I just read your comments in this thread and geez you're in quite a predicament right now!
Sleeping with three other men outside of your relationship and catching Syphillis is hard luck however there's a possibility your boyfriend could've given it to you and he was asymptomatic if you both weren't tested before sleeping together.
Syphillis is a bacterial STI so can easily be treated and cured with Penicillin.
You have two options...
1. Tell him the truth and ask him to be tested as well for Syphillis to see if his results come back positive or negative. If positive then you know your boyfriend gave it to you... if negative then it's 1 of the 3 other men you slept with so you'd need to inform them of your STI status!
2. Don't say anything at all. Refrain from having sex with your boyfriend while you're being treated for Syphillis and then going for a retest to make sure the medication cured you and you're clear from the infection.
I wish you all the best and good luck 😊
Well positive from him can mean she gave it to him too
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Hence the reason she needs to be tested.
Do you contact the STD before you meet him? Have you been unfaithful to him? These are important questions and you haven't told us the full story.
I cheated several times. He’s been abusive to since I was 19.
1. His abusive behavior does not justify your cheating. It does justify breaking up with him (not that a justification is needed.) 2. You need to tell him just like you need to tell all of your recent partners, so the source can get tested and treated. 3. There is a possibility that he will go ballistic when he learns the news (although there is a possibility that he has been unfaithful, also.) Perhaps you should tell him when you are in public, such as at a restaurant, so that there will be other people nearby and, hopefully, he won't become violent. 4. How much longer do you want to continue living a sick life? Do you prefer this to a healthier life?
Thank you @OlderAndWiser for trying to tell these idiots how to be normal decent humans. Don't think it'll work here though, which is sad
Of course you should tell him, because he most likely has it too if you've been having unprotected sex since cheating. Bad enough you're cheating on him with not one, but three guys, but to do so without even using protection is so irresponsible. You should care more about the health risks for yourself, but also for your partner. To knowingly spread STD's to other people is not just morally wrong it can also in some cases land people in legal trouble.
In the future, if you're going to have casual sex, you need to use CONDOMS...
No you’ve got to tell him. It’s illegal to knowingly spread an STD. If he still wants to be with you after, then that’s good. If not, then you’ll have to move on. Keep in mind that could put his life at risk as well.
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Besides isn't it against a law if you don't... Or does that depend on where we live...
Either way and even if it wasn't a law it's not ethical not to say it
He is going to find out when his dick isn't looking great. You should definitely tell him before that. Also, you should probably expect him to break up with you. Tell him though and both of you should be taking antibiotics.
No no that depends on the std. She might need to be on antivirals. Hopefully nothing too serious.
She already mentioned that it was syphilis
Yeah i saw it finally. Which is good because it's curable.
You got STDs because you cheated on him and slept with another behind his back?
In any case, please do the right thing and tell him. So that he can visit the doctor and check whether you have spread it to him.
Don't keep silent and pretend nothing happened. You owe it to him to at least tell him that.
Tested positive for what? And yes, you should totally tell your boyfriend!
I have syphilis. I cheated on him with three other guys. My boyfriend doesn’t know yet and I know he will beat me.
Well, how about you just break up with him? Syphilis is curable, but you shouldn't put your boyfriend at risk. If he beats you, then you should've left long ago, instead of going and cheating on him. It's not too late to break-up. Stop making horrible decisions
Take a look at this: www.itsyoursexlife.com/.../talk-to-your-partner
Yes you most definitely should tell him, as he might have it too now luv! Antibiotics right away!
Does he know anything bout the cheating? or no
No he doesn’t know yet.
You say he's been abusive to you so why do you give a shit passing it to him. Just give it to him as a parting gift.
That’s illegal
That would legally be assault
True but I suspect if he's the abusive type he isn't going to report it.
U have to tell him as he may already have it and if u know the source? if it's something curable then I imagine he would b cool about it, but something that is lifetime may be a game changer.
