Guys, Very good guy friend and I made out? what should I do? does he like me?

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i’ll keep this short. he was my coworker. he had a bad break up and we ended up having sex.

that was a year ago.

in feb 2020 he met someone on tinder and talked to her for a while until julish.

during that time however we became extra good friends. we would go out to eat etc etc.

and just hang out and stuff. nothing sexual just funny dirty sexual jokes.

June/July he started asking me about the guys I've liked. he remembers all of them... every single one. he asks me again and again “are u talking to anyone? no bumble no tinder?” “what about so and so?” and he even asked me 2 days ago the same questions “do you and this person still talk?” “are u on tinder/bumble?”

so he got drunk and he called me at 12 am to come to his apartment for a get together. it was very last min too.

they even bought me a food box it was nice.

there he asked me the same questions about guys and if i was talking to anyone and what happend with so and so and he mentioned that he broke it off with that girl... he told me that twice.

everyone ended up leaving and we ended up talking about giving up on love and stuff for two hours lol. and going with the flow. he did mention that he was gonna date only indian girls and i am not indian so im confused on that... he does however say that me and his friends are very similar everyone else is weird.

anyway...

he asked if i was sleepy and then we ended up in a room with the same bed. i kept joking and poking his legs... and he just kissed me..

then he said “wait will it be awkward?” and im like nope. then he's like “wait are you sure?” and he didn't hVe a condom so he just “satisfied me” and we just kissed me all over. i didn't touch him a single bit.

we kinda wanted to do it raw but then i said “no babies!” and he's like “OOOHH WOW!”

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i also said “im drunk” and he's like “OH WOW!” we ended up making out for hours. then we woke up and went for coffee and talked for 20 min. he wanted to come kayaking with me and i wanna go to michigan with him. sad thing is he might find a job not in my city. idc about long distance but he broke up w his ex bc long distance... so yeah

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other things.. in our friendship he calls m clumsy and dumb dumb etc etc. we joke around and laugh at each other a lot. for example i kept saying i was disappointed that he didn't have a condom. i kept touching his dick and i was like “meh unsatisfied” then we kissed more aahaha.

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AustinMan Influencer
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I feel like he likes you. I'd suggest just sitting down away from the sex and talking to him about all this.

