Do Men Last As Long In Bed As They Claim?

Question

According to scientists the average man lasts 5.4 minutes in bed. This is based in a study of 500 couples worldwide
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16422843
The researchers found that being circumcised or not made no difference and the figures were constant around the world except in Turkey whose men were ideal for timing soft boiled eggs. theconversation.com/how-long-does-sex-normally-last-56432

Apparently 5.4 mins is the optimum time to scoop out her last lovers sperm and replace it with your own www.sciencedirect.com/.../S1090513803000163

These timing are for mean intravaginal ejaculation latency time and don't include foreplay and ranges from 30 seconds to 44 minutes, timings I've beaten more than once.

Based on discrete timings I've found found on average;
Regular fuckbuddies last the longest and in bed, roughly 15-20mins.
One night stands in bed last around 10 mins
One night stands in public places last under 5 mins.
Spooning gives the longest times, doggy the shortest.
Penis size and times are not linked.
The smell of mother cooking bacon downstairs knocks minutes off.

So how long do guys really last (not included foreplay) and what factors affect the times?

Do Men Last As Long In Bed As They Claim?

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Accepted Answer

Sorry, but I hardly believe any sex study these days. One thing that's very hard to gather accurate scientific data on is anything involving sexuality because it varies so much and is hardly ever set in stone. A person's timing when having sex can depend on many things. It can depend on a man's level of arousal, his technique, his physical stamina, the way the woman's vagina feels, her actions, and so on. A change in any one of these factors could result in a completely different time that the man finishes. For example, if a man enters the pussy fully aroused, he might not last long because the more aroused a man is, the closer he is to cumming. If he enters at a normal arousal level, but allows himself to become more aroused during the sex, then he could last longer.

As for technique, if he is, for example, jackrabbiting the pussy from the back, then he is likely to come very fast because that's not much different to him jacking off really fast. However, skilled men take their time, only go fast when needed (or wanted), and when they feel they're about to cum, they pull the dick out for a little bit and do other things, such as rub the pussy with it or finger her. As for physical stamina, of course, if he is in better shape, he could potentially last longer. A guy that gets gassed quickly would want to cum faster just so he can get it over with and catch his breath.

Lastly, the woman's actions and vagina also play a huge role. For instance, if her vagina feels tight, it offers more sensation and could make him cum quicker. He could also cum quicker if she is able to clench his dick with her pussy and throw it back herself. In my experiences, I found that guys with limited sexual experience can't handle it at all when I do that. They nut quicker than Planters. However, it can be debated that guys might be able to last longer in looser pussy. Therefore, when you consider all this, it just sounds ridiculous when a study concludes that the average man only lasts 5 minutes because so many factors can easily influence it to make that time either much shorter or much longer.

Mildra · Accepted Answer

I don't know, and there are many things I don't understand. Most of the men I've been with last more than 30 minutes for sure. Some of them last just a few minutes that's true.

So I don't get it. Maybe that statistic has many men with premature ejaculation, so they somehow compensate for those that last more than half an hour, lowering the average duration.

TJFreshman22 · Accepted Answer

If I haven't recently jacked off before the fuck session I'll last longer. Typically I like to do 30min to an hour of foreplay, an hour or so of eating the girl out, and then about 20-25min of actual sensual (or deep and more dominant in nature) thrusting depending on the mood and tone I like. If we don't have much time, typically a normal session on a weeknight would last 25-35min. 10-15min of foreplay or oral, and then about 15-20min of actual fucking and sex. I also really like to just cuddle and hold my girl after for about 10min or so and feel her body next to mine as we both catch our breath, kiss lightly a little mor eoff and on, and look into each other's mine and just stare for a bit thinking about the other person and what' they're feeling/seeing. Hope that helps.

