😒 Is there something wrong with me? 🤔🤨🙄?

[Erica34]

I'm really in my feelings today, even when I am trying not to be. But, I was doing some real deep thinking about my life and the relationships, that I have had with people over the years. Especially, with some of these dumb ass guys. (SMFH) I realized that I have had more sexually relationships, then an actually fucking relationship. Sure, don't get me wrong, I have had certain guys that wanted to actually commit to me. Either I wasn't ready or they just wasn't my type, or lived to far. But it seems like the older I get, I keep getting fuck boys. They like me enough to keep me around just to keep fucking and getting there dick wet. And I am so fucking fed up with this bs. Because the same that I like or take some she was interest in. Well go out here and commit to some other bitch. And if it sex that they are getting from me. They come off being such assholes and jerks and basically just disrespecting me. They owe me nothing nor do I. But, I feel if I am giving them sex, shouldn't they have more respect for me and shit. I usually always end up taking it the worse or start to fall for these guys. And I'm not asking them to date me. But why the disrespect?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I used to have your same problem at your age. Every person I dated was wrong for me, I always ended up with terrible girlfriend's and a lot of the same problems you had in regards to no real relationship. It was the story of my life. And my life resembled my relationships. I allowed obvious personality flaws to fly under the radar, such as my date being mean to or laughing at other people.. it's just not a positive trait and I shouldn't have just shrugged it off because I liked her and was lonely. Know what I mean?

Someone close to me told me a very hurtful, blunt, and hard truth - That I was the problem. It took me months to reflect on those words and reconcile the truth, he was right. I was ultimately the only person in control of my decisions, I made them. I made the choice to (continue to) date bad people.

Read my mytake, I figured it out and took control. It's short, and hard. It only aims to empower you to help yourself to a better life.

[AndyOh]

Wow, I think part of it is the 'hook up' culture that is around now.
Maybe you need to look at where you are finding these guys. Perhaps you should look at what you do for fun and make some changes so you don't keep finding the same 'just wanna get in your panties' kind of guys, and find guys that are more into a meaningful relationship.
Granted, guys are guys, and we all want to get in there, but there are guys that do care and want a real relationship.
The question is... do you want a real relationship too?

[AndyOh]

Thanks for the MHO... I hope you know what you want to do or at least are trying to find it. :)

[Gwenhwyfar]

I totally get it. If I were you I might decide it’s not worth the heartache and just masturbate till I found a good guy.

[AustinMan]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Here're a couple of My Takes I've written that may give you a little insight. We can DM if you like.

Relationships and How They Work ↗

www.girlsaskguys.com/share-your-take?id=59202

[Erica34]

But is like some of these guys cry over these girls that ends up playing them. Like if me being nice isn't good enough for them to respect me. Like then I should Be that bitch. And with my current friends with benefits Like I went to his ex girlfriend and asked her if he came off being an ass to her before they dated or after. She said No. He knew better, not too.. so WTF is he coming off and being a rude SOB to me. I have been more then enough nice to his lame little dick ass. 😠😡🤬. Like last year he wasn't so cold to me like this. But he did make it clear to me, how he only came around again in my life to have sex. Ok cool. But go fuck with some one else or one of his ex gfs. Like last year he seemed to be more interested in. But now it's like.. Whatever. But get mad over some bitch that left you. He also drinks a lot. But idc.. Still.

[AustinMan]

Your friends with benefits is the loser here. He's clear a classless cur. I suggest you focus on finding male friends that may have the potential to be suitors but keep it platonic at first and learn more about their character. What do you think?

[Erica34]

Yeah. I'm just done with sex these guys. Smh :(

[AustinMan]

Good choice for now. Date your BOB and get to know some guys better before dating them. If one is esp interesting, tell him you've been shit on before and you need to confirm he's a good guy before things can go to the next level.

