Do you think he will harm us out of jealousy?

[GlitterFairy16]

This is kinda crazy but last year before i met my boyfriend i was in a dark place. My ex had cheated on me and told me i wasn't slutty enough for him.

I blamed myself for him cheating for along time and i thought no guy would want me if i didn't have some sexual experience. I was terrified of actually having sex with a guy as i thought i was too young to be getting into that stuff.

I had a guy friend online. He was always really attracted to me but wouldn't push it any further then telling me i was pretty.

One day at school my ex was telling all his friends i was a prude and frigid. I was so upset and all i had was this Internet friend to comfort me. I was also really attracted to him as well. He had a really hot body. That night i kinda threw myself at him by sexting.

It was something he always wanted and i finally gave in. He was really good at getting me going and we'd share nudes. I thought i was ugly and fat compared to him but he made feel really good about myself. I was completely new to this stuff and he was pretty aggressive with me after a while which made me get scared. He'd constantly be asking for pictures and would only talk on his terms and when we did talk about normal stuff he actually came off a really mean person.

I thought this relationship wasn't making me happy and he'd stopped talking to me for weeks so i ghosted him back.

Last year when i started dating my boyfriend. He text me out of blue asking me were id been for the past 4 months and that he missed me. I told him, id gotten a boyfriend and moved on. He just kinda bitterly replied "nice" and we never spoke again.

I was okay with sexting him as i thought we'd never meet face to face but recently me and my boyfriend have gone away for the week and when we turned up to the hotel he was working there. He bouth kinda had shook faces and didn't say anything but we were bouth checking to see if it was really each other.

[crmoore]

I don't think he will harm you significantly. He might do something gross but not particularly harmful like spit in your food or something. That being said, I wouldn't test it. Don't go back to that hotel for a long time, or any other place you know of that he might be. If you want, you might even want to talk to a school counselor or even the local police (but do not dial 911, that is for emergencies only, there is a non-emergency number that you can call specifically for your local police, you can Google it to find it), and explain to them that you happened to come across an ex friend/boyfriend that was strictly online and he threatened the safety of you and your current boyfriend when you coincidentally ran into him at a hotel (I'd suggest being thorough explaining how you knew him, but I don't think mentioning the intimacy you shared with him is necessary), and then ask them what they think you should do. Honestly, I don't know exactly what you should do, this isn't my area of expertise, but I would mention to the counselor or police that you aren't sure if you want them to contact him unless they think it's a good idea, because you don't want to further engage him. That being said, a counselor or the police will likely know the proper direction to go about this sort of thing. If you're too anxious to mention it to the police (as they're the real deal), you'll likely have a much easier time talking to a school counselor about it.

But most likely, considering he doesn't live near you (or at least I assume, considering he was an online friend), he very likely won't go so far out of his way to harm you. But to be fair, most people wouldn't go as far to say they'll kill you and your new boyfriend. So personally, I suggest you at the very least talk to a school counselor about this, and there's a possibility your school counselor will contact the police for you anyways (though I think if you ask them not to, they might not).

[crmoore]

I'm also not all too familiar with your famiIy life, but it may be a good idea to mention this to one or both of your parents.

[GlitterFairy16]

I don't go school. Its the summer holidays and im English so I've already left and hoping to get a apprenticeship but my parents have no idea about my past besides my last boyfriend treating me like crap and i plan on keeping it that way. Im a big girl and i don't need getting others involved in the situation. I think im just gonna complain to the manager and tell them he's my ex boyfriend and that he's been threatening me and boyfriend

[crmoore]

That's a good way to go about it as well.

[magiusX26]

best to get somerhing on record (cops) incase something happens. be it some sort of physical violence or some sort of cyber attack.

[KeziL]

With that update... I'd be at least a little nervous. I would've guessed he'd have tried to take his chance to act while you were in the hotel but if that's over with, I don't know if he'd try to track you down and do anything. It might be worth letting your boyfriend know what's going on, you don't have to tell him details if you don't want but mention that you talked to this guy online for a bit and the guy is really jealous now and threatened you and you're scared, just so your boyfriend is aware of the situation.

[GlitterFairy16]

Yeah the thing is too, He checked us in so now he has my boyfriends mobile and home address

[KeziL]

ooh definitely give your boyfriend a rundown of the situation then

[GlitterFairy16]

I might just say we had a run in the past and things got nasty if he asks. Im gonna tell his manager what he's been doing. he's creeping me out like crazy. I can't sleep and it's almost 4 in the morning because someone loudly kicked are door and ran off. I think it was him but i keep telling my boyfriend and myself it was probably some drunk people

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Jealousy is one of the worst emotions known to mankind. When it comes to people we feel jealousy because we think we own the other person or because we feel that we are entitled to something that was never ours to begin with. Understanding that we are free to love whoever we want regardless if we are in a relationship will help us understand and empathize.
Jealousy is the emotion that leads to domestic violence. So don’t be fooled.

[bigchanges]

k not reading all that but you should definitely invest in crypto

[bassinguy76]

He's full of shit. I would worry about it. If he contacts you, get a restraining order. He's all talk in my opinion

[GlitterFairy16]

Yeah he's just a little pussy i think

[bassinguy76]

It's common for a scared, jealous pussy to say he would kill you. Don't worry about it.

[MillieBrunette]

Agreed

[Lovegirls44]

Don't change yourself for others..

[GlitterFairy16]

I know that now, i just had to learn the hard way unfortunately. It's one of the biggest regrets in my life and im really ashamed so thats why i don't like talking about it.

[Lovegirls44]

Don't worry people make mistakes.. you must know if somebody real lives or has only lust for you before doing any such thing.

[Lovegirls44]

And don't regret it's not shanefull it happens with everyone

[GlitterFairy16]

I know, i hate myself for who i was back then

[Lovegirls44]

You did nothing bad

[GlitterFairy16]

Feel like im still so young and im already so messed up in the head. My ex cheating on me, really did some damage even if people say we were just kids. It broke my heart and because i was so young i didn't understand what was really going on around me. I thought i was the bad person and it was my fault i got cheated on because i didn't give my ex what he wanted so tired so hard to be the kinda girl he liked to some how feel like I wasn't what he said i was.

[Lovegirls44]

It's not your fault... he was there for your body only , you just fell for a wrong person. Why are you blaming yourself. N its mithi g messed up

[GlitterFairy16]

Because i should have known better

[Lovegirls44]

Ok..

[GlitterFairy16]

Acting that way in past is finally coming back to bite me im arse. Its karma at the end of the day and i deserve it for being a such trash back then but im really scared of anyone finding out.

[Lovegirls44]

You are ruining your love life by overthinking.. you should just forget everything n start fresh. you were in relationship with someone n he dumped you cuz you were not slutty enough n you blamed yourself for that you became slutty for next but things again messed up for you.. just forget all these n ne yourself in your next relationship don't doubt the guy n neither think more about yourself. You just need to know him better