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talka20 Yoda
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I feel like he is interested in you sexually and non sexually too n connects good with u too and also somewhere corcerned bout u too which make him ask u again n again if ure on tinder or talking to someone etc... but the thought of dating only Indian girls is deep like some mimdset of him and that is where he cannot accept or see that he is into u actually to some extent and you two have some potential of relationship... he just doesn't know yet i feel like
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- Asker
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  so there is potential? I don't know why he said that... he said he doesn't connect well but with indian girls. i am not indian. he does however love my Spanish music and he’s literally my best friend. lol
- Asker
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  he was also drunk and giggling so yeah I don't know. he also knows how sad i was with other guys so he knows i may have felt something here. he just knows how i react.
- talka20
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  I feel yes there is some potential... umm I don't know why he said so... but just to make sure he himself is Indian right?
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- Asker
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  yeaah lol
- Asker
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  and i am not lol. i think he was just testing the waters to see how i’d react?
- Asker
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  also i noticed that this other guy who hits on me called me by my nickname and he remembered my bday and he told me about it and he said that he hated when that guy called me that and knew my bday lol
- Asker
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  or like there was this cute guy and he told me his major age name etc and i repeated it and he's like “WAIT HOW DO U KNOW THAT?” and im like “he told me” and he's like “OH OK *chest touch*” he made it seem like he was relieved I don't know
- talka20
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  I can understand his side cuz he is tryna date someone or spend life with someone from same thinking/ thoughs/tradition/practice... a girl who knows bout whole thing already n already fits in the society or his home without anybody questioning him outta his family or people etc. And probably not bec of just the family n people but he also prefers that to be the way of spending life with his partener
- talka20
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  I've read above comments... he feels it most probably... and he does connect to u... there is a spark clearly
- Asker
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  yeah for sure i get it too. but i guess i spent a lot of time with him and i kinda just started liking him and that kiss through me off. he's super interested in mu culture he even knows Spanish and wants me to take him to my country. he loves my traditional Spanish music he even saved it in his playlist. he told me he wouldn't mind listening to it in his home. i don’t understand why he asks me about every single guy and if im on tinder and bumble if he doesn't wanna be interested in me. i found it cute that he called me drunk and 12 am too hahaha. and his drunk self kept repeating that he wasn't talking to anyone, making fun of me, and asking about my past guy crushes. he remembers literally all.
- talka20
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  And nvm but u two stay outta India? Or u are in India for xyz reason n met him
- Asker
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  yeah out of india
- talka20
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  I think if he doesn't go further than sexual acts by himself... or if u go further n tryna talk to him at first place bout relationship n all and he doesn't seem to agree... then its that thinking which he has in mind which is completely fine im not saying it negatively... but just that he doesn't wanna think outta the box when it comes to be in relationship... till sexual acts n friendship n hanging out n little bit gifting he is okay with other people
- Asker
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  if it happens again should i just ask him? “what is this?”
- Asker
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  do u think he just used me? we didn't even have sex. it was just him kissing and fingering me lol
- talka20
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  I won't say when it happens again... then the real answers may not get out... ask him when you guys are just talking n spending time
- Asker
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  oh okay. should i joke around and be like “what was that? hahah”
- Asker
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  gosh im so scared
- talka20
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  Oooof tmi u made me remember something with that fingering thing xD when a guy doesn't tell u to make him cum or touch him tho he did make u, i dont feel its just "using"... even if it is still it seems so less of using... more it looks like giving u the good crazy time if not intercourse
- Asker
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  yeah no intercourse. no condom so no sex. we were both hesitant. at one point im like yes and then at one point i was like no lets not. then he was the same way. when i said yes he said no when he said no i said yes. then he just started kissing me and my neck and my cheeks and i was even giving him little kisses lol. and he kept fingering me and kissing me all over. i did nothing... i just laid there...
- talka20
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  Again for same reason i won't say put it as joke cuz then hed answer whatver comes out as quick reply or quick joke... just talk to him when u both r already talking or some talk finshes then just hey listen i wanted to discuss a little thing withyu bla bla bla n i just wanna know what is it whats in your mind for like im okay how we are but still km curious n xyz bla bla
- talka20
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  Those details oof heheh... anyways ik i made the suggestion look like easy one to execute which it won't be for u but even if u feel hesitated still speak in front of him once u start it then dont just end randomly bec u just can say all that like that... try to complete whatever u wanna say n get his thoughts out
- Asker
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  yeah i will do that honestly:)! what do u think will happen? honest
- talka20
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  I've no idea cuz this guy looks confused n unaware of to me bout his mind n heart... so i can't really assume... but goodluck to u... and yea do i expect any reply from u once u do talk to him?
- Asker
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  hahaha i know hahaha sorry tmi. but does that even satisfy him? fingering me? or does that mean he likes me? hahahahah ill probably be like “so why’d u kiss me? you werent drunk!!” “oh wait you like me right?” and be like “awweee u like me!!!” and see what he says hahahaha that’s literally how i talk to him. i act like such a child. after the sex i kept kissing his cheeks and i was like “aww baby boy needed some affection😩” and would kiss his cheeks. and he's like “i feel like a child lol”
- Asker
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  and yeah i can update:)
- talka20
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  I think he enjoyed doing that cuz ofc who won't haha... but for his orgasm he preferred it to be either sex or maybe mayyyybe blowjob which he couldnt say to u at that time... so he just satisfied you and had enjoyment of feeling your pussy with his hand hahahh
- talka20
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  Well id hope u come with a good update
- Asker
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  how romantic and yes i hope so too!
- talka20
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  by the way why didn't u touch his thing after u were done or while he was fingering u? Ik he didn't ask for it but still like this was already going on so why didn't u?
- Asker
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  i did but then i would play with it. hahahaha like “oh does this feel good? what about this?” and he's like “am i your experiment?” and he then just kissed me and he was satisfying me so much that i couldnt do anything lol
- talka20
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  But after u could... i feel he should have got one shot at least 😂 did u finish once or more?
- Asker
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  i finished more that once. and then we ended it with my head on his chest and his around me. i kept kissing him upside down. little lip pecks. :* < like that hahahaa
- Asker
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  he fell asleep while i was on his chest. and i kept examining his face and tattoos oof
- talka20
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  U give extra details😂 like it haha u might get turned on by this haha
- Asker
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  sorry xD i mean thats what happened xD
- talka20
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  I didn't say i mind at all xD
- Asker
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  ok ahahaha xD i should def talk to him tho! it’ll clear everything up. i think he does like me. why else remember every guy I've liked? going out for food? constantly asking if im on bumble / tinder
- talka20
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  Yea ask him with less like a joke way
- talka20
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  And in case u feel like messaging me u can... im not saying that text me now but just in case if u feel like then u can... cuz im not always on the app n dont notice all the notifications
- talka20
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  Hope it goes well when you both talk
- Asker
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  will do!
- talka20
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  Alright then