How Often Do You Have Sex When You're In A Relationship?

[TCredo]

Hi there Toots. Interesting question and comments. Been about 25 years now - 3 years dating 22 married... been interesting if actually kept a chart over the years lol...

1st year it was long distance - see each other roughly every other weekend - pretty much had sexathons lol

From then until 1st baby (which was about a 4 year period) - pretty much rabbits like :)

Then... was about a 10 year period where the frequency fluctuated wildly... sometimes lots... sometimes not as much... little kids, busy lives, me travelling all over, etc.

Then... about a 5 year period where it got even more up and down... her dad got ill and lots fell on her so there'd be here and there weeks or months when it was often but lots of lulls too...

The last 5 years has been much more regular and frequent. Pretty consistently 3-5+ times a week. Pre shutdown when I was traveling every week, weekends would be lots and since shutdown, definitely been more frequent.

To your memes, I do find it is an important part of a relationship - and right or wrong, if the more recent chapter I mentioned didn't unfold as it did, I can easily see how it could become a problem that could have put us on a path to being done... that might sound bad but it's an honest reflection which thankfully has not played out :)

And yes... my sex drive is still higher than hers... thus the moon voyages lol :)

[Brykuenzel]

Whenever the mood strikes. I’m a Scorpio so it’s often. In the shower, watching movies, while she’s baking, in the morning, pre afternoon, after lunch, after dinner, on the boat, out camping, while doing laundry, in the car, on the car, on the freezer, on the washing machines. It goes on and on. I’m not a mathematician but at least 67 times a week I think.

[laurieluvsit]

I think everyone has their own levels of need and is why establishing that prior to a committed relationship is important.

Most relationships sour due to either money or sex.

Too much or too little of either one can cause problems... well, maybe not too much sex... lol, but you get the point :)

[wingattebaby16]

I want it every day.

I like it 2-5 times a day.. most guys can go 2 times max.. that is why I have a vibrator...

[MrOracle]

It depends on the relationship and situation. When I've lived with a girl, it was probably 7-12 times per week. When not living with a girl, it was more like 5-10 times per week on average. Sometimes it's going to be less because of various reasons, and sometimes more, but that's a fairly accurate range.

[Jaximus-Lion]

when me and @MrsJaximus-Lion started dating and getting it on we were doing it like twice a week, some time 3 times a week. Then we had some dry seasons a lot of emotional down hill feelings because we had bad economy and we lost people we love for cancer and other diseases and everything got back on track in 2018 and we are kinda doing it once a week and many times twice a week. Then we have our semester planned so we can be 4 weeks together things can be extra a lot in these 4 weeks and no we are in our 3rd week and it's looking good.

[jkm1864]

As often as She wants to. I would say about 3 times a week is optimal to keep Me happy and anymore than that can get pretty exhausting. I know in My last relationship I wasn't very happy honestly because Her sex drive died but I still loved Her it was just one of those frustrations. I believe at one time She had an affair and She went from once a month to wanting it all the time and it was pretty exhausting. I'm not saying if I found a new partner though that I wouldn't have it as much as possible because honestly I'm very much excited about that prospect but it does take a toll on a older man for sure.

[David92506]

"But when it comes to how often couples have sex, science actually has an accurate idea. The average adult gets some action 54 times a year—or about once a week, according to a 2017 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. Another study published in 2015 linked the frequency of sex to happiness."
https://www.google.com/search?q=how+often+do+people+have+sex&rlz=1C1CHBF_enUS912US913&oq=how+often+do+people&aqs=chrome.0.0j69i57j0l6.6735j1j8&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

[Hannahm67]

It is normal for sex drive to fade over time that is why I tell people that if they want a lasting relationship then to not have sex for a while at the start to see if you get along without it. Because if you do then your relationship will still last when you are both 80. Once you are with someone you love instead of lust for the sex will be so much more special.

[JackSmy]

I'm actually more interested in close, personal affection, and kissing, casually touching and cuddling. So much more intimate, and close, than sex. Maybe I just don't have a high sex drive, because I prefer just being close, and cuddling, while watching movies, or when we are out, just holding hands, and just being close and connecting, but not a lot of overt PDAs!!

[summiter]

I am young and engaged... and we live together. We probably have sex 4-6 times a week. Sometimes on a weekend we will have sex 2-3 times a day. Occasionally we will go without for 3-4 days if we are tired from work etc. It is not the quantity (even though it is fun) but the quality is just as important. How bout you?

[jshm2]

Whenever she likes. I'm always up for it, of course. But it's part of the game to see who "cracks" first and asks.

The sex is better that way too. As if you do the "set date" routine then it becomes an added chore and vanilla.

[Reaperbot666]

as often as possible. if I have a willing and able partner. currently single however and have been without sex for nearly 3 years. but I almost don't miss it that much. gives me time for other things in life. but if a woman comes along. that seems worth my time. I would enjoy being able to pleasure her to the fullest manner sexually.

a good sex life with your partner. is the clue that holds all the good and bad together.

[IronmanT]

That would depend on how much effort you put into treating your partner asif they are wanted, needed, desired, and respected for just being themself... and how well you really pay attention to your partners wants and dilikes... So for me.. realisticly once a day at least when im in a relationship. Unless she is just not feeling that day wich will happen...

[Anonymous]

As much as possible! Usually 1-3 times a day, depending on my mood and sex drive. The problem is I've yet to date a guy that can keep up with me- the ones I've been with can only go once and they're done :(

[1Sophisticatedme]

If i had it my way, everyday, 3 or more times in a day. But reality tells every 3 days 2 times doing it during those days.

[TiAmo2020]

It varies hugely. Most of my relationships has gone the same way. First and second year: four or five times a week and slowly declining. Third year approx. twice a week. Fourth year and more: once in every three months if you are lucky.
Soon after this rate the relationship is over.