[Erica34]

? wait what

[Erica34]

tell him you've been shit on before and you need to confirm he's a good guy before things can go to the next level. Why would I tell him that?

[AustinMan]

Hey has the future of being true.

[Erica34]

Nawl. I'm staying away from FB- Fuck Boys

[_SOARER]

You played yourself 😭
Everyone who gives into lust plays themselves. Myself included...
That's why its important to abstain so you can take control of your sexuality.

A man will never respect a woman he sleeps with, just because she sleeps with him
You need to earn his respect first, then you should have sex. You did it in the wrong order!

[COMMODOREII]

I know what you mean. I respected the women i was with. Its just right.

[Erica34]

Right. And I don't mean to keep bringing this SOB up in my post. But I am hurt a little and upset. Like his mom respects me more then her son. She's like even if you and him don't talk. She said, you are more then willing to stop by. And yes, he did confess and come out and tell me that he only came back around in my life.. Just to have sex with me again. Who he was last year he didn't act like this at the beginning. Now I don't know.. It's not my fault, his past relationships he run them girls all. He has a problem but still don't and shouldn't be an ass to me. Like.. frfr. Like, I'm a nice person. And if it's just sex.. Okay cool. I'm not trying to date him or make anything more. All I ever ask was for his respect. And he can't even do that. :(

[COMMODOREII]

It is good to get it all out. Dont hold it in. I understand you need to vent. You dont have to apologize. *hugs* 😅

[Erica34]

🤕🙄🙄. Like, I can't be to mad at him tbh. I realized when you sleep with someone more then enough times. You start to pick up on their energy and there moods. It was one day I told him. I said, I think your afraid. He said afraid, afraid of what. And I said me. And he didn't say much to that. So I said I think that you are afraid to get close to me and really open up to me. Then he said, oh really. Then I said yea you are. Then he didn't say anything. Then the last time that we got into a fight one day last week. He said, that I was crazy- he said hypothetically, just speaking. He said why do I feel like that we are in a relationship. He said, I feel like that we are in some relationship. But he said, just hear me out. He said hypothetically, just hear me out. He said, say if we did get into a relationship, he said that I would be going off about everything. Then he calls me crazy. He was like Nawl man, I can't do it. But I don't I would personally date him. He hasn't even try to get to learn or know anything about me. Smh. Sure he finds my body and me attractive. But he hasn't even took the time to know me. He may know how I can be crazy at times. Yes. But even when I told him on July 16th it was my bday. He was like, wait what? It's your Bday. He was like, No way. I said yeah I was born in 1991. So he was like, so he was like, don't tell me that your older then me. And I wanted to say bitch! you no shit about me other then me being crazy and my pussy. But I am a sweet girl and nice and would do anything for my guy.

[COMMODOREII]

Any guy would be lucky to have you as his girlfriend and more. 😎

[Erica34]

A lot of people would say. Well if you make such a good girlfriend and a sweet and nice girl. Then why see you not with someone nice sweet guy. Well my past relationships was childish. The longest that I had a relationship. Was for 6 months. Sure 6 months. That's not long. But it felt like it was forever. Lol. So like I said, he knows shit about me. And tbh he really don't have enough respect for himself or his moms or her House. Smh

[COMMODOREII]

I believe that

[Erica34]

Smh. So it's not me here. I can own up to my wrongs. But him. Nawl I'm not dealing with his shit. It just makes me so mad when he comes off being an ass or rude. I done nothing to him.. Last year or this year, so he can fuck himself and roll over. 🤐🤬😡

[COMMODOREII]

I understand and agree with you.

