Would it be wrong to have sex with a girl for this reason?

[Anonymous]

I want to get the word out that I’m good in bed. I know this girl and quite a lot of girls actually. And I know very well that they tell anyone and everyone (who is a female) about their sex partners.

She has a boyfriend though. It’s a rocky relationship and they break up all the time.

Why not pick some other girl who is single? Because this girl likes me and wants me even though I am shy.

See, I’m shy. And women do not like shy men. I have been single for years. They usually believe I’m gay, that’s how shy I am.

But I’m very dominant in bed. I’m a passionate lover and I take control easily. It’s the complete opposite of what you see from me in public.

I really can never be that way in pubic. I cannot play mr alpha confidence and grab bitches by the pussy. Girls often approach me even. But like I said I’m shy.

I only break out of my shyness once we are alone together. Than things are great. But as you could probably imagine, nothing about me matters if I’m shy. I will always be overlooked.

So I want to have sex with this girl who I know will blab to everyone and every girl I know about how I did in bed. Which is a good thing for me lol.

I am torn on doing it tho since she does have a man. I don’t have to worry about him finding out. This is girl stuff and I know these girls and many many girls. They will share the information and no man will ever know, least of all her boyfriend.

It’s unfair to him but like, his girl is a hoe. She’s gonna cheat on him anyways, she’s told me she cheated already and has cheated on every boyfriend she’s ever had.

[egarcia1360]

I get that you see an opportunity here, but it's still super fucked up to knowingly help someone cheat, regardless of whether she would've done it with someone else or not. If she were in the "off" phase of the on and off relationship she has with this guy, it would be a different story since they wouldn't technically be together, but what you're describing here is blatant cheating and that's really not okay. I get that this girl's relationship is doomed to fail anyway, but it's her boyfriend's job to figure that out and not yours to accelerate it. There are tons of single girls out there for you, including many who like shy guys even if you don't realize it.

[SarahsSummer]

"I want to get the word out that I’m good in bed" ewe.
Are you really 30-35? If so, you have some serious growing up to do. Seriously!
Why dont you (after growing up) focus on establishing a relationship with a girl. A respectful relationship where you dont feel the need to call a girl you are interested in a 'hoe"

[Asker]

She calls herself a hoe. She calls herself a whore actually. Sorry that I’m not how you think I should be. What is wrong with me? Can you give me more detail on why I’m so immature exactly? I had a very bad childhood and I was abused and friendless until I was 25. I also believed no woman would ever be interested in me and I would die a Virgin. Later I found out I’m extremely handsome and many women like me. However due to my childhood I am insanely shy and lack a lot of confidence. I can’t help but be a lesser human than other people because of how I grew up. I wish I knew what life was like for normal people. I wish I could get a girlfriend but guess what man? Girls don’t like shy men. You say I’m wrong over and over but it’s the truth. Women want me to act like a player. They expect me to be a certain way because I am very handsome. Which actually sucks it almost seems like if I didn’t look like I do I would fare better with women who do not expect me to be this player Mack daddy ladies man. So sorry for having a terrible life and not knowing how normal people live. I have no idea. I wish I was dead every single day.

[Asker]

I just wish women would look past my shyness. Every girlfriend and every relationship I’ve had has been great. But I can’t get into a relationship because women think I’m gay. They think because I am shy, who knows wha the fuck they think. I wish they knew how I am in a relationship. When I’m in a relationship everything is great. I’m a great boyfriend. I treat them well. I’m a good person. I’m not a fucking piece of shit. I don’t treat people like shit. But I have no ability to actually get a girlfriend. Girls expect me to be this amazing confident dude that grabs her by the pussy and takes her home. This is why I want to have sex with this girl. So girls will know I’m not just wimpy loser who can’t please a woman in the bedroom. I know how these girls are. I have a ton of female friends. They date guys because they believe those guys are good in bed. ThT is my belief and I’ve seen how it goes a million times. But i do not act like these men who walk around whispering sexual innuendo in your ear and making you laugh and giggle. I can’t do that shit. Girls want me to dothat shit if I don’t do it they think I’m gay. I’m supposed to be mr pimp playa and if I’m not girls get dissapointed. They go from interested in me because of my looks to sad that I’m not mr confident player red pill guy that takes bitches home left and right.

[Asker]

And I know you’ll say I’m wrong. Then why do my female friends tell me to “fuck bitches get money”? My female friends WANT me to be a player. They tell me I could be a player that I look good enough to have any girl I want. They tell me to date anyone I want and tell me to fuck whoever I want. They tell me to be a man slut and encourage me to do so. So don’t sit here and think I’m just some ignorant loser who knows nothing aboutnwomen. Girls have taught me everything I know. And after learning so much, I see that I do not want to be mr player who fucks bitches and gets money. I don’t want to be like that! But that’s what women want. It’s the opposite of what I am. I just want someone to like me for me but it feels impossible. Girls don’t like men for their personality and who they are. Girls like men for their ability to make them feel submissive and powerless. I won’t do that unless we are in the bedroom. I like to build my friends up. Tell them they can do anything they want, tell them they are strong and can be amazing and go anywhere in life they want to go. Women don’t want that. They want the player who grabs them by the pussy. It makes me feel like shit. I’m gay because I try to encourage the people around me rather than whisper nasty shit in your ear like the other guys who all the girls are having sex with do.