[19magic]

I would love it every other day tbh sometimes every day, doesn't have to be sex sex though lol but by the time I foresee myself in a long term relationship I'm not sure if he'll be able to keep up

[jadedgirl89]

Most days, if not everyday. Sometimes multiple times a day. Depends on each person's schedule and libido. Every relationship and person is different.

[walt0462]

I don't know how other couples or other men might feel about this but I believe daily/nightly if possible any/or multiple times weekly in order to maintain a healthy and happy loving long-term relationship

[helva]

When living together I would say 5 or 6 days a week.

[ohshee]

Morning and at night. I'm single right now. I would love to had or have a girlfriend, with the lock down crap ,, and i hear we are headed for it again i wonder if i should put an. Add on here for a lock down buddy

[blutwolfe]

well with my ex it was minimum 3 times a day up to 9. Honestly I'm fine with twice a day lol, apparently that's still a lot for some girls, but I'll manage if I go heavy on the sedatives lol

[Chiefbenttwig]

Like a rabbit, but for a at least an hour or two.
I'm not a wham bam thank you man.
I hate women that can blow you & throw you before you can lick them & dick them

[TruthBringer]

3 to 4 sex sessions a day whenever we spend days together. Only we don't see each other every day. So it has to be 6 to 8 sessions a week.

[Citizenkirk]

If she starts a conversation with "I want you inside of me, like yesterday" than pretty often if a fella knows what's good for him.

[ArrowheadSW]

The last long term relationship I was in, we only were able to see each other on weekends. We usually had sex a few times on the weekends.

[Via_8662]

At least 2-3 times a week, although there are a lot of daily streaks thrown in.

[OlderAndWiser]

If my partner is receptive, I want sex at least 4-5 times per week.

[jestergent]

On average a few times a month. But last one was 3 times a day so I going to say 3 because I won't select less than that now. 😍😣

[Xoxocutekitty]

Live in relationship here. Once a day. Maybe once a week it is 2x. Its a marathon not a sprint.

[triff]

I'd love to have sex all the time if my partne felt the same Hiw often is down to a joint decision

[Jjpayne]

Not there yet but I hope it's more than once a week :)

[adidas0169]

Hardly ever bc wife if a damn prude always makes up excuses and its always when she decides and when she does she puts no effect in it and just lays there

[CoctailKrill]

After 31 years together, 2 - 3 times a week. Menopause made her hypersensitive. It takes a lot of patience and she needs a day in between. But it’s still very important and rewarding for both of us.

[broken_heart_at_48]

I'm shooting for twice a day. Practice makes perfect

[AcidT0y]

Used to be a few times a week. Now it's once in the whole relationship because they only last one night tgese days 🤣

[Twalli]

Not as often as either of us would like. We prefer at least 2 times a day, but we can't be together every day.

[Apple1996]

Maybe 3-5 times a week. All depends on the week tho

[COMMODOREII]

As often as she wants as long as she give me time to rest. 😂

[GreenGold1992]

Still a virgin and have been single since 2011. If I was in a relationship, I imagine I'd wanna have sex as much as reasonably possible.

[simplelikeme]

Well if I was in a relationship it would probably be two or three times every day LMAO
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but I guess I'm just dreaming LMBO

[humanearth]

Not as often as I like, but it frequently enough to keep me happy.

Being bitchy, nagging, and out right nasty.

Now that drive a wedge between faster than no sex at all

[kmike2020]

depends on , kids , work , moid , and the time to squeeze it in,,,,,,, get it lol

[Dargil]

Once the novelty wears off and it is pretty much readily available, 1-2 times a week. One might be mutual oral or fingering/hand play.

[Anonymous]

In my marriage, zero times a year. It’s been like 3 years. I have to work backwards based on trips and figure out the year to know how long. Before that was <10 a year. When we first dated it was daily.
if it was up to me? Probably 5-9 a week.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

My "modest" answer is everyday. ;)

[Lady_Saika]

we have sex 4 or 5 times a week, sometimes everyday depends on the mood really lol

[Jerre]

Hard to say in a relationship because I am not in one. With my friends with benefits, we fuck 3-4 times a week, but each time I cum multiple times. Suspect if I limited myself to a single orgasm, it would be at least once per day.

[jirwin7979]

when i was i had sex 6 times in a day some days it was 4 times in a day

[navyP]

More than she would like but less than I would like

[pajamasam]

Anywhere from once a week to every other day.

I have a pretty high sex drive.

[Elliegirl]

A few times a week on average. Some weeks it may be just a couple of times, and some weeks it might be everyday.

[Cryptic-Game]

I only have sex within marriage and about 3 days per week.

[msc545]

2-3 times per day usually. SO loves sex and I love it with her.

[Enochian]

3-5 times a week maybe. Well, that would be the minimum number of times if I ever get into a good stable relationship

[goodlongman]

That depends on the partner and age for me before 40 as many times a day as I could get... 40 to 52 once a day... now once a week is good

[ultimatecatfish]

Basically when we are both not working/family/social gathering, we are doing something sexual, at all times. While watching tv or cooking/eating or playing video games.

[wellendowedwonder]

As often as we like which is at least an hour a day

[Chunkysalsa90]

I'd say about 4/5 times a week, sometimes more.

[oncpl]

If she lives separate, I usually have sex twice a week, and if we are living together, frequency increases; sometimes daily.

[Anonymous]

Well for me we got to be married, now I would engage in foreplay but not actual sex until we got married.

[MandaFanta]

2 times a day at least

[Therisinghero12]

In the only relationship I've ever had sex in, a few times a week, as my ideal, probably a few times a month if that.