Girls, Is there a divide between "good girls" and "sluts"?

[SwanHale]

The human race are all sluts on the inside besides a-sexual people. The only difference between good girls and sluts isn’t that they are any different biologically but sluts having no self control where as good girls have good self control realizing that the only priceless thing we will ever have is our bodies and love and valuing yourself. Men want valuable things. So a girl, through her actions, showing her body is not valuable men will treat her like that. And same with a good girl, men will reflect how she treats herself MOST of the time in the beginning stages of interest. Also the type of interest from men will be totally different between a slut and a good girl. And this only does apply to women because as a women you should hold the responsibility that you, as a women, have MUCH more to lose than a man when having sex. It’s not an excuse for men to have lots of sex but it’s also not an excuse for YOU to have lots of sex just “because guys can sleep around why can’t I?” Thats extremely irresponsible and unattractive.

[Ano_nymuso]

There is a huge difference difference between the two. But then names we give them aren't correct. A slut is a female who's confident in expressing her sexual desires just like men do, they don't fear judgement but care more about their own feelings and needs, so she's not a slut she's just sexually active woman. And a good girl might be shy or nervous about letting out her deepest sexual desires because of different factors or simply not interested in the kind of things the other type of woman are attracted to.

[kaylaS91]

There’s always going to be a ‘divide’ between two groups. Even though they may be of the same gender, they differ in more ways than one
i. e. views on sex and what it means, cultural significance of sex, how important (or not) it is to be viewed favorably by men, etc..


I think I’d fall into both categories you’ve mentioned, depending on my mood. I support some behaviours/views from both groups but I don’t place too much significance on it anyway. I mean.. it’s just a label in the end.

[sejla]

High sex drive doesn’t necessarily mean a woman are going to mean that she is going to engage in casual sex. It comes down to a woman’s personality.

I think the labels of good girl and slut can be harmful. The good girl girl might end up in a box feeling like any exploration is wrong if it falls out of “acceptable “ perimeters set by herself, her family or her community. It can bring undue guilt.

For those who are labeled slut it can open the door to community disrespect towards that woman. A woman should not be judged as long as what she does is not harmful to herself or others.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think so. Good girls are really just the girls that are innocent, cute, kind/sweet, and most would not think of you doing (and even saying) anything sexual, sex specifically though. So yeah, basically good girls are painted as not having sexuality and I know most would say that's extreme but when you think about it it'd make sense. A slut is just a girl who has sex with people she doesn't even know and has no relationship at all with them. However, I've heard you don't even need to have sex to be a slut, which doesn't make sense. But I guess that'd be the extreme way for them just like how I described that for good girls. Either way both can be pretty degrading terms. Everything else is highly dependent on how somebody views sex.

[PettyBoop]

I don't think I understood how to answer so I'm going to clarify. I think most women have at least some degree of sex drive and sexual needs that need met. It's not a bad thing at all and it's a shame that so many women get a bad rep for it. I'm all for embracing your sexuality, whatever that looks like. If that's having sex with loads of partners or just a couple your entire life. Unfortunately, yes, there is a divide but only because women are so often shamed for their sexuality that it gets in their heads and messes them up. Women are conditioned to believe that their worth is based on their sexual experience and the more you have, the less you're worth and it's just not true.

[petrichowu]

Absolutely. Most women dress and act like both in different situations, but I have definitely seen both types of women judge each other. To someone more promiscuous, modest women are seen as prudes who aren't inclined to have sexual encounters, but modest women judge looser women as whorish or think they lack self-respect. I feel like the divide is toxic, because in the end we're all women and have our individual pros and cons. No woman should be judged too harshly for having a certain personality or style

[dandiecandie]

Well i think that a woman has sex because she enjoys it and it's a natural instinct. To call a woman a slut because she gives her body what it needs for her to feel happy, it's the same thing as shaming her for loving herself. Sex is not love in this case. It's a physical action that the body requires when hormones reach a certain peak for both men and women. To call someone a slut would imply that she has a lot of sex. She has it cause she finds it necessary to do so. It doesn't mean that she does it cause she just wants the title of a slut. So to me a good girl is not someone who choices to have or not have sex. It's someone who has positive intentions and is kind. Goodness of a person and whether or not she has sex do not go together. You can have a girl who doesn't have sex but is not a good person.

[MamaTBarron]

So this is assuming that we're still holding women to the same standards as we did before and they are not allowed to use their body freely like men right? I do not believe that there is such thing as a slut. So is there a difference between a good girl and a slut no.

[scarlett774]

Tbh I never got what “slut” meant as a way to humiliate girls. Because all the girls I’ve ever seen be called a slut is because they slept with a guy or a they wore a scandalous bikini. I just don’t get what slut means. But I guess There’s a difference but I wouldn’t say there’s a Divide because I wouldn’t not be friends with a “slut” or a good girl.

[FreyaRed]

Of course there is a divide. "Natural female sexuality" has a wide spectrum. Something is for some girl natural for others it is not.
Why do boys always try to putt ALL girls in one very stereotypical drawer? Is this some fetish or just lack of observations skill?

