At what age is it bad for men to be virgins?

[Anonymous]

Currently 24 and in the military, never had a girlfriend just have been really driven to succeed in work. Is it pathetic to be on at this age.

[jkm1864]

I lost it at around 21 but honestly its quite common for men to be completely invisible to women until they are around 30. The reason is women are only attracted to a small percentage of men which sucks big time but when mother nature says its time to have a kid then suddenly they wake the fuck up and start seeing all those invisible guys whom are now invisible. If Your in that group then You need to focus on a career and be prepared to support a family because if You are that's when You will get Your chance. If You really need to get rid of the anxiety then just hire a hooker and get it over with and just get one every now and then when You need it.

[Celtero]

I'm right there with you man and it legitimately doesn't matter. You could tell people you had sex with 20 different women while stationed someplace and they'd be none the wiser. You could buy an escort tomorrow and you wouldn't be a virgin anymore and nothing would be different.

Military relationships don't usually work out so it's probably for the best.

The only part that gets to me is the fantasy that there's some girl out there who has waited like I have and we'll lose it together in some romantic fashion... but the reality is I'm probably going to get bored one weekend, download tindr and meet up with some random floozy.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with that. I prefer guys who want to succeed than guys who just want to sleep around. Beside it’s just sex, when you start having it you start. It’s not a competition to lose virginity.


No pressure!

[DannyFanny]

Not at all, you're building an awesome life for yourself to be so focused. When you feel comfortable go out and look and you'll see

[MissDawn7961]

be a virgin until you are on your honeymoon with your opposite sex spouse ! thanks

[modelUN242]

Probably after 30, like what have you been doing with your life? What have you been doing when you were 20-30 years old?

[Asker]

Trying to find work and succeed in life. Recovering from weight problems and anxiety. Only now at 24 do I feel ready but I feel too late

[modelUN242]

Oh okay, I understand, You have lots of time, don't worry. Weight loss can warp your mind because you've been on both sides, I know how that feels. I've never had a relationship either but I'm planning to save myself until marriage.

[Asker]

I do like the idea of saving myself but I want to find someone I can bond with as I'm not really into hook ups

[jkm1864]

At 24 I started My career in the offshore oilfield so no Your not to old. You do need to understand a simple concept that I learned with age that money isn't important for happiness. Money is a tool that can help You achieve happiness. Happiness is built by finding that special love, having children, and building a home together. Chasing after material possessions doesn't build happiness and if anything its counter productive because it's time invested with family that makes us happy and money and work should be balanced around giving Yourself the optimum amount of time with Your family. Never take out loans because loans double or triple the cost of the item You purchased and since Money<Time then that means less time with Your loved ones. You might not realize it now but when Your in Your 40's and went through a divorce You will realize chasing money wasn't worth it because time is more valuable than money and that time should be spent with family.

[jkm1864]

Trust Me the best thing You can do is learn a trade and learn to live a simple life and like I said balance Your career around the maximum time You can spend with Your family. All that new shiny shit eventually get old and You realize that shit wasn't needed and the money or time would have been better spent having a bonfire party with family and friends. Also its those moments You remember as You get older not that stupid piece of Chinese crap that You spent a shit load of money on 20 years ago.

[modelUN242]

@jkm1864 Great advice!

[jkm1864]

Look I have an extreme case. I have been working in the offshore oil industry for close to 24 years. When You go offshore You stay out there for months and You don't get the option to sleep in Your own bed so You are LITTERALY trading Your time/life for a decent paycheck. I generally worked 9 months out of the year and that's a lot of time. So I sacrificed My time with My family just so My family could live an upper middle class life style and to have new things. When I lost My family I saw 17 years of My life literally flushed down the toilet and I realized money doesn't bring happiness and its Your family and home that bring You happiness. So I advise people any chance I can get that building a career is not more important than building the relationship with Your family. The thing that's messed up is men have that drive to push themselves in their career because that's the instinctual need to support their family and honestly most men would give up time with their family to pursue this evolutionary need because it never passes their minds that after a certain point their families actually need them more than money.

[modelUN242]

@jkm1864 😢

[FictionalCharacter]

Being a Virgin is Never bad.

[JaneDoe377]

I find it admirable that there's people who retain their virginity and don't feel pressure or anything to get rid of it.

[Asker]

As a teen I never had any pressure which I think is why I held onto it longer, but a lot of my friends are getting into relationships now

[JaneDoe377]

Don't worry about what everyone else is doing because it really doesn't mean sh*t. You'll get into a relationship when it's right for YOU and someone who wants to be together with you. It's hard not to compare ourselves to others but it's very detrimental to do it.

[Shani546]

24 is already wayy over limit but don't worry

[Asker]

Lol that kinda makes me worry, women would be turned off

[Shani546]

don't tell

[Asker]

They'd know by skill level

[Shani546]

Wow and it's so very difficult to put A penis in a wet hole.