[Erica34]

Smh. But I understand, hurt people like to hurt others. And the only reason why I am upset with him, a little is because. I he in the beginning this year apologize to me for his wrongs from last year. 2nd. He sure had me convince that he was different or changed his ways. 3rd. His mindset motives and intentions was so wrong he manipulated the situation and only was nice enough to me to just for the sex. 4th of all, he is hurt and living in distress or depression. So he relies on alcohol for that and other reasons. 5th when he is drinking way to much he does display this type of behavior that's aggressive. 6. He has this negative attitude about him that he projects from others on to me. 7th. He's very content with blocking me out and keeping his distance and feels ok with us not talking. 8th he also feels that I am or was trying to have a relationship with him, when I wasn't. 8th he has this shit I don't care type of attitude but then expects me to give him summ lol. Right. 9. Anytime then I asked him let's go for a walk he tells me no or not in the mood. 10. For the very first time he called me out of my name. He was talking shit so bad, asking me questions like was I stupid or dumb and said that I was a stalking bitch and calls me crazy, then he has these withdrawals later and to be chill and relax. 11th he expects me to make him feel better when he's in a shit mood, but don't try to comfort me when I am. And 12th he'll come off doing the most to me, but give someone else the benefit of the doubt and respect. # 13 he has mention that things has changed since last year with him, and how he doesn't care about anyone's feelings.

[COMMODOREII]

Wow 😕

[Erica34]

Like okay, if it was just sex he wanted then cool. 👍. But he needs to learn how to play the game better or his own game better. He was also giving me mixed signals. Why would you allow me to chill with you and spend the night... More then once. Sure he probably didn't want to be rude. But he would ask me to stay the night with him. And yeah, that does NOT mean anything to be honest, let's be real. But if I am all in it just to get my pu$$y wet. I'm not letting him stay the night, unless if he is drunk or very tired. But if not, then his ass has to go. And also, if I want to get my pu$$y wet he would only be contact when I was ready again for him. No chilling in my house nor watching tv. You gud, now get the fuck out. He should have done things in that order. Or said, I really want to have sex. Nothing is. Don't tell me weeks later about your intentions with me. Smh.

[Erica34]

Tf. Out of here. Smh. I done nothing this ass. But you know it's all good. He says he don't care and he don't. I just don't get why he has to be so cold and nasty to me. He says he doesn't have a problem with me then why are you making it seem like. 😠😡

[COMMODOREII]

I agree with you. It makes no sense.

[Erica34]

Smh...

[Bang5luts]

Because you don't set boundaries up. And they don't think you have self respect. Show them you will no longer be a "Thot" or whatever and make them earn it! Im not trying to be gross it creepy but get a toy and take care of your needs prior to the date or going ot with any of them and you'll have better self control. And more confidence! You can do it! Hold your head up and make sure they know that you are a prize to be won no a piece of ass anyone can have. Not that you are but just make sure they know that you know you are not. 😊

[Twalli]

Why respect a cum dump?

[mrgspoter]

Not at all

[Erica34]

😞🤗😒

[mrgspoter]

I know what you mean, same lol

[Smf1989]

I'm sorry and no nothing wrong with you

[Anonymous]

Sex usually doesn't equate to respect. Often the opposite, unfortunately. And the type of people who will use a girl for her body and then discard her when they're finished aren't the most respectful people to begin with.

[Erica34]

Yeah the two guys that I was with. Was just such assholes. But cry and get over a bitch that played with there heart. Or they have some real serious issues themselves. But I guess this post is more about my current relationship with my friends with benefits and next door neighbor. Like, he talks about how I hurt his feelings when I rejected with giving him a hug. But he also mentioned to me and said, he only came around again in my life just to have sex. What an ass and a bitch. Like last year we never dated. But... He wasn't so cold at the beginning like he is now. And the thing with him is. He has a drinking problem, but it doesn't excuse his behavior. When he was with his girlfriend that is now his ex girlfriend. And when I asked her, if he came off being rude to her. She said No. She said, he knew better and asked her right off the back to date him. She said, friends with benefits is not for her. You either be with her, or have nothing from her at all. But also. As she says, he didn't disrespect. But with me, he feels that it's okay. Like, Tf!! I have feelings too.. You fucking pig. SMFH.