Is this date rape?

[Anonymous]

there's many times where I tell my boyfriend no to sex. Or I tell him I'm trying to go to sleep and he will keep touching me and then proceeds to sex. I've cried many times n he doesn't even know. I feel as though he should listen to what I'm saying and not go against it. I had worked a 9 hour shift. Went straight to his house and I told him I'm going to sleep n that I'm tired.. he didn't let me sleep.. n there's times where I'd be in so much pain but I'd stay quiet till he finished just cause ik thats call he cares about

[Rippersavage]

Is it rape, yes, is it date rape, no (that's something completely different). However u guys have been doing this for 3 fucking years, to him it's just a part of ur routine. Also when he tries to do that stuff to u and u say no, u should also push him off u when he starts touching u (ur actions have to match ur words).

U said that there've been times when you've been in a lot of pain but u stay quiet and let him finish...
This may sound mean but that's all on u, u can't honestly expect him to read ur mind. Tell him it hurts and physically move away from him if he continues hurting u.

In ur update u said that u told him u wanted to sleep but her kept on touching u so u just let him do what he does because you've been letting him for 3 years and his reply was "you opened ur legs"...
If that's true, and u really did open ur legs then his right. Like I said before, ur actions have to match ur words, u can't just say no or I'm trying to sleep and yet open up ur legs and basically invite him in.

Don't get me wrong, I don't condone rape (there's nothing in this world that I hate more than rape) and I do believe he should stop when u say no but u also have to take responsibility for the fact that u let him do the things that he does, that u don't physically resist his advances (or only resist a little bit but eventually cave in).

[Anonymous]

You two need to break up because you're both selfish and you're destroying your relationship by creating all this resentment. He is being selfish by pushing you to have sex and you're being selfish by giving him so many opportunities to do it by saying no to sex over and over again. And what exactly is he doing that is causing you so much pain?

There are so many red flags here, I just think your relationship sounds toxic, and both of you are equally at fault.

[Asker]

He does no foreplay. Basically just shoves the shit in dry. N he's just getting himself off. N we been together going on 3 years. N I don't know how to bring that up without it being an argument.

[Opinion Owner]

That all just kinda reinforces what I said about a toxic relationship. Why do say no so often? That's an important question in my mind.

[PandaSon]

Darling that is rape, if u say no its no! anything other then that is rape!

[AmeerX]

Date rape not really because you have been doing it with him. If you really hated it you would stop going to his house.
The last part is good, do annoy him till he smacks you silly then you have a good reason to break up with him

[Wise4myage]

You need to dump this clown immediately. He has no respect for your feelings and yes, that's rape.

[fred_durst]

that is rape , you should report him to police ASAP

[V12NI]

Why are you with him?

[Yellovv]

Dumb him..

[gandolph3]

you said no, it's rape, you need a new boyfriend

[berserk945]

This is not a healthy relationship, he doesn't care about you. He is using you. Leave his sorry ass!

[Anonymous]

That is straight up rape. You should go to the police and definitely get away from him.

[Anonymous]

STOP FUCKING SEEING HIM

What the fuck?

Yes he is raping you and that is obviously not ok.

[Anonymous]

Yes its rape because you have been clearly communicating you didn't want to have sex and he keeps doing it. Also you experience negative effects from it if you cried.