How do I deal with this?

[Anonymous]

So basically I'm horny outta my mind and quarantine isn't helping at all. When I was out at like college and shit I didn't really have the confidence to try and talk to anyone, but in a weird catch 22 situation, since I've been in quarantine, I've developed a lot of confidence and there's nothing I can do with it. I'm on like tinder and stuff trying to make things happen and it's kinda working but not as well as I'd like it to. I don't know what to do.

Don't suggest masturbating, you know I'm already doing that.

[daydreammarie]

Things always seem to happen when we seem to not want it to happen or bad timing.

Most people rn aren't going to risk covid for some dick, but that's just most there are people out there that really don't care about it and want what they want. My advice is just play it cool, don't come off all horny and desperate. Women don't like that, its a total turn off. You're probably not going to find this helpful but keep doing what your doing and I'm sure one girl or guy whatever you're into will be interested. Unless you're going wrong about things then you may need to fix that and then proceed. Things take time and especially rn with everything in the world that's going on.
I also don't recommend getting to the point of desperation where you hire someone for sex... its not a good route and usually ends badly.

[daydreammarie]

Forgot to add, distraction is literally the best way to go sometimes. Try to get away from anything that could turn you on. Like if you know a movie was a sex scene, don't watch it. Don't look up porn or anything like it. Usually when I'm feeling that way I talk to friends to keep my mind focused on that or watch youtube, get up and move, etc anything that keeps me from wanting to have my face in a mattress or whatever. It helps. Lol

[Asker]

Yeah no I actually do find that helpful. I'll just keep doing what I am. It should work out. It hasn't yet but it should. Girls are usually interested in that beginning but then aren't after cuz I don't read the signs or whatever other reason. But yeah I'll try to distract myself in some way. It's really hard tho.

[daydreammarie]

Oh good I'm glad you found it helpful!!! After a while of redirecting it gets easier. There might be a few bumps but it should get smoother. As for the signs, that's common. Women are horrible at being straight forward like men. We drop little hints and suggestive things but most of the time won't come out and say "I want to have sex with you" lol. I'm sure there are women who do that but its pretty rare. Make sure to pay attention. Its usually little details. :) You could, if you're on a common hook up site/app etc make it known that you're only looking to have sex. It helps weed out the girls who are looking for relationships. Unless you are looking for a relationship then nvm that. Lol

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Hookers

[Asker]

Yeah no.