I like my best friend sexually, what do I do?

[ghhcyfg]

So there's this girl who we've been good pals at work, but over quarantine we've become really good friends, she's definetly one of my best friend. I asked her out about a month ago and she said yes, but then changed her mind, to which I kinda agreed as I also felt that if we were together a bunch of things would change like we'd have to be more sweety sweety and less the chill that we have right now which I didn't want and I assume she didn't either. I really want to keep our good friendship, but I also think she's really hot, we're also both really innocent in a way which makes me really wanna get sexually intimate with her, and the comfort that she's one of my best friends also adds to that. What should I do, if anything, to get a friends with benefits going per say?

[SueShe]

You keep your hands off her and your penis away from her.

Your fantasy is the best way to ruin this friendship. If your friendship is sincere, the worst you can do is to ruin it with intimacy.

You will lose a good friend, possibly your best friend as you mentioned it and make a toxic relation out of this friendship on the long run. The reason is that you see her more of an object to relieve your excess testosterone. You don't handle a friends with benefits the same way as you handle a real friend.

You might deny it but after your had your physical fun, the relation is never going to be the same. Guaranteed.

Is it really worth ruining a nice friendship just because you cannot control your testosterone? Of course not. Think about it. A good friendship takes years to develop and grow and minutes to destroy with physical intimacy.

[teamvic]

What you need to do. Is not ask her out on a date, but ask her to hang out, just chill you know

And then that's when you try to make a move. Obviously you're not gonna wanna do it as soon as she walks in the door but like when y'all watching a movie or some shit. Like one of those in the moment type things. If she pulls away just say sorry and then never try again

[limitedstuff]

Ask again. If it doesn't work out then try as benefits

[ghhcyfg]

Well tbh I just wanna be as benefits, cuz I can't see her as being my girlfriend, just cuz I want our dynamic to stay what it is

[limitedstuff]

Being in a relationship does not change that. It just means you'll be committed. If you want only sex then that's fine but don't be sad and depressed if she finds a new friends with benefits or a boyfriend

[ghhcyfg]

Well I guess that's true, and if she found a boyfriend thinking about it it'd probably ruin our friendship a bit just cuz we hang out alone and go on trips to places a lot which few boyfriends will be chill with. I guess the other thing they bothers me is my ex is from the same workplace, and even tho it's a part time high school job they I'm leaving soon anyways I just find it weird to date 2 girls from there

[ghhcyfg]

*that

[limitedstuff]

You have to look at different perspective. If your ex got a boyfriend in the same place maybe you wouldn't like it but she is moving on. Don't let small things give you what if scenarios

[ghhcyfg]

Haha tbh I wouldn't care too much, but I was also the one who ended the relationship, I definitely think my ex took it harder, we don't talk anymore, and I don't like how awkward it feels when she's around

[LiyaArgent]

you want her to become sexfriend not girlfriend?

[ghhcyfg]

To be honest I don't know, I want is to keep the dynamics we have. But I also want to be more physically intimate with her. The problem is is that I've already dated one co-worker and I feel like dating another would be off

[LiyaArgent]

sexfriend is a friend relationship with lots of trust. A relation allowing you to talk freely without risking judgement, without risking hurting feelings, no jealous behavior. So if you think you both have what it takes to go there, you just need to ask straight forward, explaining what this mean for you.

[ghhcyfg]

Honestly I guess that's what I'm looking for, how do I explain it, like right now we never really talk about it, we have gone swimming together and she wears a bikini then ask I was thinking that'd be the time to comment on how good she looks and move into that, but even that feels a bit hard. We're both still virgins so I'm just worried I'll give an off vibr

[LiyaArgent]

pm me

[MiamiMadness]

This probably won’t end well my son.

[In_Trance]

Men n women can't be friends

[billluc69]

tell her how u feel