In general I feel like 35min-45min is likely typically the average of the entire week for each fuck session with 20min of actual fucking for most people. I'm just a really big into the oral sex and foreplay kind of guy, and also do tend to enjoy a couple different positions before I orgasm or cum most of the time. Usually I'll last 8-11min in each position then take a 1min break to switch things around or tease/kiss, and then do 3-4 positions in a session +/-1 most of the time. Sometimes +/- 2 or 3 depending on the day. It really all varies.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I never timed it. I suppose it depends on the level of arousal.

There is also the fact that men are usually done as soon as they ejaculate. But in my own experience, if a woman is particularly stimulating and I am really into her, I can keep going without pause after ejaculating.
I'll mention the most extreme example. With one particular girlfriend, I happened to notice what time it was when we started fucking. We fucked and fucked and moved around into all sorts of positions without ever pausing to rest or recharge. I ejaculated at least five times, maybe six. She just couldn't get enough, orgasmed repeatedly or continually, and kept saying things like "Fuck me harder!" and "Don't stop!" Her appearance, active participation, enthusiasm, and responses (physical and vocal) kept me totally turned on. When we were finally exhausted, I looked at the clock and we had been fucking continually for nine hours.

But there were plenty of other times when I'd signal for her to bend over for a quickie. It wouldn't take long at all for me to cream her. She was more than happy to be the vehicle for my gratification any time. Not that she didn't get pleasure from it. And not that we didn't fuck like sex starved monkeys on a daily basis. She loved to fuck, orgasmed quickly and often, and never felt deprived.

jadedgirl89 · Answer

I've had a guy last an hour🤷‍♀️

Circuitous · Answer

I'm a bit late since the question already passed, but I'd like to answer it anyway.

Several years ago I came about with this saying "Men that can't control their orgasm never really had one". Essentially it means that an ordinary orgasm doesn't mean much in my book for the most part and that it is all about control while you surrender completely to the sensation of the mind as you submerge yourself into the infinite realm of arousal. Quite a few years ago I spend some time researching orgasmic states in reference to consciousness, in both methodically practical and neurobiological terms. I used the terminology "orgasmic meditation" by which you deprive yourself of external stimuli (such as fantasy and pornography) and empty your mind to be filled with pure sensation only, while using techniques like "orgasmic edging" to cast yourself into some kind of trance-like state of pure arousal. I could literally masturbate for hours to no end without having a single orgasm, and that translated into near-infinite endurance during other sexual activities and I would typically let myself go and orgasm simultaneously with my partner (s). On a few occasions it lead to transformatively powerful out-of-body experiences by which I could non-ejaculatively orgasm for 15 minutes straight, where I literally lost my mind and had it coming back to me in the most whole state of being ever. That being said, the orgasm is a sensation of the mind, the body is merely the medium of electrical impulse. As your mind is infinite, so are your orgasms - It just comes down to how you approach them. Anyway, don't take my word for it and experiment with these states of arousal yourself. It's also not so much about theoretical knowledge rather than the practical gateway of know-how, enjoy ;-)

wingattebaby16 · Answer

most guys I have been with since I started having sex is 2-5 minutes for the first time we have sex that "round".

if a guy is able to go again, they average about 5-8 mins... not much longer.

My husband in the morning can last 4-5 mins spooning me. If we are doing missionary or doggy, he lasts like 2-3 mins.

centerline · Answer

no one can say for sure but them and their partners... my record is 5 hours, but 2-3 hours is more normal, and its not because me dick goes soft, but because I just get tired, and sometimes bored with it...

a quickie for my wife and I is about 45 minutes... she says she needs to find a tag team partner or two to bring in the bedroom... im still waiting for that to happen.

