Is it wrong that I can never trust a man enough to leave him alone with a kid?

Question

I am 18 but I go with the vision that ALL MEN are Secret pedophiles who would rape their own toddlers if they could get away with it. I know i might get hated for that, but i don’t believe in the « not all men ». I think the only non-pedo men are the asexuals, but other than that, I can’t make up my mind to trust a man enough to live it with a child even if it’s his own kid. Now some men might be be actual pedos but they’re only 0,01 % if the male population. I try to be open minded but I just can’t stop my mind believing that every men are sexually deprived and that they have no limits, that every men jerked off at least once to their daughters, nieces and sisters, and that bi men would also rape their sons if they could. Am I crazy? Has any other woman felt that way?

samiammm · Accepted Answer

Your views seem to be way too extreme.
Too extreme.

Some men, maybe more than a few a really pedos. Not all.
There's a great number of people who are just loving and caring.

The problem is that these pedos have ruined it for all the men.
I do agree that in today's time it's important to carefully screen the person you leave you kid with. Also we need more layers of protection , but you can't think the way you are thinking.

Be a little open minded , a little.
Some men are, not all.
Just because I and sexually unsatisfied doesn't mean I'll abuse a kid. Thats just wrong.

You seriously need to talk to someone about this mentality of yours, maybe someone close to you.
Just have a talk, try having a few discussions.
Or you can try talking to someone who works with kids. Please do, you really need to re assess your belief.

OlderThanILook · Accepted Answer

I am 18 but I go with the vision that ALL MEN are Secret pedophiles who would rape their own toddlers if they could get away with it. I know i might get hated for that, but i don’t believe in the « not all men ». I think the only non-pedo men are the asexuals, but other than that, I can’t make up my mind to trust a man enough to live it with a child even if it’s his own kid. Now some men might be be actual pedos but they’re only 0,01 % if the male population. I try to be open minded but I just can’t stop my mind believing that every men are sexually deprived and that they have no limits, that every men jerked off at least once to their daughters, nieces and sisters, and that bi men would also rape their sons if they could. Am I crazy? Has any other woman felt that way?

Vmm90 · Accepted Answer

I do not feel the way you do. I do not think it is fair to place all men into the same box, it is am extreme over generalization of an entire gender.

You did mention you try to be open minded. May I ask, if there a particular reason you have formed this opinion on all men. If there is a root cause that has made you developed this, it may be worth while to speak to someone about it.

Future partners may be hurt about such an extreme accusation against them.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Crazy? No, just bigoted. And unfamiliar with how commas work.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

The number of pedophiles is as low as the number of asexual men.

Even though it is understandable that you aren't comfortable leaving your child (ren) with a random stranger, it is unlickely that these strangers will do anything to your child.

Kurαȷ · Answer

If men have "no limits" why aren't they just having sex with each other?
And if you accept that gender is a limit for men, why do you think that biological age doesn't work as a similar kind of a limit?

I mean, your belief is obviously crazy.
My best suggestion would probably be to read some scientific literature on reproductive and evolutionary psychology and paraphilic disorders.

Perhaps understanding reproductive behaviors, why men have a higher libido, what people are sexually attracted to and so on will help clear things up for you.

boggboss · Answer

Crazy no a retard yes

Kaneki05 · Answer

This is the most idiotic thing i've read on GaG. Also that means your dad, and any male in your family was a pedophilia that your female family members were okay with dating and having children with.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well, the proof is when you have a child with a guy and he will be the father.
"Even if it is their own kid"
Oh really, how exactly would you attempt to prevent me from being with my child?
You'd rue the day if you attempted to somehow interfere with my own father child relationship.

jkm1864 · Answer

A woman shouldn't leave Her kids alone with a man whom isn't Her own husband or the childrens father. There have been many kids molested for mothers trusting the wrong man and sometimes its her own family.

DannyFanny · Answer

You shouldn't unless you really really trust them

0112358 · Answer

You're scarred due to bad experiences.

A pretty significant percent of men (and not insubstantial percent of men) have experienced bad things, but it's not because most men are abusive. It's because abusive people don't just do one shitty thing. They do it over and over. So many people have had these negative experiences, even though it's a small percent of people responsible. If all men were abusive, most women would have been raped a dozen times.

Don-_-Don · Answer

I'm not gonna sit here and call you wrong, because I'm sure there's a good reason as to why you think of men this way, but I recommend to try and not to see all of us men as bad people. I can assure you that while a lot of us men are bad, there are also a lot of us that are food.

Browneye57 · Answer

And women like you are a turd.

here2helpuALL · Answer

That has never crossed my mind. Don't get me wrong I like a petite short chuck but that doesn't mean I'd go out and have my way with anyone that was unwilling or underage.

genericname85 · Answer

yeah that's pretty damn problematic. but i think the way you asked, you already understand that.

FatherJack · Answer

Coming from a single dad of 2 now teens , boy & girl , that is NOT the case at all , very far from it... I am NOT going to bash you... it is clear to me you have had some bad experiences with some VERY defective males , hence your tainted world view. You need support & healing , not scorn !! I dealt not with sexual abuse as a child... but severe beatings & violence , on top of bullying at school too , turned me into a belligerent young man. Ironically British Army service put me on the rails properly.