Is it normal to NOT orgasm the first time after having sex?

I had my first time and I didn’t orgasm. The second and third time I feel like I was close but I didn’t orgasm. Is this normal? Can you share any of your experiences? Thank you
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Superb Opinion

  • For a girl it is 100% normal. It is easy for a guy to orgasm. You need to have your boyfriend spend way more time with foreplay. Just get naked with him and spend a long time exploring each others bodies. Teach him how to give you oral. I have found that giving a girl an orgasm from oral before sex makes it more enjoyable for both.

    You also might try getting on top so you can control the speed and depth and move so your clit is stimulated. Did you use a condom each time ( I hope so!)

    Do you plan on having more sex with him?

Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm not female, but I would say that it's fairly normal with an inexperienced or selfish partner.

    If he doesn't really know what he's doing, or worse yet, doesn't care, then he's probably not going to get you there. The best thing you can do is talk to your partner, and help him to understand what you need; what will help you orgasm. It will benefit both of you.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Perhaps the guy wasn't experienced and didn't let you finish. A guy with decent sex skills would know to keep going for the girl, but to me this guy sounds like he doesn't know what he's doing.

    So yes, it's normal... if you have a partner who doesn't know what he's doing.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • It’s normal to not orgasm from bad sex.

    • Lol the burn 😅

  • I don't ever orgasm from penetration alone.

  • That's actually very common for lots of women. Next time, try playing with your clit during penetration, and make sure your guy knows you didn't have an orgasm, and also how close you came.

  • normal

  • Yes it's normal it's even normal after over a 100 times sometimes it just don't happen

  • All depends on the guy. If he cared he would make sure you also get off.

  • there are lots of factors there.
    Your comfort level, his skill, your mental fantasy, arousal level, etc.

  • Yeah, its completely normal. First time when anyone is having sex he/she is always nervous so they can't experience orgasm. Also males feel orgasm quickly whereas females orgasm starts way late while having sex. So generally females may experience orgasm but they won't finish it as males won't last that long. So to reach our orgasm better satisfy ourself or before intercourse let your man help you with getting orgasm so at least there is chance you both can finish.