Of course you should tell him! How the hell did you get it? Because if you got it from him he needs to know so he can go to the hospital and get it dealt with (syphilis for instance if allowed to go unchecked can cause brain damage in the future (people would end up in the mental asylum because it would cause the brain to become inflamed causing delusions) Diseases are easily treatable but when not they can be dangerous and outright deadly). IF you didn't get it from him (i. e. cheating) he needs to know so he can get it treated and then dump you. Either way he needs to know.
You're required by law to tell all of your sex partners this information.
You definitely need to tell him, especially if it's a serious one. Try to sit down with him and be honest; if you tell the truth, it'll be better than hiding it and him finding out on his own. Definitely get treated for it and get rid of it as quickly as you can, and if you contracted the STD through unsavory means (cheating or something of that nature) you should probably come clean about that as well. Having an STD shouldn't drive a partner completely away from you, but you have a responsibility to be open and honest about it since you're his girlfriend.
What are your reasons for staying in a relationship with this guy after he's been abusive to you?
uuuuhhh... where does it say that?
@Silver158 In the comments.
@flower7 I only see other people speculating that he might be not the OP saying that he is.
when he wants you to have sex with him , then tell him it is not a good idea for you to do this with him for you have STD and that he should be tested for this in case you gave it to him ! then you had best get into contact with all your sex partners so they can be tested too ! this is what you get for being a - hoe , slut and prostitute - ! thanks
Yes ma’am.
Those who aren't getting any usually are the quickest to point fingers... Having said that , you should tell all concerned to avoid further transmission...
You said you have cheated many times because you don't love your abuser. Know that he did not make a mistake in abusing you (he does it on purpose) and you did not make a mistake by cheating (you did it on purpose). You should tell him about the STD in public as someone suggested and also end the relationship. Why do you stay? God dammit. You should have been collecting years of recordings with his voice (phone in pocket, recorder running, incase you should need it to get a restraining order or so... Tell him if you did not careabout him you would keep this secret from him, but because you care, you are letting him know you have an STD.
Have you been playing around, and cheating?
You must tell him. And he should test too, if you had unprotected sex. If you're too afraid to tell directly or embarrassed or something, text him and say you have something very important to tell, but feel uncomfortable about it, so you'd rather text about it. When he asks what's wrong, tell him that you have an STD. Then it's his choice, whether he'll discuss it directly or with text.
You HAVE to tell him since you are also putting him at risk for that same STD too
Ah, here ladies and gentlemen is a good example of a very low quality woman. Contracted an STD because she cheated. And now she gave it to her boyfriend. Why? Because her boyfriend is abusive. So instead of breaking up, she cheats. Becuse that justifies everything. Apparently, that boyfriend benefits her with something for her to string him along while getting dicked down by other dudes. So she tries to land herself another dude before she monkey branches from her boyfriend to another dick. I would start testing for HIV if I were you. I'm very sure he would be interested to know if he got infected by that aswel.
On point! This is such a trash class example, that i would keep my distance from. Next thing you know - she may have the coronavirus as well. Disgusting and sick.
Hopefully she did not get anything serious but to be fair these are both messed up people as long as she did not give him something serious I would say he deserved it, NOT JUSTIFIED CHEATING AT ALL by the way, I just think bad things should happen to bad people. On a side bar if people are cheating etc why the hell would you not use protection for God’s sake it’s already risky sexual behavior.
@likelyOK Yeah, it also really depends on what she means by "abusive". That term is thrown around so easily by society in order to label someone as bad, while in reality, they may not be so bad. Perhaps the guy didn't give in to her bullshit or gave her the thing she wanted, but not needed. And therefore she labels him as "abusive". We can't know unless we got insight in their relationship (although I couldn't care less). So we can't say that he truly did deserve it. Bad things should indeed happen to bad people, hence why she got an STD herself. Her boyfriend should dump her instantly.
You have to tell him. It’s illegal not to. You recommend he gets tested gas well and if you stay together and are intimate depending on what you tested for I recommend every 3 months both of you get tested until you both are free for 1 year
You need to tell him.
You would expect him to tell you.
You have to say something. You just have to be an adult and say it. And you have to tell everyone that could have been infected. Watch THE OFFICE episode when Micheal calls and tells everyone about his STD. It happens but it's a premiscuous world we live in. They have free condoms at bars. Tighten up.
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