Your girlfriend catches you watching porn and wants to break up?

[Anonymous]

So you were watching porn and your girlfriend also later finds out you have a stash of videos too and wants to break up because of the content and how much you have.

She breaks up and said you can tell everyone the reason of the breakup to your friends and family before she does, as a matter of courtesy. She says she will be honest in telling her friends that you watched hardcore porn etc and had a stach of it on the computer, and felt a trust issue with you keeping it a secret.

How would you deal with the situation?

[dandiecandie]

I think you should let her do with what she threatened you just to test her and see how far she will go, unless it was child porn cause that indicates a problem but even so instead of breaking up with you or throwing you under the bus she should try to help you with your problem. After all thats what family is for. If she ever loved you no matter what she wouldn't throw you under the bus. But also try to put yourself in her shoes and see how you would have reacted if you were in her place and she was in yours. This maybe will help you understand where her problem is with you watching porn and why she has that problem. Maybe you guys are able to even resolve the issue and dont be so hasty in throwing away your relationship. But ultimately this is up to both of you and it seems like right now you're both angry. It's best if you both calm damn and reflect on this for at least 2 to 3 days before doing anything hasty like a break up or escalating the situation. Relax and take it easy. Life is a journey and gift. Don't throw away something special for something as silly as porn. This is solvable but it will require both of you to work on it and you could potentially become stronger together because of this.

[AmandaYVR]

I'm not goona spend a lot of time answering this, as you already said, "this is a not a real life situation, just a what would you do if situation." Which makes it kind of meaningless. d

But anyway, you are not mentioning the type and volume/quantity of porn, which matters more to women than that you have porn at all. I already don't trust you.
Should she make this information public? No. Absolutely not. Does she have the right to tell her closest friends what happened? Yes. You can't stop that.

So the options are lie, bribe her, or beat her to the chase and post it yourself publicly? You're not a very good guy, are you. At this point, idc what you do. Basically looks like you chose porn over a real live woman. So be it.

[RemoErdosain]

Dude, she's out of her mind if she thinks that's going to give you a bad reputation. Pretty much every guy on the planet watches some amount of porn. So what if you have a stash? No girl should think a guy will cheat on her just because he has porn. That's ridiculous

[0112358]

I’d let her have the excitement of telling people “I looked at porn” so they could stare at her waiting for her to get to the part where they’re supposed to be shocked.

[kaoriix]

it's scummy on both ends.

[DIRKINOFF]

Later bitch

[Gedaria]

The stash of porn was probably there before she came on the scene. And probably masturbating to them. Nothing has changed so why get stressed about it...

[Pliskin55]

wouldn’t be watching porn when i can have sex with her

[MagicalHero212]

Good dfmmm

[denstrol]

if she's really intent on telling people, there's nothing you can really do. I think that is a scummy move on her part though, the issue should remain privately between you, otherwise it seems like she's just trying to embarass you.

[Anonymous]

Question: Were you deliberately trying to hide it from her? Did you ever openly discuss if you/she were comfortable with watching porn while in a relationship? This sounds like more of a trust issue than the porn itself (unless it was content involving children or animals, in which case her reaction is justified).

[Asker]

Just normal porn with adults. And kept secret as she doesn't want sex that often. Also this is a not a real life situation, just a what would you do if situation.

[Anonymous]

I would tell all my friends and family that we had to break up b/c she was cheating on me with the neighborhood and I caught her in bed with multiple men.

[Opinion Owner]

he said she said nobody will ever no the real truth.