All the women I know say losing virginity is horrifically painful, and many men said the same?

[Anonymous]

How painful was it for you on a scale of 1-10 and if you can give a comparison it would be helpful

Did you bleed a lot?

The words used to describe it like “horrendously painful” or it was “MEDIEVAL” just scare the live outta me especially when I have a thick hymen and all the women in my immediate family and extended family had immense pain and bleeding. My mum had bleeding for two weeks and got an infection for which she had to get antibiotics.

My school teacher had told me that you just need to grit your teeth and go through it as every girl goes through it at some point.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Some girls experience pain the first time they have vaginal intercourse. They may have so much hymenal tissue that stretching it open during first intercourse may cause pain and bleeding. Girls with a lot of hymenal tissue can prepare for first intercourse by slowly stretching the tissue with their fingers. It’s also important to stop doing it if anything hurts and communicate with your partner about how you feel — sex that’s painful or uncomfortable should not continue.

However you define it, being sexual with another person — whether that means kissing, touching, or intercourse — involves a lot of responsibility. It’s very important to protect yourself against pregnancy and STDs. And you need to make decisions about protection before you engage in vaginal, anal, or oral sex.

Anal sex can hurt if partners do not take certain steps. The anus does not usually produce enough lubrication for comfortable anal sex, so it’s important to use an artificial water-based lubricant — like K-Y jelly or Astroglide — for anal sex. (Using an oil-based lubricant, like Vaseline, can damage latex condoms.) Lubricants can make vaginal intercourse more comfortable as well.

I hope I answered your question. Any queries?

[boredguy01]

My girlfriend bled a decent amount but she said the pain wasn't too bad. If he's gentle and you do a lot of foreplay it shouldn't hurt too badly, unless you have an abnormally thick hymen or narrow vagina

[Zannika02]

Umm mine wasn't that bad. I think the first time is never mind blowing bc of how much anxiety u have towards it... nervous, not sure what the fuk to do. But it depends on how responsive u r to him and he to u. The wetter u r the better and even lube is good to have just in case. I rate mine a 6/10 pain level and no orgasm for me, he came. But this is the first time only thing I recommend is lube and to be comfortable w this guy... trust is major play into giving ur body to someone.

[Anonymous]

I was scared at first too, heard the same stuff. Didn't hurt much for me tho, probably a 2/10, 3 at most bc i just felt pressure down there kinda

[Anonymous]

It most likely shouldn't be that bad. The only reasons I can think of for your first time hurting a lot are a lack of foreplay, too much anxiety, excessive force, or abnormal anatomy. That last bit might be a concern based on your description, but it's likely the other factors came into play as well, especially since female anatomy was poorly understood (and cared for) when your ancestors would have lost their virginity.