[emerald_17]

If you think respecting your body and treating it like a temple is taking in whoevers energy then do your thing. Being a slut to me is someone who will suck anyone's dick , or fuck whoever just because. Then it's a matter of addictive personality at that point. Too much of anything isn't good. And it passes diseases. For instance my roommate hooked up with a bunch of guys all the time and met them on various sites, and wanted they're money or wanted a sugar daddy. She had active warts, but just fucked everyone without a condom because she said last time they didn't see it. Do I'd be on the safe side. I don't know

[Anonymous]

I think good girls and sluts are opposite. I suppose "good girls" are the ones who behave in public and have standards. Whereas sluts show too much of their bodies or body parts in public (such as real life and/or social media), and/or flirt with multiple guys, and/or have sexual encounters with multiple guys. However, I think that guys who are obsessed with females who are sluts, don't have standards, either. I think that the best is for a female to be a good girl in public, but bad girl in private for her man.

[Anonymous]

Good girls are girls that have principles and follow them, have integrity. They consider many times as boring and guys didn't prefer to go out with them because are serious. It happened to me many times.
Sluts are consider a woman who is promiscuous and don't want commitments. But I don't think that is dangerous if both have clear intentions.
For me, the riskiest type is the fortune hunter:
aren't sluts, but aren't good girls too. They are looking for a rich guy and only matters it, guys can recognize them as a superficial person. And the funniest is many guys feel attracted by her even when they noticed their intentions.

[Anonymous]

Goodness I was going to answer this sooo much different than going into slut shaming and all that. Lol I was going to say they fit really well in the same sentence or something along those lines. (Face palm)

Slut in older language actually referred to women who didn't keep their rooms clean. (Something I heard don't know how true it is)

[Anonymous]

They are made up concepts really, and it depends on your definition of a good girl or a slut... e. g. a girl I use to know was a born again christian and wanted to wait till marriage for sex, but getting STIs from anal was just fine with our lord clearly...
Sluts for example, does that mean sleeping with lots of guys, or how you present yourself? The term is mainly an insult, but the meaning is subjective... as is being a good girl...

[jennifer_bloom]

I care more about a girls honesty and dignity than I do about her sexual history - so long as she isn’t sleeping with guys that are taken or off limits or exploiting their emotions to feel better about herself - not to say promiscuity is okay but it’s between them and God and God will judge them if He chooses - all I care is they respect me and respect others

[Mystic_Nova]

Good girls are girls who have sex when they meet a guy, get to know him and when he's ready, they have sex.


"Sluts" are more promiscuous and have little interest in having a relationships, and just look for carnal gratification.


Basically, one is more open (hehe get it) and one is more conservative and takes the effort and time to get to know the guys she's sleeping with and isn't a easy lay.

Also, it can depends on her attitude and her behavior.

[CubsterShura]

Do you mean to say only 'sluts' have natural sexual desire and all other girls are asexual vegetables? Fuck this narrative that if we have an ounces of sexuality in ourselves then we have to become animalistic and act on it and we don't have the option to control it and save ourselves for the right man nonetheless.

[Wishfire17]

Yes. I'm a good girl. I have never slept around, I have only slept with guys that I was in a very serious relationship with and I treat my body like its special, by not handing it out and showing it off to everyone.
A slut will meet a guy and sleep with him in the same day and I mean this will be a reoccurring thing. First date? Sex... meet at a club? Sex... hanging out with a guy friend? Sex.

[MissDawn7961]

I am a good girl and will wait until my honeymoon to have sex with my husband ! however , sluts will do it with anyone , anywhere and at any time ! that is why they are called sluts ! thanks

[Bellaco]

Of course there is... men repect the good girls and just sleep or reject the "slut" definition of "slut " is someone who sleeps around. I personally would not date a male slut

[gaygod_19]

Tbh voting yes on this question doesn't mean they agree with slut shaming (since the question doesn't shame sexually active females) and second of all... the "good girl" and the "slut" thing is just labels that our misogynistic society has created in order to shame and put women down.

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

girls who don’t Enjoy sex or like sex just when they like someone and sexually liberated girls are supportive of one another because all women are different, there’s no right or wrong way to be a good woman

[JosyJosy]

To me, the sluts give up their body to one guy after another, or those attention whores who post nudes to get attention, like it's all they have to show

[talulahbee]

You kind of say the same thing in both options.

Is there a difference between good girls and sluts, or is it just used to shame people?

Its a confusing question, could be worded clearer.

[DianaWest]

there is a divide. it is hard to take a girl who is showing half her ass seriously.

[Liz_thorne]

The divide is artificial, stupid and only enforced by shaming.
Someone's sex life or lack thereof really doesn't concern other people. It's time to just let women express their sexuality however they want and stop shaming them for it.

[Baopu22]

There is somewhat a divide from what I think. I personally think either can be a bad or good girl. A girl who sleeps around could still have a caring heart and a girl who doesn't could be cruel to animals and vice versa. However, a guy who sleeps around is often called a playboy but if a girl does the same she's called a slut.

[fillthevoid]

Nah. Good girls are just bad girls not caught. We're all sluts of varying degrees, some are just better at hiding it than others but it shouldn't be a defining factor of someone's personality.

[Anonymous]

In my experience good girls are less likely to cheat tbh. I wouldn't have made that association until I met one.

[Dutchgirl97]

Its doesn't matter if you're a girl or a guy- if you dont respect your body and chose to not have standards and have a "look at me." mentality- you're a slut.