau55]

If she said no and he continues it's sexual assault whether she fights back or not. Look up "Fight, flight, or freeze" it's a totally normal reaction to do nothing in a state of shock.

[anonymau55]

I seriously hope you're joking again tho lol pretty sure you're a straight troll account hahah

[purplepoppy]

If a guy sexually assaults you, you don't remain friends with him. You'd be laughed out of court if you said that.

[Danny_dan92]

Fucken thank you

[Danny_dan92]

I’m sorry @anonymau55 But @purplepoppy is 100% here. The victim made NO physical attempt to stop him. Let’s look at the facts 1. She allowed him to put his face in her breasts. (Given that she does not want to conduct sexual acts with this man. That is classified as sexual assault) so she always lost the battle there. 2. She was LAUGHING with him while he was smothering his slobber all over her breasts. (In the court of law, a behavior like that DOES NOT warrant the idea that his advances where not accepted by this woman) 3. She did not try to physically separate herself from the man when he forced himself onto her, she specified that she sat there and let him suck her tits and then ALLOWED HIM to pull his pants down and whip his dick out. I have known several woman that where unfortunately raped. And one thing they all had in common was that when I asked them if they tried to fight back and escape? They all said they tried to do so. This woman did not try to push him away with a combination of telling him to stop. She just laughed away and allowed him to do what he wanted

[anonymau55]

@Danny_dan92 you know nothing about psychology if you honestly believe that. You've never heard of nervous laughter? Did you bother looking up fight, flight or freeze? You're uneducated here.

[Danny_dan92]

Fight or flight? Well allowing him to motorboat her is what exactly? Cause that’s definitely not fight or flight. Fight would mean she physically tried pushing him away. (Which she didn’t do) Flight would mean she would have tried to leave the room. (Which she didn’t do)

[purplepoppy]

Women who are attacked are traumatized and cry buckets. They don't relive it on sites like this

[Asker]

I didn’t know he pulled his dick out that’s why he turned my head and pulled it closer to his dick...

[Danny_dan92]

Ok, what did you do after he did this?

[anonymau55]

I said fight flight or freeze dumbass. I'm sure Vanessa Guillen was lying too.

[Asker]

I’m not traumatized nor do I feel attacked I just need help and I don’t know if this problem is big enough to go to the police with that’s why iam here

[Asker]

and I moved my head back and said I’m not sucking him

[Danny_dan92]

Vanessa Guillen was ONE case. It is sad what happened to her. It truly is but just cause some fucked up shit happens to one girl. Doesn’t mean it happens to every single woman in the military. In FACT. You stupid bitch, women in the military get treated like royalty. Because 80% of the military is comprised of males. So naturally, they put them on pedestals. Women in the military not only rank up faster but they get billets. And I can say that, for I have WITNESSED it first hand. For I! Am in the military, you are just pulling half baked fabricated shit based on one poor woman’s tragedy

[Danny_dan92]

Look, if you feel violated and emotional drained from what this shit bag did to you? You gotta go to the cops. You might not have had the courage to stand up to him to stop him. But for the sake of any poor girl that could deal with a similar situation in the future? You gotta say something to the authorities. Sucks to be him cause his life would be forever scared. But he mad a grave mistake. A man should NEVER force himself onto a girl after she said no

[purplepoppy]

Real victims don't move their head back and politely tell him they're not sucking. They tell him to fuck off and run for the door

[Danny_dan92]

That would have been the proper way to handle the situation

[anonymau55]

@purplepoppy obviously never experienced sexual assault or talked to anyone who ever has.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

The girl didn't stop it. She just said yes and then no and allowed it as she didn't back away, she didn't even say "I said no" the guy is a creep because he kept on going. He saw she's just allowing it but when she backed away from sucking his dick that to him meant an actual refusal.

[Asker]

@purplepoppy well not everybody reacts the same way... and I didn’t tell him politely, I said I wasn’t sucking him in a very stern tone and same when he ask to suck my nipples I said it in a very stern tone and he is very tall so I was scared shitless

[Danny_dan92]

See I can understand why you felt too intimidated now. That is usually what puts women in a very vulnerable state when being sexually assaulted. Cause they somewhat fear for their life because they are being assaulted by a bigger and obviously stronger person. However, even though I am assuring you that yes. Sadly you where sexually assaulted. My other point is that this could have been prevented if you did not allow him to put his face in your boobs. Boobs are meant to be covered up for a reason. Cause they are deemed a private part of the female anatomy. So once he saw that you where ok with him putting his face in your boobs. He thought you where ok with him being sexual with you. If you did not allow him to motorboat you in the first place. He wouldn’t have had the balls to do everything else he did to you. But if that was the case, and he still did shit. Then at that point he is still in the wrong 100% but then you would have no blame at all whatsoever.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

@anonymau55 i think you need to understand what kind of thing should involve the cops and what shouldn't. This clearly shouldn't, her having a top that has her boobs nearly hanging out infront of a guy friend alone? he's misunderstood her 'no' by her actions of not resisting or backing away. girls aggressively withdraw if they dont like something. I've without thinking said no to something just because i was asked (it's a cultural habit) but if a girl ignored my 'no' i'd not resist unless until i didn't like it. He mustve just thought she's shy. by the way girls in my past were angry at me for not being bold and pushing their boundaries. Her aggressively withdrawing from being pushed to his dick and saying no was when it ended he knew then. Dont encourage this to be reported, thats absurd. she's asking if she should still be friends thats all. And as he's violated her friendship with his sexual curiosity, she should end it unless she wants more. I've got a feeling she will want more because she's asking GAG, you know the part where people do the opposite of what you say and as she now knows he's sexual lol contrary to your belief girls LOVE this kind of guy because he went further with her than any other guy.

