Is it my place to try and talk my sister out of getting a boob job?

[Anonymous]

My sister has always been really self conscious of her body since i can remember. Especially her boobs. She actually has very large boobs its just one is bigger than the other and it sometimes slips out her bar causing embarrassing wardrobe malfunctions.

I guess me and my other sister haven't helped matters, were always making fun out of her for odd boobs there not even a nice shape either if im honest very saggy and pointy.

She has a boyfriend and i assume he doesn't have a issue given the sounds coming from her bedroom at night. I caught her looking house much it cost to get a boob job and it's around £8000 in the UK.

She said she had no idea how she was gonna get that kind of money but now she's told us she's been asked to audition for a game show. She's very good at quizzes especially pop culture one's so i think she has a good chance but i don't think she should be spending her money on superficial things like that and she should be happy in her own skin.

She even told me depending how much she wins she might get a nose job done too.

[Dinklex3]

" i don't think she should be spending her money on superficial things like that and she should be happy in her own skin"
I guess you've never money on something "superficial " before. She's spending money on what will make her happy and improve her confidence. You shouldn't preach for someone to be happy in their own skin when you put that very person down and increased their insecurities. And you continue to do so in your post.
No. It is not your place to talk her out of it. Your opinion doesn't matter. & I hope she does what ever makes her happy

[elizamichale1]

Well tbh all u can do is to give her confidence that she should own n be proud for what she is n whatever body type or tits she has
But it seems like its going to be hard for her to listen to this specially coming from you as you have made fun of it
But anyways in the end it is her choice n right and if she goes for it she must choose a proper and authentic place to get it done

[simonqq]

Lol the details on her boobs lol. Some sag is very natural especially for bigger breasts and big nipples are just a plus in my opinion (not sure how her nipples are of any importance to the question). I can see how if the difference is big it can be annoying but I also agree she shouldn't spend money on that and very likely it won't look good.

In the end it's her choice and maybe you will learn that making fun of people can make them self conscious about it and insecure.

[Anonymous]

Its absolutely fine to speak your mind, thats all we have after all, you can't force people to do what you want them to do, but argue? Sure.

From my perspective this problem exists in her mind not her body and that is the only place it can be deal with.

I really dont like cosmetic surgery it gives me the heebie jeebies.

She is of course free to do whatever the fuck she wants though.

[AustinMan]

It''s not your place to comment, just support her decision.

[ManWithThePlan123]

I think as her sister, you could try to convince her otherwise, but it probably won't work. I'd talk to her boyfriend and see what he thinks about the whole thing, he would probably be able to convince her if you are that worried about it.

[alc24]

You don’t really have the option to talk her out of it, and if it causes wardrobe malfunctions maybe it’s good for her to get one.

[summiter]

It is your jon to talk her out of it. Also get her boyfriend to tell her to let it go.

[foxrider77]

Show her the amount of money it cost, then show her how she could double her money by investing it. She probably won’t gaf and still waste the money on instant gratification.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

If she's too big then why try to stop her? I dated a DD girl when I was young, and she was very unhappy with them. She couldn't jog or run and her back always hurt. She hated the way they fell to her sides when she laid on her back, and she envied girls with small boobs.

I'm all for talking girls out of getting bigger boobs, but getting a breast reduction and reconstruction could make her happy and be in her best interest.

[jkm1864]

Look I'm just speaking from experience that when someone gets big boobs with no ass to back it up it looks really bad. Also boob jobs look good in clothes but not so much when those clothes come off.

[Jenny4455]

Her body, her choice. Maybe don't bully people next time and they might not feel so uncomfortable with their body

[Jamie05rhs]

You shouldn't have made fun of her. This is partially on you.

[Wise4myage]

Its her decision to make and you should only offer your opinion if she asks for it. But you and your sister need to stop making fun of her boobs, because that's not helping matters at all.

[TheFlak38]

you're just jealous that she will look better than you.

[Asker]

Lol Yeah thats what it is... How did you know?

[EyesOfGod]

Why not a breast reduction on the bigger one and then a lift on both? That way she's still all natural.

[EyesOfGod]

But its her decision in the end and there's nothing you can do.

[Steve37]

If you care about your sister and you think she's making a mistake, you should tell her about your concerns. However, being that you make fun of her for it, I doubt she'll listen to you.

[F1nski]

I don't know, But it would help her to have boob job.

[JoseLuisGonalez]

If she's experiencing psychological distress as a result of her boobs she can possibly get free treatment on the NHS. Lucky she lives in the UK!

No, you can't talk her out of it if you were ribbing her about her breasts.

[Anonymous]

You give her a complex and then you want to stop her from feeling better? You're a bad sister

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should talk your sister out of it. Especially since you are probably the one who has talked her into it.