if you’re planning to wait for marriage then either he has to accept it or you break up.
But if it’s just a matter of you needing time to get comfortable:
- assume he will be willing to wait for that reason
- do NOT cover up your lack of experience. He’s much more likely to be patient given your inexperience. If he doesn’t know, he will interpret your slow speed as lack of interest.
- don’t slow down the relationship to avoid this - you won’t feel comfortable unless you let the emotional side grow.
- especially with your experience you’re not going (or shouldn’t) just randomly have sex. Expect a long lead up of getting comfortable enjoying other types of sex first.
Yeah I need time. Wow 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 yesss this is the answer is exactly what I needed. Thank you soooo much. Fav reply yet!
@vivant anything you’d add?
Haha na.. you aced it. I’d just be redundant 👌
Thats up to you'll have you asked him if you gave him the ok to do w0ould he do it ,,, and if he says yes ,,, then say ok so your saying if it was turned around your saying its ok for me to have sex with other guy
Now let's say you give him the. Ok to have sex with other girls and 2 weeks later you want to have sex. Do you want him to keep having it with other girls and do you think he would stop
I dont know what is considered sex any more everyone is different you don't have to have sex to pleasevhim or even him please you and I think it's cool if a guy can be loyal to a girl that wants to remain a virgin it shows how much he loves you and what he is will to do to have you if you take that away from him by telling him to go have sex with other girls I think down deep it would hurt you and he will lose respect for you
If he's gonna sleep with other women, then what's the point of being with you?
What do you at his age, sex is important? That means he doesn't not have to be exclusive while being in a relationship? Nonsense.
If he can go see other women while being with you, then you should also go see other guys.
If you don't want to be with him break up but if he really likes you he would wait for you to be ready. Also you can do other things to satisfy him other than penetrative sex: sext, phone sex, pics... but just if you feel comfortable doing that if not just tell him to watch porn
Yeah. Like a part of me feels like he’s only dating me because of my body & the way that I look. I just don’t want to be the kind of girl to deprive him of something he used to get with his ex
Every person is different and if he compares you with his ex he's a jerk. Maybe you should try to know each other better and that way you'll feel more comfortable to have sex or you will realise that your relationship doesn't work
Yeah. I was also thinking of getting to know him first. I’m genuinely not in a rush for sexual intercourse but I feel like next year I’ll be at the age where the consequences aren’t a disadvantage or whatever 😂
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!No. You should both love and respect eachother if you both agree you are in a relationship together. He should be willing to wait until you are ready. Crucify me if you want but that's how things should be.
Why aren't you having sex with him?
We started dating like days ago. I don't know I’m just thinking, for future reference. I feel like I’m not completely ready for the consequences that come with having sex. We haven’t known each other that long.
There can be no intimacy with fidelity. Once he commits to an exclusive relationship he needs to honor it.
Wow, wise words. I appreciate this, best reply yet!
How come you two don't have sex? If the relationship is not going well then yeah you should break up but if it's going well and you don't mind him sleeping with others then why not. What I will say though is that if you accept this now it will probably be difficult to become exclusive in the future.
Well we recently started seeing each. I want to get to know him before I give him my the go ahead to “pop my cherry”. I feel like I’m not ready for the consequences that come with having sex.
Well that's alright, you are ready when you are ready but this doesn't mean he needs to sleep with others. We can be fine without it and we can masturbate if needed. I don't think you should give up exclusivity for this reason. It's up to you really but like I said it might be impossible to become exclusive after.
I appreciate your help sm!
Do u want an open relationship? If not then he either is down to wait or prob not gonna workout.
Relationships are built on a foundation of love, lust, trust, and respect. Will your plan help to build this potential relationship?
Wow yeah. I just realized that it’s not the best idea. I just don’t want to feel like I’m depriving him of sex.
no woman in her right mind would let her boyfriend sleep with other women but then you are not in your right mind anyway ! will you let your - sister , mom , grandma , cousins - sleep with him too? seek mental help before you do it with who knows what
That is your decision. Why can't he stay loyal to you. Maybe (if you are ok with it) give him handjobs or something so that he has some sex with you. Good for you to wait for the right guy at the right time in your life. Have you fooled around with him at all?
You might be overthinking it and he will be ok to wait for a while. Talk to him and see where he is at.
If him sleeping with other women doesn’t bother you it could be a viable option.
Yeah. I just don’t want to be the kinda girl to deprive him. I’ll let him know where my minds at & ask him if he can’t wait until I’m ready.
No. If this subject is really coming up, he's not right for you, and you probably aren't for him either.
Eh that's really up to you really, but i would say if your not ready to have sex and the guy can't wait then i don't think your right foe each other
Are you exclusive because without having that talk he can and may be having sex with other women.
Wait what? What the hell has age to do with it?
If you want him to be with other women you can let him, but you don't at all have to put up with that if you do not want to. Its a commitment for a reason. So tell him what you really want, and if he refuses he is probably not the right guy.
No you shouldn’t and if he even brought it up you should leave him. Whether you have sex with him or not he should be loyal to you. There are no excuses for cheating. You need to have more self respect.
Sounds dumb, especially the part where you say y'all have only been seeing each other a few days
Yes, it's just sex and not that big a deal. He will respect and cherish you all the more for granting him the freedom and happiness.
I can't believe I just read what I thought I read. I'll give You a hint if the man truly loved You He wouldn't want any other woman. So if Your the one the pushing for this then Your not ready for a relationship and if He is the one pushing for this then Your just setting Yourself up for future heart break.
No! Have oral. Or play with each other.
Ummm if he can't wait for you, then he's an asshole bitch
😂 true
No. Break up with him, have some self-respect.
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