Do I have a crush on my best friend?

[Anonymous]

Me and one of my best friends always playfully flirt with eachother like friends do. However, recently... we seem to have gotten more sexual towards eachoter and send eachother videos and pictures of our lady parts. We live about 40 mins from eachother now, both don't have a car, so we dont hangout much. We also are mother's of 2 kids and are still with our children's fathers.

I also have became super horny lately, but I've always had a little bit if a girl crush on her since high school (which I recently told her), we are 26-27 now. I find myself always watching the videos she sends me and then that leads to me watching lesbian porno and thinking about doing these stuff with her. Am I gay or? lol

[Anonymous]

You said you your friend “are still with our children's fathers”... does this mean that you are in a bf-gf relationship (or marriage) w this man? If so, is it an open relationship / what are you guys’ agreed-upon boundaries regarding out-of-relationship sex? (Is this acceptable?)

Seems like this is something more important to concern yourself with, than w what you call your interest in your friend. But, the facts are clear: you flirt your female friend, told her you‘ve had a “girl crush on her since high school,” send each other naughty pics & videos, and fantasize about having sex w her.

So... if you still like men and are interested in having sex w them, then you’re most likely bi; and if you’re not interested in having sex w men, then you’re most likely a lesbian.

But... my recommendation is concern yourself first w your current relationship w your children’s father—if you’re in a closed/exclusive relationship w him, talk w him and see if you can make your relationship open (or else just end the relationship if that’s what you want). And if it’s not a closed/exclusive relationship, then do what you want w your lady friend and don’t worry about what you should call yourself and your relationship w her.

[Bad_Man55]

Sounds like a lustful itch you may need to scratch to determine what it is.

[Asker]

Yeah, you might be right

[Bad_Man55]

You've already crossed the line a little with the pics and videos so might as well see the real thing in person and see how it goes then determine your feelings after. May just be a lustful friends with benefits thing you establish

[Asker]

That sounds about right lol thanks

[Bad_Man55]

Np enjoy!

[bassinguy76]

Sounds like you are.

[Asker]

I don't know... I can't see myself actually dating a girl tho

[bassinguy76]

You are turned on by her then watch lesbian porn. Maybe you are bi, but you aren't watching guys jerk off. Sounds like you are a lesbian or haven't accepted it yet.

[Asker]

Because, I don't find some pornos interesting to watch. I don't watch pornos of people playing with themselves, I feel disgusted watching it. I only watch certain types of lesbian pornos and since I have a boyfriend who I regularly have sex with, I see and feel heterosexual intercourse, so seeing it from a site does nothing for me lol... now seeing people have sex in person or watching people playing with themselves and I actually know them know them... thats a different story lol I think I sometimes find myself bored with basic sex so I tend to watch porn sometimes.. but I usually hate porn all together and go months without watching any... lately though I have been seeing it every night.

[bassinguy76]

What is your gut telling you?

[Asker]

Nothing really... I just wanna have fun I guess.. life's too short

[bassinguy76]

There's your answer