ohshee · Answer

If I CAN control and be in slow motion from the start and take her right to that fine line of pre cum. * MY PRE CUM* I then I'm good to go from that Moment o n I can control it but if I slide up on to that fine line or over it it's over im going to cum for me that's why 4 play is a must slow soft touch is a must if I can't do any of the above and everything starts happening to fast the best thing is to go with it even faster just pound it in then dig my toes in to the bed and stop holding pressure deep against her pussy with so much force hold there like that close to a min pound it again digging toes in to between if I have to stretch her arms above he head and my toes dug in to the bed let the pre cum moment pass every time holding pressure force against her and then slow every thing down 9 times out of 10 she wants to keep getting pounded and that little distraction right there is key the more she wants it harder deeper faster take her to the slowest of motion until she becomes part of it slow motion and pressures all over her body starts making her cum like craxy the more i can make her cum the longer i can last i call it her energy touch when 2 people become one that feeling of becoming 1 is so beautiful it makes you want to cum but if you can become one and take it to the next level your going to give her the best sex ever for a long time and that's when when it's time for the last cum it's a 20 to 30 min out of body experience what I mean by that is the last cum both together it's the most intence work out ever both cum an for 20 to 30 min body's are just electric fide no movement and out of no where you feel some thing touching my shoulder I don't know what it is I struggle to get back in my body as I'm trying to find out what it is then realize it's the bed LMAO and that I just had the best sex ever, I've learnt the hard way. The first thing you want to do is pull her in close and hold her but don't do it until after she wakes

summiter · Answer

I agree with the science 5-10 minutes is normal.

integrale77 · Answer

Personally I think this needs some long term testing, but you need a control subject to test in all situations and retest as and when required to reset the baseline when new perameters are discovered.

I volunteer my services 😉

Apple1996 · Answer

Most of them are liars. My guy on average takes less then 10 mintues. There have been rare times that he's fucked me for a long strech like a hour but that is rare. And also depends if he's wearing a condom then he might last longer

normalice · Answer

Men can last as long as they want, but I say that with the same use of the word addicts employ when they say "I can stop any time I want to." It's the nature of it to not want to last when it comes to the short-term moment. We can discipline ourselves, though - it just takes a long-term will to do so.

pepperhicks · Answer

Thank you, this is the funniest thing I have read in at least 36 hours.  "Penis size and times are not linked. The smell of mother cooking bacon downstairs knocks minutes off."

SjE78 · Answer

some of us do, some dont, some used to, some still do

ChocoBrownieMonster · Answer

My stamina is much longer than that 👍🏼

Kaneki05 · Answer

5.4 mins in bed? More like 5.4 mins to cum. But not necessarily been done in bed. But i have no idea when it comes to sex how long it would go. I know i can go a long time and multiple times when masturbating up to 8hrs which has go to take some stamina. even if i have to drink something in-between ofc. But even if it's just 1/8 of that when it comes to actual sex that would be an hour. The problem is tho guys when they cum is what tires them out the most you make them edge they can go a very very long time. But then how the hell do you get someone to edge when your super hot and well everything is 10x the pleasure of just them masturbating.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I long for the days I could pop in 5 minutes! Now it seems to take 2 midgets, a big black guy, lesbian teens, a sheep, and three hours just to come close.

jkm1864 · Answer

It depends on a lot of factors. I used to run like 8 miles a day in college so when I hit My 30's I was in very good shape so I could go for hours. I also knew how to control My breathing to control My heart rate so that helped a lot. Now that I'm older maybe 15 minutes and I'm just too tired to continue. The frequency or masturbation and porn also can make a mans penis numb so it takes a lot longer to have orgasm also.

teachsex2girls · Answer

A man still thinks they are superior to woman, and he brags to other men that he can go all night in fact he was going at it for 12 hours , but as all females know he couldn't last 3mins, and you still had to use a toy to get satisfaction x

Dargil · Answer

My routine is to bring my lover orally before I ever hop on. And I have found oral sex to be extremely arousing. So when I hop on, I'll never last more than 5 minutes. And frequently less.

waterniggbone · Answer

Most of the time its 30 mins to 2 hours I've gone up to 4 hours without the foreplay added but I've also came as fast as 6 mins and even 3 mins I think it depends on all of your senses your mental state and understand of the situation