Why does it seem like women desire to be wanted more than men do?

[Anonymous]

[bellybuttonlint]

Women have to share the responsibility of bearing a child whereas a man can just get up and leave. They have to be more choosy because they need a man to provide for their kids.

If the human population was dwindled down to 100 men and 1 women it would not survive. If it was 100 women and 1 man it would survive.

Women need this validation more than men. Men can go out on their own because we are programmed differently. We are physically stronger and taller and can fend for ourselves. Women typically can't.

[MrOracle]

Women are more socially-oriented in general, and even in a civilized society where women CAN do nearly anything a man can do, the truth is that most women don't WANT to do everything that men can do. They want a partner and often someone who is emotionally stable to be their "rock."

Men are much better at surviving on their own. They may not be as clean on average, but they can keep themselves busy and go without a lot of socialization much more easily than the average woman can.

[Anonymous]

Because women are looking for an old fashioned provider. Not sure why. Overall men are less educated and have an ego that hurts their self esteem.

[mariahjustineb]

We don't feel appreciated enough. We feel like men only want us for our bodies, so we want to feel loved.

[CharlieBadger]

Men, in general are more self confident than women. We tend to consider ourselves more attractive than we are, stronger than we are, and more desirable then we are.

Thus we assume we are desirable and that women are holding themselves back from jumping our bones because of some sort of social pressure for them to not just throw their sex at us.

There is an entire industry designed to make you feel less confident about how you look. Society has been shaping your behavior to be more in need of a man than he is of a woman, for centuries, eons, yeah like forever.

Men want to be desired but we also think we are.

[Chriscunning]

I might get a bit burnt for this, but it's an 'animal' thing. In nature the females usually mate with multiple males. Even if you look at the penis design, it is designed to pull out other males sperm. You may even notice in porn movies the "Uuu" sound girls always do. That's designed to turn guys on, so when they here a female mating they come running.

I would assume it's something biological to be wanted more than men do and probably related to that.

[jkm1864]

Women seek out validation and they are perfectly happy getting it from hundreds of men. Men on the other hand only need validation from one woman and that's the one He loves and He doesn't give a fuck what the rest of them think.

[Reaperbot666]

Roughly 7/10 women are more social interactive. In many regards like dating, working, etc.
So many women crave having someone close by. To talk with or just be close to.
Also part of why most women take job fields.
that they can talk and gossip with others at.
And roughly 7/10 guys are able to be loners and often seek out silence.
So many guys pick jobs where they can be left alone for long periods. Without getting disturbed by others to often.
Aside from the occasional small talk or joke.

[jkm1864]

My job consists of Me getting on a boat and riding it out for 3 to 7 months until there is no more work so that's pretty solitary.

[Reaperbot666]

@jkm1864 ya kind of my point.

[madgoat]

They say women need to feel desired and men need to be feel respected.

[Ripper_E]

Because, generally, it's true.

[MannMitAntworten]

Beats me but it is likely better that women are as they are and men are as they are. I mean, could women imagine their men being as desirous to be wanted as they are? It would cut into your own need time.

[Thatsamazing]

You don't desire to be wanted more-- you just desire attention more.

[coffeewithcream]

Biology.

[venomhbk1313]

I would say that's 50/50

[In_Trance]

That's a perception; inaccurate, but a perception

[adamKing]

I think it's a psychological thing that got created thought how they were treated when they were young and because of how they got used to things- it's about what they expect of society and especially close people to them...

[Anonymous]

Because women do desire attention more.

[Anonymous]

I think thats a sexist sterotype, I want to be wanted and i dont think for a moment that i am at all alone in feeling that.

If anything i believe men are more romantic / emotional than women.

[Asker]

Why do you want to be wanted?

[Opinion Owner]

Validation i guess. I realise that i am not supposed to require any sort of external validation and I've certainly preached it enough times to others but thats probably what it comes down to.

[Asker]

Many times we tell ourselves we don't need validation but still crave it

[Opinion Owner]

I think that there are very few people who are truly self contained self loving individuals who are capable of joining their lives in a completely un codependent way with someone else. Most people seem to have problems of one kind or another.