[anonymau55]

@ChocoBrownieMonster I didn't say she should go to the cops. Even if she did, no matter what the situation, they wouldn't do anything. I know from personal experience.

[purplepoppy]

No, definitely go to the cops and tell them exactly what happened. Under go their integration telling them exactly what both of you did and let them decide which one of you to charge.

[Danny_dan92]

@purplepoppy agreed.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

😂😂😂 because i said the girl will do the opposite of what you say

[Lliam]

If you said no to him and he did it anyway, that's sexual assault. I'd stay away from him.

[Thatsamazing]

No. It isn't. It's improper and he shouldn't be doing it and it means she should no longer be around him, if it is something she is that concerned about. It is not sexual assault, either legally or ethically.

[cheapshotbob]

yes you should guys like that have assaulted other women.

[alc24]

Seems like it. Him sucking your boobs was non-consensual considering you said no when he asked. Then he decided to whip his dick out, definitely not ok.

[anonymau55]

Yes girl that's sexual assault.

[anonymau55]

And these men are wrong; it's not your fault, you did nothing to egg it on or cause it. Any decent man, like curiousdude, will know that you have the right to say no when you please; you don't owe anyone anything just because you were already fooling around. You were uncomfortable and he should have respected that.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for understanding

[anonymau55]

If you ever want to talk about it I'm here. I've had a lot of experience with guys like this.

[Tamera952]

Don't think it's sexual assault, but inappropriate yes. Don't know the context or your history, but maybe you should discuss it with him

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

I think he was wrong after you said no, he just carried on because you said yes the first time but when you said no you didn't back away. You only backed away when he whipped his dick out and tried to get you to suck it. This guy is the kind that will not stop sex when she says no and she's in pain or not feeling it anymore.
Youve been disrespected so yeah you should unfriend, he'll learn what he did was crossing the line. If you stick around he'll think you can be taken of advantage of.
But learn to be expressive, back away and leave. Be mad at him. You haven't expressed your emotions so dont know how you actually feel. You seem confused.

[Amraam]

It is. This is disgusting. You should stay away from him, no matter how jokingly he claims to be doing it its against your consent and involves violation of your privates

[Thatsamazing]

No. It isn't. It's improper and he shouldn't be doing it and it means she should no longer be around him, if it is something she is that concerned about. It is not sexual assault, either legally or ethically.

[Amraam]

Do you even know the definition if sexual assault? When i look at your reply i see a potential sex offender

[Thatsamazing]

Yes, I do, and if that's the case, then you're an idiot.

[sensible27]

Wot? Trolling?

[Walt832]

Is sexual assault but just stay away from him.


I personally did motor boated my friend. It was my bday with a shot of tequila between her boobs. That was pretty much it. After that we never asked. I respect her so much.

Your dumb friend he went to far. Let him go.

[Agape93]

Uh no shit

[Neko911]

This sounds so fake

[NewZion]

Maybe. Are you going to do anything about it though? Consult a lawyer if you're actually serious.

[Asker]

ok and I don’t think I can do much about it so I thinking I m just going to stop talking to him

[Danny_dan92]

First of all, you’re kinda dumb for allowing this kind of behavior with a guy you label a “friend”


Second of all, yeah. He clearly wanted to fuck you.


This is another prime example as to why women don’t understand that it is impossible to have a normal friendship with a heterosexual male

[anonymau55]

Wtf yes they can? Lol I have lots of male friends that always have and always will be friends you're fucking stupid, you probably pull this kinda shit all the time.

[Thatsamazing]

@anonymau55 If you are even somewhat decently attractive, no you don't-- you just think you do.

[hellish-kitty]

Yes, it is. Get far away from him.

[Massageman]

Technically, "assault" is the THREAT of harm, such as him saying he would beat you.
When he actually touches you and beats you, or sucks you, or steers your head around, then THAT is considered BATTERY.
To review - ASSAULT is a THREAT of harm. BATTERY is the TOUCHING and DOING of the actual harm!Some municipalities have changed their statutes to use the terms interchangeably when referring to certain crimes, but not all of them.

That said - you might want to consider getting a new friend!

[maadison]

Did you suck it?

[Asker]

no I didn’t suck it like I already said, and why do you think this is funny? it’s not... and I m not trolling shit so just stop shit like this happens in real life

[Asker]

uhm I allowed him to motorboat me because it’s not really sexual and I thought it was kind of a joke cause he would laugh while doing it and I would too so I thought it wasn’t a big deal

[Asker]

Even if i did know that doesn’t mean he should feel entitled to pull his dick out in front of my face

[Asker]

I asked for it? I didn’t ask for anything if it did not come straight from my mouth and directly to him so your just saying what he did was acceptable cause I let him motorboat my boobs... uhm ok

[Asker]

well I was kind of distracted cause we were both playing call of duty so I was really into the video game... and yes I could have done more but I did not react like I did now cause I was distracted. But I said no and that just should have been the ending point to this I don’t understand why your trying to make it seem like this happened because I let him motorboat my boobs and I “lead” him on see he has did it before and you have to look at it from my point of view I did not think it was sexual because he has done it before and he just laughed and that was it so I didn’t think he would try to do more but I know now not to let no male who I m not sexually involved with to do those things to me

[Thatsamazing]

Um... no. It's not. Fucking hell people are idiots.

[AmeerX]

I don't know the way you described seems to give a grey area