[Asker]

I think my female friends tell me the truth. And I get that privilege because they see that I’m a good person and that I’m handsome. They believe I should be getting women left and right. But their advice for me to get a woman is notnthe same advice that I imagine YOU would give me. You’ll tell me my friends are terrible ornthat I’m immature or whatever. Sorry but I grew up friendless and alone. I’m not an expert in relationships. But I treat my girlfriends very well. It’s just hard to get s girlfriend in the first place when you’re shy like me. So tell m wtf I’m supposed to do.

[SarahsSummer]

What R u supposed to do you ask? First, stop with the idea that women want to know you're great in be. that's akin to saying "I may have lots of STD's, proceed at your own risk" Most women do not want to hear you are great in bed, If we like you and end up deciding to go to bed with you, we will individually decide this from our own experience with you. But, before you even get to the place of proclaiming you are great in be, you need to get to know women individually. I dont believe the women around you are actually advising you as you say. Maybe they are saying you're a handsome man, maybe they are saying you could get any girl you want, and maybe they are saying these things to help you break out of your crippling insecurity. Start by actually getting to know a girl, share your thoughts and life dreams, ask them theirs, get to know a girl and you will suddenly find yourself more comfortable with them and can then stop being so insecure. We dont want players but we do want to interact with guys who are comfortable in their own skin, confidence in ones self is a powerful draw for us and conversely, insecurity turns us away. If a guy isn't comfortable with himself, how can he expect us to be comfortable with him. Getting the word out that you're good in bed is not the answer or approach the vast majority of girls want to hear.

[bigmisssunshine]

Would it be wrong? Yes. Because she’s in a relationship. Does it make a difference that she’s cheated already? No. You know she’s in a relationship and so you clearly don’t care about that guy’s feelings regarding her cheating. It’s disrespectful to him.

[Asker]

I probably would have done it already. But I’ve heard her complain about him. And I’ve heard lots of girls complain about their man. Usually, I’m like “omg that’s horrible!” But in this case, the guy isn’t bad at all. He treats her well. She’s just bored and immature. It’s part of why I don’t feel anything for her like I did in the past. She’s just this immature girl who is going to hurt every man she dates. So I didn’t do it even though I’ve had the chance to. She even told me they broke up and moved back with her mother. She then invited me over. But when I got there, the place wasn’t what I expected. I was going to just jump on her and take her to pound town but it didn’t feel right. What she did was get back with her man, and invite me over while he was at his new job. I didn’t do anything, made zero move on her and kept it friendly. Then again, she has a list of guys she talks to. But so do a lot of girls I know. They are constantly looking for a new man behind their current man’s back. So it’s like sure, I’m not showing him respect. But then again, his girl is a hoe and she’s doing this shit with whoever she can and so are a lot of girls. Why not play the game when I can see it so clearly. 90% of the girls who flirt with me have boyfriends. Like I know it’s immoral for me to fuck a girl who has a man. But girls are in my experience far more immoral than I am. It’s almost expected. I don’t even know what I’m going to do if I end up dating someone. Cuz she’ll be doing the same to me. So in that sense I feel like fuck it, I might as well since it will surely happen to me too. Unless I can figure out how to date a girl who doesn’t do that kind of stuff but how can I tell? Lol.

[AustinMan]

Go for it!

[XxoxX]

Not if you make your intentions clear to begin with. Not all women are searching for a husband lol.

[Asker]

So I should tell her I want her to spread the word about my bedroom performance beforehand? I dunno feels kind of awkward lol. We already have a mutual thing where we both know we want eachother for something casual. We have talked plenty. I simply haven’t gone through with any of it because she has a boyfriend so I’ve been holding back.

[XxoxX]

May feel awkward but don’t be shy, she will respect the honesty.

[Anonymous]

You really don't get girls if you think that's how you'll get them.

[Opinion Owner]

Women would likely be more concerned about the fact that you cheated with her tbh. Not a good look.

[Anonymous]

So tell me. How do you know you’re good in bed?

[Asker]

I feel like that’s a long story. But even when I was a Virgin I would research how to be a good lover. Still didn’t know wtf I was doing but I always tried my best to please my girl. Over time and with more experience I began to have a sexual awakening. And this is the base for where my belief in myself comes from. I think it’s very important and I hope every person has sexual awakening and can have amazing great sex in their life. We all deserve it! It’s too bad that most people don’t seem to ever get there, and are content with lame boring sex that is just pleasurable to get you off... but not next level shit that blows your heart mind and soul. Sex is this amazing thing that should be explored. It’s like a story and stories have infinite variation. It’s like playing as a kid except now you’re playing as an adult. A kinky sexy horny adult playtime but the mental space is the same. Where fantasy and reality meet. I know how to be that kind of lover and I know how to receive that kind as well. To explore our sexuality and just have a really fun and good pleasurable time. That and the women I’ve been with obviously told me I was amazing but anyone could say that tbh I believe in myself I know what I’m capable of and I know what I’ve done in the past and I know where I’m headed in the future... sexually obviously lol.

[Asker]

Plus I’m very masculine and dominant and they love that shit. I just can’t be that way in public. Only when we are alone.

[Anonymous]

I pity whoever the poor girl is who might succumb to your narcissistic sense of self-entitlement !!!

[Asker]

I’m not sure exactly what that means. Could you explain in more detail?

[Opinion Owner]

No, just think about how arrogantly self-entitled you seem

[Asker]

These are insults of which I have never had used against me and I’ve also never used them. I really don’t know what any f that means. Sorry.