Why do guys always use me for my body?

[Anonymous]

I just got out of a one year relationship not long ago (mutual breakup). My ex's friends have been hitting me up recently. I hooked up with one of them, let's call him Dan (not his real name). Dan was very flirty with me and we talked a lot and had great conversations before we hooked up. Then, we had sex and now we barely talk. I obviously didn't want to date him or anything but I don't understand why he wanted to use me? Same thing with this other guy. He definitely wants to hookup with me but I just wanna be friends, even if we hookup. Even before my relationship, guys would hit me up and then just try to get nudes or sex out of me and not even wanna be my friend. Im not "easy" or anything like that. I don't just show guys my tits after an hour of talking. And I don't even like hooking up. I only have 4 bodies, one being my ex of a year. Like how can I ensure that a guy won't just use me for my body? I actually want to be friends with some of these people too. It also feels soooo shitty for people to only like you bc you're pretty and have a nice body and people want to have sex with you. Like I've never gone on a real date with someone I wasn't in a relationship with. How do I find boys that won't use me? How can I talk to boys but still not come off as easy? How can I flirt with them without them thinking about sex and only wanting to hookup? Men nowadays don't want anything besides sex. Its so sad. I just want a genuine relationship and connection with someone. Someone pls help.

[BeachLuvR97]

Look in the mirror. How do you present yourself--both in terms of dress and demeanor? What do you need to change?

Also, you need to end toxic relationships/friendships. It sounds like you at least figured out how guys think. They generally don't think otherwise. You need to accept this and plan for it.

[Asker]

its sad because I feel like I shouldn't have to change the way I look or dress to change the way men think about me. But thank you for the input.

[Anonymous]

Having sex to seal the deal is a classic female mistake made over and over again. Develop a friendship first. Then date him but tell him you’re not having sex until you’re ready. When he might get frustrated and leave but that’s the point. The guy who proves himself and waits is the guy who wants you for you.

[Alexandrubaschet08]

same question from me for the girls

[joeldalton]

They use you because you put out. Duh. Take some responsibility for your own actions.

[Asker]

but I don't lmao... I don't put out. I don't let them. If I want to hook up with someone I make it clear. I do not flirt with anyone if I don't want to hookup or date them.

[joeldalton]

You’re under 18 with 4 sexual partners already. I’m not buying it.

[Asker]

two of which were people I was in serious relationships with for a year and two years. Just because I explore and have had two hookups doesn't mean I put out to every guy and am a whore. So many people my age have over 10 bodies. I think im fine with 4.

[Matieux]

What do you call "use for your body" unless someone force you physically no body is using you "for your body", yes sometimes people don't want something serious they just want to have some fun and hook up, so if you slept with someone and that someone didn't agree to have something serious with you that doesn't mean that he use you, how can he use you if you slept with hin on your own will and you probably have much pleasure of it

[In_Trance]

Because you let them

[Asker]

How?

[In_Trance]

Read back what you wrote and you'll see