How do you get over rape?

[Anonymous]

I was sexually assaulted by men when i was younger. The worst of them was.. a father figure to me. It still haunts me to this day. I haven't been able to forgive him. What can i do?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

First let me say that I’m sorry a man took advantage of you. I’ve help many young women get over being raped. That is to say I’ve helped them understand, emotionally deal with it and return to place where they can find intimacy enjoyable again. Sadly whenever something as traumatic as being raped is concerned people will tell you time heals all wounds. This is not true, time doesn’t heal all wounds it just makes it hurt less often.
When it comes to moving on with life it’s important to note that when something bad is experienced we must try to have good experiences. When I was young I hated my mom. She was a nasty awful person. So when we went to Disneyland it was terrible. As an adult I went over and over to replace the negative memories with positive ones. However with sex this can be difficult since it’s such an intimate act. I’d be happy to go into more detail if any women out there need help and can trust. Just PM me.

[Daniela1982]

You are still hurting because you haven't forgiven. The Lord says if you can't forgive others how do you expect to forgive you? He forgives us for far worse things yet we cannot forgive someone else? Beside this, it is hurting you more than them by holding on to it.

[N192K001]

By multiple men… including a trusted father-figure…? Ouch…

Have you ever contacted the police to report the incidents and/or the local rape victim hotlines/support-groups in your area? Surely, they should be able to help.

Perhaps, the local support-groups should be able to help. They should have the training, experience, statistics, and info needed to more effectively advise you in your specific case (s).

[jgokgotit]

You will never fully get over it. However, in time you realize not all men are bad. Most men are decent and would never do that. Just pray to God for healing. There really is no cure for the effects of rape.

[meetkitty123]

Find a local Women center or DV center for counseling.
Press charges if you still can.
Join a medical group to speak with other women who have survived the same trauma.
Counseling is key.
I do not believe you can forgive easily especially if you don't seek counsel.
Forgiving may or may not come.
The key is not to continue living in pain shame or anger. Professional help is needed.

[Quackthulu]

You don't. You just get even

[Secret6620]

Trauma therapy and "Radical Acceptance"... I'm a Psychology and Early Childhood Development major... And I've been in therapy myself for about four years now... I've experienced many traumas growing up... These methods helped me... Best of luck and I am sorry for your hardship...

You can Google more cognitive skills and tools on your own... Look up cognitive and dialectical behavioral therapy skills and tools and help yourself heal if you can't afford a professional... Good luck...

[Kaneki05]

Don't happen just got to live with it sadly.

[Jenny4455]

you don't get over it

[Agape93]

Get revenge.

[Iron_Man]

Seek out professional counseling

[Steve37]

I don't think rape is something you get over. At best, you learn to live with it. My suggestion is to seek professional counseling.

[In_Trance]

get professional help

[colin77]

Seriously only yr heavenly father can help u

[Cryptic-Game]

I doubt you can. Maybe seek therapy.

[Anonymous]

I confronted her about it several years later, and talked about it with her. She apologized and showed remorse and ultimately I forgave her. It's the only way I could have moved on.