My ex made fun my boobs a lot. How can I get over it?

First off I wanna clearify that he wasn't exactly my ex. He was a guy that I liked but he led me on for a while and kinda used the fact that I had feelings for him. I have gotten over everything except the part that he made fun of my body a lot bcus I'm flat-chested and was kinda skinny. And considering that he was the first guy I slept with, it was really hurtful and deeply made me insecure Some of the things he said were "why don't you have boobs you look like a guy" "you boobs look like tits on a fat boy" "you look so flat from this angle" I told him to stop saying those things but he didn't, even after I couldn't hold it and cried in front of him. He said he was only joking I shouldn't have taken it seriously. He also mentioned I got a flat ass few times even though some other people seem to think I got a decent ass. After I ended everything with him, this still affects me. I always had sex with a shirt most of the times bcus I'm really insecure about my flat chest and scared I would hear those things again. I still feel bad every time I think about it. What should I do to stop myself from feeling bad and be happy with myself again? Or should I consider getting a boob job?
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  • Seems he was just trying to hook you along by playing on your insecurities. Some people get off on that sort of thing, more than drugs or sex. Best get rid of such toxic people from your life.

    As for boob job - that's a bit extreme. Always remember, surgery of any type can go wrong as well as right. If you are below 30 then you could try boosting your
    phytoestrogen levels by eating green veg and such. It could help you develop in your required areas. But maybe you would be best to speak to a doctor first as it may be your stress levels are the problem. He might even have some better oestrogen supplement recommendations.

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  • Sorry to hear this, I think you need to firstly recognize how much of an asshole he was and then think well how much does the opion of an asshole matter?

    I'm sure you know a ton of guys like small breasts, me included but what we think won't help you. You'll need to learn to like them or at least accept them and not feel ashamed. Practice in the mirror naked and become comfortable with your naked body, take photos and try to feel sexy. It might take some time but you can definitely become comfortable with your breasts and your body in general.

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  • You really should have kicked him in the dick. You'd have felt better and maybe he'd have learned a lesson. The problem isn't your boobs - the problem was that he was an insensitive asshole. Be happy he's now an EX!

  • Where do you find these guys honestly... literally the whole community of girls here seem to date ass-holes.
    The story begins:
    "He defended me..."
    "He supported me through a bad time"
    "He's the only one that's ever cared about me"
    ... then
    "He made me cry"

  • Only dick heads pick on people for things that they have no control over. I'm just going to say that You either need to learn to be comfortable in Your own body or get a second job and save up for a boob job.

  • A guy who cares about you wint care about stuff like that.

  • Dump him.

  • make fun of his balls and you are even

  • He is a jerk I bet you have a great body

  • Hed a jerk, forget it and him

  • Maybe he was a boob guy?
    If you date an ass guy or a guy who loves your face he probably won't care much about your boobs.
    There really are different kinds of guys.
    I'm primarily about face and ass.
    Boobs are not as big of a deal to me.
    If she has a cute face, tits and ass aren't even that important to me.
    My biggest celebrity crushes don't even have much tits and ass.

  • Get yourself a boob job, about a 38DDD, then start working out and loose some weight. Then let him see you so he can weep. Get even!!

  • Flat chests are my favourite... At the end of the day you gotta love yourself. You can't ever make everyone happy. People have different tastes. I prefer A cups, other prefer DD