IS it creepy that I haven’t even been kissed and I am turning 27 soon? Guys, is it turn off 😭😭😭?

I am not creep or ace, I am hyper romantic but my life always have been very busy and empty that I lost myself 😣🥺(I still wonder how I survived from my toxic life 😢😪) but now I really want love but is it creepy that I even haven’t been kissed in my life? Is it turn off guys? I am pretty, caring, bubbly and pretty friendly outgoing type aka I don’t think I am boring or ugly, many people have liked me before but either I was busy or those boys wanted to take advantage of me so no matter how much I liked them, I rejected dating them so aka no kiss or nothing 🥺👉👈 I still feel very young and I look younger too but will it be turn off if you (as a guy) like me and then you find out I am virgin and not ever been even kissed and then you get to know I am 27 (soon turning 😭) ? Is it bad? But I don’t wanna just go kiss random dude just to you know... ahhh... is it turn off? 😭😭😭😭 I am feeling real insecure 😟 and yes I am little naive about all these private things too but I hate porn and I am shy (not insecure ok just shy), not naive about relationships though because obviously I am turning 27 I am responsible and mature... I don't know what more to say 🤭 what do you think 😢👉👈
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  • Well its not creepy thats totally the wrong word to be using.

    Virginity doesn't bother me but when you are still a virgin at 27 its hard not to think that you are really hung up on sex and that that is going to be a problem of some kind, my expectation would be that you wouldn't want to do it, wouldn't enjoy it and wouldn't be at all adventurous.

    I would be asking if you masturbated and what your own private sexual world was like to try to find out if we share the same interests.

    But it probably doesn't matter what i think because I am not a virgin, Im not religious and I guess i have an expectation that anyone who waits that long would also want to be with someone who had also waited or was religious or something.

    Its not a deal breaker, I would explore the possibility and have the conversations.

    It makes me sad to hear about people being virgins at unusually high ages, especially like 40 etc it really just seems awful to me, its usually a religious person holding out for a marriage that never happens, I can't see that person as anything other than a victim of a disgusting and abusive belief system, I despise religion for many reasons, this is one of them.

    • * sigh * it’s literally weird... my life has been weird 😭 I don’t know how do I explain myself since I can’t share some personal things but no I haven’t been abused physically but mentally yes I have been through little, and no I am not religious about this it’s just but I am relationship type, and literally trust me 90% of times things that I have seen disgusts me and rest 10% times it was my fault 😢 because I did put others first... is it weird I would say I would like to be in relationship with more experienced guy now? Because as I said I am naive about this stuff 🥺👉👈 though I am real shy but i am definitely not... I mean shy as in I am not one with rbf and too silent running away from everyone but nowadays I see around everyone is in relationship, everyone? 😢 few showed interest in me and they already had girlfriend? How bad those guys 😢 Aish I don’t know I am just ... ahhh 🤷🏻‍♀️🥺

    • Im not sure i completely understand what you mean about 90% of the time things digusting you etc Nothing at all wrong with wanting to be with someone more experienced but what you have to understand about sex is that its like food, there are so many different things that people can be into and until you actually try it you can't be sure what you will like, which is why i was talking about exploring your sexual interests through masturbation. There shouldn't be any judgement about what people are into, there is only one rule and that is consent. Everything and anything is ok between adults who consent. Dating is really hard, its definitely not everyone who is in a relationship and its the same thing again, there are so many different people with different interest wants and needs, geography, time commitments, children, pets, life goals, money, social standing, politics, religion, the list of variables is endless. The only thing i can tell you for sure is that there are no perfect people and no perfect relationships, you are going to have fights and problems with anyone you get involved with, so its really important to communicate.

    • Oh hmmm yes thank you so much for advice, yes compatibility is very important but I would like your opinion about this... erm... what if a guy liked her a lot and they are very compatible in most ways but she when it comes to these things she might not know herself well but after exploring would it be boring or turn off for a guy if things are not as matching about this thing only? I mean in other aspects both are so compatible but I am not sure about these things so... ? You know what I mean? Then is it a deal breaker for guys?

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  • No it's not creepy. For me isn't a turn off but you are shy and relatively naive with your age and it's unusual? Yes it is. It's a problem? No.

    I think it can be a perk of the way you are for a relationship, I can imagine some things if we would be compatible and comfortable on dating/relationship

    But anyway, I hope of what I said could be of help to you :)

    • Uwu it really makes me feel less insecure I don't know what to say 🥺

    • Np xD

    • 😊😊

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  • I dont think creepy is a word i'd use to describe your lack of experience with kissing.

  • Is not creepy is just not that common but it's fine.

    • It’s fine right? Thanks girl... I really hope so 🥺👉👈

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  • I never thought that could happen to a girl, to be honest.
    It will be alright. Age has nothing to do with it. Yes, you are inexperienced when others would already have had even at least one partner, some even more, but that is unimportant.
    Be confident in yourself and just find the right one for you when it is appropriate.