[Asker]

😂😂I'm probably overthinking

[jkm1864]

They won't be turned off because You know when You and Your partner are around 30 and She wants to settle down She wants a man whom is dependable and whom She feels is a safe bet on whom She wants to give Her heart to. I'm just going to come out and say Your problem is You lack confidence and that's hard to build when women don't give You that confidence like the alpha males. If You want to build confidence then create goals and conquer those damn goals like a real man. I'll say in My life I was shy and I had that problem but once I had an established career and I was pulling six figures at 30 the confidence arrived. You can either take the career route or take up hobbies or skills and master those skills because it builds confidence over time. Also your young and yes dumb but when You lack confidence its hard to know when a woman is interested so get on Youtube and watch a lot of self help videos and realize the major clues and start interacting with women. I find the best strategy is not to expect anything and just be nice and talk to them about their eyes while making eye contact. You might never get lucky but guess what You might find one that's lonely like You and women will chase You if they really like You. The biggest clue is if they start injecting themselves into Your life then You know whats up.

[jkm1864]

Ooops talk to them about their lives and show interest in getting to know them. I have also just made off handed comments not expecting anything about pants, hair, whatever and literally been chased just because I happened to ignite that spark in them by being nice. Hell I'm really not that attractive really but when I was younger they were some hotties for sure.

[jkm1864]

Hahaha no they won't. A man's performance is basically mechanical in nature and all that matters is if He lasts long enough for Her to have an orgasm. The big thing he needs to know is how to use His tongue and if He learns where that clit is and makes slow circles around it His skill with His dick won't matter one bit. Also if He makes the primary focus about pleasing Her than He's fine.

[Dargil]

No age is it bad for a man to be virgin. It's a choice.

[Don-_-Don]

No, it's not pathetic in your case.

[JimboGB]

Whatever age they are on their honeymoon.

[Dchrls78104]

There is no such age. In fact, these days it may be considered a good thing to remain a virgin, because sex seems to come with a lot of complications which make it hardly worth the having.

[Arichip]

You are over thinking it--who cares
Are you too picky though?

[Asker]

Not really, I just don't feel attraction easy. I just instantly think they wouldn't be interested

[asshole_]

Never

It's never ok to just give up your virginity all willy nilly. 40 year old virgin, proved that

[JessieBellll]

It's just sex. Don't worry about it.

[Asker]

😂😂Should it be OK

[JessieBellll]

Yes of course

[sadcountrygirl]

No it not pathetic.
And it not bad that ur a virgin
And thank u for your service

[sethtav]

Dude you need to focus on finding a girl that you like to hang out with and you are attracted to and things will happen. There are lots of girls who love military guys--you know this.

[jkm1864]

That's true but trust me without confidence You can pass on the perfect opportunity that arrives because He will talk Himself out of making a move.

[sethtav]

@jkm1864 You might need to get some counseling to talk it out. You don't want to continue to not be happy.

[Tstrbrainer]

It's okay to be a virgin even if you are 150 years old.
There are many benefits in being single. So don't worry about it.
Sexuality differs from person to person. Some people are really sexually active while some don't really need it. It's just a personal preference like the food you like and the food you don't like.
If you like a dish, do you care about whether others like it or not? If you don't like a dish, normally you wouldn't eat it and we don't think about whether others like it or not.

[Nachowedgie]

Never

[deb7923]

I was going to say 25 but I think it's okay at your age

[Asker]

Ah shit haha, I don't think many would be understanding

[deb7923]

hmm it depends.. and have you been working in the military for long? it could be understandable

[Asker]

Roughly over a year, also a lot of weight challenges before then

[deb7923]

well it's okay, it wouldn't be a big problem until 30

[Asker]

Ok😊, don't want it coming off as a complete turn off

[Anonymous]

It's always bothered me how the incel community is male-dominated

[Asker]

I think incels hate women, I don't and I do go on dates. Also I don't blame them for my situation it's just that I've never been driven to go out with people

[Anonymous]

75+.

[Anonymous]

for guys 20's isn't entirely unheard of but maybe a good time to try and focus some effort into dating , should be girls your age or slighlty younger you could date

[Asker]

Don't get a lot of time to date, and when I do they aren't eager on long distance

[Opinion Owner]

there is more women in the military than years past right? is any options there long distance is kind of tough , are we talking out of the country? or out of state kind of distance

[Asker]

I'm British navy, so many of the women prefer men at home working normal jobs

[Opinion Owner]

some girls are busy with there own careers so having a long distance boyfriend isn't necessary a deal breaker as they don't have a lot of free time anyways. they may only be able to see someone the odd weekend , a lot of first contacts are made through dating sites these days not in person , so its still possible to meet people

[Asker]

Grand, just feel the longer I go on the chances I'll have will be non existant

[Opinion Owner]

there is always chances in terms of dating , there will always be people to potentially date , i'm sure there is options out there even if it doesn't feel that way