If my boyfriend always comes very quickly is it a medical issue or does he just get too excited?

[Anonymous]

So whenever my boyfriend and I sleep together he comes so quickly and I’m not sure if it’s like a premature ejaculation thing or if he just gets really excited very quickly. I’m finding I’m not able to come because he is so quick but he does other things to me and I can come that way, but I really want to be able to climax from sex which isn’t that easy for us women sometimes.
He jokingly said he needs viagra, but he’s only late 20’s so he shouldn’t need that...
Should we do more foreplay, my vibrator etc? He asked me to bring it with me because he’s always worried he won’t be able to please me, but I don’t want him to rely on that, then when I wanted to bring it with me he got a bit annoyed.
Any suggestions would be good.

[Mystery1900]

I also find it hard to last long enough to give a woman an orgasm through sex. I do other things to give the woman orgasm - it's important that the woman has orgasm. But I would like to give her orgasm through penetration. For me it's the excitement of being with a woman and the sensations of her vagina around my penis that makes me come very quickly.

Foreplay is a good idea, to get the woman aroused and excited, then she can have her orgasm. I have no trouble getting an erection - and when she's fully aroused and I penetrate her she enjoys it, she encourages me and then I think I will come and it's disappointing when she's enjoying me inside her and then I don't last that long.

One thing I like doing is, before penetrating her, using my penis to rub her clit, sometimes she gets an orgasm from that and it feels good to do that for her and I can last long enough for that. Sometimes if the foreplay is extended, she edges me or blows me that can make me last longer.

Some positions seem to be better for prolonging sex for me - one is lotus position (where the man is sitting and the woman sits astride his lap, with her legs wrapped behind his back) because it doesn't seem to stimulate the penis so much and also the reverse cowgirl (where the man lies on his back, and the woman sits astride him, facing away from him) because of the extra effort needed to support her body. I come quickly in missionary style sex because of the depth of penetration and the vagina feels tighter in that position.

I also try edging during sex but that can be frustrating for the woman as I have to keep withdrawing my penis and it breaks the rhythm of penetration. I can sometimes stop myself coming by squeezing my Kegel muscles, this takes a lot of concentration - especially when doing it during intercourse.

[CoolGuyJoe]

He needs to pace himself. It's an entirely mental thing. If he makes it about the act of actually fucking you with his dick the orgasm will seem further away and easier to consciously avoid. If this is a problem that both of you are curious about changing then I suggest you talk to him and see if he can start changing how he approaches sex mentally during the act. Suggest things and see what he agrees with.

[LisaLisa89]

I can't tell you whether it's a medical issue, but in my boyfriend's case he has always lasted longer the second time around. And he's got slower over time and PE is rare for him now, but it's no big deal for me when he is fast.
If you don't stress about it then in sure it will get better.

[WadeDanielSmith2]

Have sex more often. Maybe he'll get used to it and won't ge tso sexited and will last longer in bed that way.

[waterniggbone]

Some men just cum fast 🤷🏾‍♂️

[AmeerX]

Too excited

[Sweetpuppysmile]

Its probably because your sooo hot😉 im actually older i was just testing out the girls☺

[Twalli]

He should practice edging

[gandolph3]

make him cum first then start foreplay

[berserk945]

Just got to excited and hasn't gotten use to the sensation. If it goes on for a long time with no change then maybe

[bassinguy76]

Give him a bj and make him cum first... then he will last longer