Why do guys only back off if I say I have a boyfriend?

[coderedcerberusnight]

Usually when a guy is flirting with me or wants to date me, I have to turn him down. I try saying that I'm lesbian (because I am), but that only seems to make them more insistent. I try saying that I have a girlfriend, but then I get "threesome?" or then trying to encourage me to cheat on the said girlfriend (I don't have one, but I say I do just to get them to back off).

Literally the ONLY time a man will respect my space is if I say I have a boyfriend. What the fuck?

[Anonymous]

Because when you say lesbian many guys hear 'bi sexual' and because men are generally working with limited chances of success anyway, with anyone so there isn't much difference between hardly any chance and almost no chance.

Its really important to remove all doubt and be clear when you are talking to men, you have to shutdown all the possiblities they are considering.

Its why hinting doesn't work.

I realise that the word lesbian should be clear but due to porn and a general misuse of language that is not the case.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

It's really simple:
Hears you say that your a lesbian - Response in male brain: Maybe she's curious about dick!
Hears you say you have a girlfriend - Response in male brain: Maybe I can swing both of them!
Hears you say you have a boyfriend - Response in male brain: Not in the mood to get my ass kicked for hitting on some dude's girl.

[PetiteTaylor]

I am surprised that you saying you had a boyfriend stopped them to be honest

[Derekk]

I wish I could explain it, but I can't. It's shitty behaviour and it's far too common. Guys who are way too full of themselves not respecting your interests and what you say. They think that you "haven't had the right dick" or whatever.

Let's just say that there's a reason that a stereotype exists about lesbian women hating men. I don't blame them.

[limitedstuff]

They don't want a confrontation with this "boyfriend".

[TisTheTruth]

I think you being a lesbian is just playing into their fantasy. It's juvenile but that's how boys are. Just tell them you're lesbian but you're loyal. They'll back off eventually

[Twalli]

Girls can't provide a penis. Guys can. If you're already getting a penis they probably can't offer anything you don't already have.

[Sylvanas_Windrunner]

a lot of dudes (especially) teenagers don't really respect boundaries. Generally, all they care about is slaying puss.

Also, i think saying you're lesbian is probably a bad idea. There's nothing more enticing than a lesbian to a straight man. Their probably gonna be even more desperate that point lol.

[bassinguy76]

Guy code... respect and they don't want the confrontation

[Mill0152]

Usually out of respect for me but thats only if the female is being respectful to. there's been many of times where I have fucked some dudes girl. But thats only because we werent being respectful and we were feeling each other on a sexual level.

[Anonymous]

Decent guys will back off if you have a man

[Anonymous]

It’s competition they don’t want but another girl is not competition, it’s now a challenge of bringing you back to the other team