  • No it's not creepy and it's not a turn off. You are very unique and it's an attractive quality if a girl opened up to me like that. Some will find it hard to believe a girl can be like how you describe but little things can give you away that you're exactly how you describe.

  • In it self no its not a turn off alrho I would wonder how if u claim to be attractive and a fun person

    • My life haven’t been easy, it’s literally out of ordinary, lot of toxicity made me forget my own self, I will not call it depression but I cared for others first and now I don’t know if I should regret caring others? But I lost myself and now I am late 🥺😢

    • Better late then never

    • Yea but I am scared of telling this to a guy I will be in a relationship with 🥺

  • It wouldn't be a turn off for me in fact I would appreciate it. I hate porn too, it's so unrealistic and fake.

    • Really? 🥺👉👈 even though she’s naive (about these stuff) ?

    • Yes really.

    • Uwu^^

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  • That's why you stay dressed and talk for 2 or 3 dates. I would want to know your back story. (If I weren't taken), I would be honored to be your first.

    • I dress well but it’s just my life haven’t been easy as I said I lost myself and today I am feeling I am late 😢... I am not waiting till marriage or anything but I want it with my guy only, I should be in relationship with him we should love each other and trust? Yea trust each other... ah I can’t exactly share my story beaucase it’s personal but if I were to explain it little bit it’s still gonna be little long 🥺👉👈

    • Not asking for your back story. Just saying if I were The Guy you were thinking of blessing, knowing your back story would make me a better guy.

    • Oh it means you think it’s not a turn off? 🥺

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  • You write like a 12yo. Just bite the bullet and get out there

  • Yea its kinda weird unless you live in mid east

  • Didn't feel the need to read the whole thing. It's not creepy :p It's whatever. Hell, it's actually kinda nice to have an advantage over someone for once ^^

  • Its not a turn off at all.
    Its not creepy, it is a good thing

    If I went on a date with a girl and she told me what you just wrote, It would make me feel like I found a special woman, and I would prove to her I am worthy of a first kiss and maybe more.

    I wish I would have waited to get intimate. I think you did the right thing

  • the issue is basically visible in the way you're talking xD "i have not been kissed". kissing is not something that is done to you. kissing is something you do with someone together. if you wanna kiss someone, go kiss them. don't sit and wait to be kissed xD

  • I guess depends on how you are as a person and what you look like. Creepy isn't the word for it. More like unusual and maybe a red flag. To not be kissed for so long, seems very hard to do for a "normal" person is going to be the perception for most.

    • Yea that’s why I used word creepy, people might be like what’s wrong with her? Is she ace or something? (I am not saying being ace is creepy ok) but they might think is she is not ace then something must very bad with her or something ykwim? And as i said boys have liked me, lot of them actually, both personality wise or look wise, but my life was not easy, you said red flag? 😣 now that’s what I am afraid of aka it’s a turn off isn’t it?

    • I'm not saying anything is wrong with you, but yes that might be the perception. Do you have any inclination to change your situation in the immediate future? You say you're turning 27 and this is a concern, but never mentioned that you are looking to get experience.

    • Yes i never said I am looking for experience, the reason is I just don’t wanna go to random dude and be like make me experience or teach me everything, I am little conservative but not religious, I mean I never thought it’s a sin but even now... I mean when I like him he likes me back then I have no problem but I am scared telling a guy that it’s my first that’s why I asked question here, I don’t wanna pretend I know and if he is too experienced he will know I am lying and it’s not good so I don’t wanna lie and honestly it’s my little insecurity? Yes 😣 i am very mature but I still feel really young and look younger too I really wish i was 20 because that’s What I am inside

  • It's not "creepy." Why would it be.

    • I swear to god girls are creeped out by everything I can't write a single comment on YouTube without a girl replying “god your such a creep”

    • My comment: i like to cook in microwave Girl: CREEP

    • @Poopoofairy Yeah lots of girls are dumb that way.

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  • It's not creepy, it's definitely not a usual thing but who cares were all different. Go for it!

  • it's a lot more normal than you think. Everyone experiences things like that at different points in their lives and it's nothing to be embarrassed about.

  • It's not creepy but it sure is strange

  • The overuse of emojis is worse than the fact you haven't kissed a guy

  • Far from it, it would be ideal for me.

  • No idea what to think.
    In some countries that's normal. In the west that would be unusual.

  • *big hug* you will find someone.

  • I'm autistic and I couldn't even make it to age 16 without a girlfriend putting my hands on her tits forcefully lol.

    How does a normal female get to be 27 without even being kissed? It's so easy for women to get laid.. sssooooo you being *that* inexperienced at age 27 is a red flag.

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