Boyfriend laughed when I was giving him a blowjob?

Question

So my boyfriend of 2 and a half years recently just told me that I’m not good at blowjobs, and he’s been complaining that I never do them. Last night I decided I would give him one (ya know to try and get better and him give me advice) well I guess I wasn’t doing very well. He laughed and I got upset, he said it’s cuz I was trying so hard. So I wanted to stop, I later asked him if I was any better, and then he tells me that I wasn’t trying hard enough. Like what? First he tells me I’m trying hard and then it’s not hard enough. (by the way I was trying , just wanted it to be good) so I got upset again and said that he shouldn’t be laughing during that time, that it clearly wasn’t very good. He proceeds to tell me that maybe he just doesn’t like blowjobs.
like yea fucking right, he’s just trying to make himself not seem as bad.
I had to be pretty awful for him to laugh right?

Answer 1

Cynicaldreamer | 1.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Influencer

What a dick- and I'm referring to your boyfriend.

If he's going to laugh at you rather than try to help or tell you what he wants? Stop giving him oral: simple as that.

Even if he was being funny or playing with you, the fact that you're trying to learn so you can please him, yet he still laughs at you? No girl, that's some nonsense. Maybe he'll stop laughing when you find another guy that DOES appreciate you. Am I saying to leave him? No... but I wouldn't let a guy treat me like that, joking or not.

Answer 2

bigmisssunshine

Explorer

What an asshole. My ex did that too. One of the biggest reasons why he’s my ex. You deserve to be treated with respect. Sure your skills might not be what HE is used to, but that doesn’t mean you are bad.

Asker

8 mo
I’m the only chick he’s been with in the past 2 and half years, also hadn’t had sex with a girl in 2 years before meeting me. So he shouldn’t be used to anything as he hadn’t gotten anything two years prior to me!
bigmisssunshine

8 mo
It doesn’t matter how many experience he has. It’s still incredibly rude and hurtful for him to do this. It’s not behavior a boyfriend should have.
Asker

8 mo
No I know. I’m just saying he shouldn’t be used to anything anyways
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bigmisssunshine

8 mo
Yeah.. it sucks 😅

Answer 3

Asker

I’m the only chick he’s been with in the past 2 and half years, also hadn’t had sex with a girl in 2 years before meeting me. So he shouldn’t be used to anything as he hadn’t gotten anything two years prior to me!

Answer 4

bigmisssunshine

It doesn’t matter how many experience he has. It’s still incredibly rude and hurtful for him to do this. It’s not behavior a boyfriend should have.

Answer 5

Asker

No I know. I’m just saying he shouldn’t be used to anything anyways

Answer 6

bigmisssunshine

Yeah.. it sucks 😅

Answer 7

COMMODOREII | 15.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

You are thinking too much into it, but yes to him he didn't think it was good enough. As for me i really am not looking for a girl to try to get me off and be good at it. I want her to enjoy my dick. The fact that she wants me and passionately makes love to my dick is far more important and sensual and hot. Like i do for a girl when i go down on her. Lol

Answer 8

kemo56 | 398 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Awful? He's nuts... Don't bite the hands that feed you, so to speak. Not sure of the problem, if you think... Hell he is an ass... But if u think u need help and he isn't trying to help you... Watch some porn, take notes, but for me the most turn on is to feel you r getting turned on by giving the bj... that's a turn on! GL...

Answer 9

Truthatanycost | 3.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

This manipulation is almost to obvious, and you are falling for it.

Answer 10

jb12358 | 674 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Sounds like he’s being unfair but ask him what he likes and read some tips on an online article and give it a go again

Answer 11

JamesBlackDragon | 1.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

The problem can be easily solved by not sucking his Dick anymore you're not good at it and you seem to not be getting good at it don't worry about it so many other things you can do

Asker

8 mo
He didn’t tell me until recently ( a few days ago) that I wasn’t good at it. I honestly thought I was decent at it, since he never complained about it. I continued doing it that way, as I didn’t know it wasn’t good enough/didn’t know I needed to change the way I did it. Last night was the first time I’ve tried since finding out. I don’t think that means I can never get good at it. Most girls don’t get it the first try, and this is me basically starting over
JamesBlackDragon

8 mo
Have you tried googling how to get better at sucking Dick you might find some articles that might give you some hints
Asker

8 mo
He’s told me to suck harder, says that’s my only issue. So I tried to suck harder and it still wasn’t hard enough
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JamesBlackDragon

8 mo
Do you use your tongue while you're sucking if not try that and in the middle of sucking stop to jack him off while licking the tip maybe try playing with his balls while you suck or even gripped his Dick with your hand as you suck it in-and-out that way you can Jack him off and suck it at the same time
Asker

8 mo
I’ve always done that, and used my tongue as well. It’s just not hard enough
JamesBlackDragon

8 mo
I see if you are sucking as hard as you can and they're still a problem then sucking isn't the problem you might need to change up your technique or something

Answer 12

Asker

He didn’t tell me until recently ( a few days ago) that I wasn’t good at it. I honestly thought I was decent at it, since he never complained about it. I continued doing it that way, as I didn’t know it wasn’t good enough/didn’t know I needed to change the way I did it. Last night was the first time I’ve tried since finding out. I don’t think that means I can never get good at it. Most girls don’t get it the first try, and this is me basically starting over

Answer 13

JamesBlackDragon

Have you tried googling how to get better at sucking Dick you might find some articles that might give you some hints

Answer 14

Asker

He’s told me to suck harder, says that’s my only issue. So I tried to suck harder and it still wasn’t hard enough

Answer 15

JamesBlackDragon

Do you use your tongue while you're sucking if not try that and in the middle of sucking stop to jack him off while licking the tip maybe try playing with his balls while you suck or even gripped his Dick with your hand as you suck it in-and-out that way you can Jack him off and suck it at the same time

Answer 16

Asker

I’ve always done that, and used my tongue as well. It’s just not hard enough

Answer 17

JamesBlackDragon

I see if you are sucking as hard as you can and they're still a problem then sucking isn't the problem you might need to change up your technique or something

Answer 18

Anonymous

Watch some porn and learn from the pros. However, his behavior is disgusting and if you don't really love him, don't give him anymore of your time.

Asker

8 mo
I will never watch porn. I don’t need to see how it’s done. I know how it’s done. I apparently don’t suck hard enough, that is all
MarkyMark77

8 mo
@Asker have you sucked any other dick besides his? how hard are u sucking lol?

Answer 19

Asker

I will never watch porn. I don’t need to see how it’s done. I know how it’s done. I apparently don’t suck hard enough, that is all

Answer 20

MarkyMark77

@Asker have you sucked any other dick besides his? how hard are u sucking lol?

Answer 21

gandolph3

Yoda

you asked him to instruct you and he still gives you a hard time, say goodbye and move on

Answer 22

michael1469 | 1.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

He is a dumbass... he will never get a bj again from you now.

Answer 23

Anonymous

That's mean and discouraging for you.

Answer 24

slatyb | 7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

He's an ass. DTMFA.

Answer 25

Anonymous

Yeah laughing is not good during that

Boyfriend laughed when I was giving him a blowjob?

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