Why some men and women like to take full control in bed?

[Anonymous]

I heard its because they were sexually abused at one point so when they are in full control they are gaining control and power they loss from the abuse... is this true?

[ohshee]

I'm not sure I know for me at a early age I've had it happen to me a few times where a girl would come on to me but then taking it way to far and every time it happen I woukd get pissed an think this is what a gurl feels like when she say no and the guy keeps going i hated feeling. So knowing that feeling I never wanted a girl to feel that with me ever , so I always wanted to just be me and show a softness even thst we both wanting it i dont know what it is i dont WANT to be touched like that I think it is overr aggressiveness i dont like i know i might be wrong but I've always thought guys that like that were just lazy and didn't give a fuck it had to be all about them. All I know is I like making it all about her

I just thought about something for me it could be when girls were like that none of them ever turned me on so I felt the thing that turned me on is getting a girl so hot and out of control and wanting it was the thing that gets me going so I've always said the more I can get her turned on the more I get turned on and the more I get turned on the more turned on I'm taking her lol

[MrOracle]

I'm a dominant, in-charge guy about everything. I was always the first to lead anything - from Cub Scouts to high school band to DJing and in every job I've ever had. I've always taken charge of whatever situation I'm in unless there was already a strong, competent leader - but often there isn't, and it doesn't take me long to run them over and take their job.

None of that has anything to do with abuse, much less sexual abuse - it's simply my desire to have things done right and ran well. It's also been true in relationships - I take charge because that's my nature.

[Asker]

Ohh okay I understand you are a born leader thanks for sharing :)

[magiusX26]

untrue. its a prefferance just like anything else. believing that would be like believing people like chocolate because they were physically abused or some other unrelated issue.

i am a dominant and was never abused as a child period.

[Asker]

Ohh okay I just know some people who were abuse and they become like that all though I also hear a lot of people who were abused and because submissive

[Asker]

*became

[magiusX26]

there is no "this happened so the person turned out to be dominant, submissive, or neutral" constant. there are cases of such an incident playing a role in such a choice but those are more like one offs. as for the power dynamic of dom/sub. the real one with the power is the sub. that is the one who dictates what is or is not allowed.

[Yellovv]

I don't have idea about that but I know some women are very horny in the bed, even they like to jump on dick to feel hard inside them, also they pushing back very fast..

[Asker]

Thats not the question😂 I should of just put men instead of both genders to avoid these types of replies

[Yellovv]

What you want to know ☺️?

[Asker]

Why some people become dominant in bed

[Yellovv]

Because they want to take more pleasure..

[bassinguy76]

I don't know about all that, but some people are just dominant

[Asker]

I understand that just trying to understand why they become dominant

[bassinguy76]

I'm sure some have had some sexual experience that shaped them. Great question

[Asker]

Would you say you are dominant?

[bassinguy76]

I'm not

[Asker]

You submissive?

[bassinguy76]

I guess. I've really never categorized myself. I just know I'm not dominant

[Anonymous]

No I just like doing what feels good, most women like being submissive during that time

[Asker]

I am not talking about submissive women... talking about the dominant people

[Opinion Owner]

You mean like an alpha male? I don’t think that’s why , it’s usually the personality

[Asker]

Ohh okayy