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How much money a year do you make/spend on the pursuit of sex?

Let's be clear, I'm not talking about direct prostitution here. Instead I'm referring to the money guys will spend on a girl in the hope he'll get sex out of it. Every guy knows he can buy a girl expensive drinks all night and she can just say "bye" without so much as a smile if she hasn't the manners to spread her legs. But generally speaking most girls do and in a indirect way we're earning money from sex. Add up all the meals, free rides, reduced tradesmen's bills etc it probably saves us at least a £1000 a year and money saved is money earned.

Guys, how much do you spend on the pursuit of sex and how much does the investment lead to actual sex rather than just a verbal thanks?
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  • I congratulate you on your honesty by implying that most women are "indirect prostitutes". Esther Vilar said it better though;
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    "At birth, men and women have the same intellectual potential; there is no primary difference in intelligence between the sexes. It is also a fact that potential left to stagnate will atrophy. Women do not use their mental capacity: they deliberately let it disintegrate. After a few years of sporadic training, they revert to a state of irreversible mental torpor.
    Why do women not make use of their intellectual potential? For the simple reason that they do not need to. It is not essential for their survival. Theoretically it is possible for a beautiful woman to have less intelligence than a chimpanzee and still be considered an acceptable member of society.
    By the age of twelve at the latest, most women have decided to become prostitutes. Or, to put it another way they have planned a future for themselves which consists of choosing a man and letting him do all the work. In return for his support, they are prepared to let him make use of their vagina at certain given intervals. The minute a woman has made this decision she ceases to develop her mind. She may, of course, go on to obtain various degrees and diplomas. These increase her market value in the eyes of men, for men believe that a woman who can recite things by heart must also know and understand them. But any real possibility of communication between the sexes ceases at this point. Their paths are divided forever."
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    To answer your question, how much do i spend? Unless in a relationship, nothing. The last time i bought a woman a meal on a date and she made it clear after she was only just after said free meal, after that i swore i'd never buy a woman's time again, unless she actually was a direct prostitute.
    In a relationship, i don't know, maybe a couple of meals and takeaways a week, and at one point i was spending about £150 every so often in shopping because she was in a hard time.
    I strictly don't throw my wallet at a woman, not because I'm cheap, but because i know better. I'd rather know a woman values me more as a lover than a provider. So many men think if you throw your wallet at a woman she'll love you for it, as opposed to just loving the wallet itself and not the person attached to it.

    • You're a brainlet

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  • $0, I have stumbled upon girls on Tinder and other dating apps asking me if I want to "see more" to give her money for pics... Uhh no thank you, next. In terms of dates, I haven't been on a date with a girl since 2014 which I spent probably $150 (took her to an NBA game and then went out for dinner). I do not talk to her anymore. I don't go to bars or other sleazy areas to pick up women or buy them drinks. Me asking out a girl in this stage of my life is not for the pursuit of sex it's the pursuit of a relationship and if it blossoms from there, marriage. Honestly... girls ask guys "what's your motive" when girls know 9 times out of 10, it's sex. That 1 guy may be genuine and really want something. But both males and females don't value relationships, it seems like social media likes, enjoying single life and traveling. There's nothing really wrong with that but I guess to each there own. I'm not looking to invest 5 years for a girl to make up her mind. That's why I believe people should be honest after a few dates. Ask them what are their goals, where do they want to be in the future, do they want kids. These are questions that should be asked. I can't be with someone who doesn't align with my vision on relationships. I don't want to spend money to buy a girl's heart to get in her pants, that's stupid.

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  • When I first started of with my current man he spent a lot on me. He WOULDN'T let me pay. I know every time we are out it was easily around a hundred dollars and we went out to eat 3 dinners during the weekend. He also would take me to the cast and give gamble money. I would tell him I'm only here for the company since I don't like gambling. Instead he insists he gamble for him and he'd watch. 🤷 Then he Surprised me with a new wardrobe.
    He would also buy me groceries for me and my kids. I didn't feel comfortable with it but it would cause arguments if I tried to say no. He wanted to.
    I did after some time got him to slow down. I told him instead of buying me things I could use the cash to pay bills... That worked he stopped buying but gave me an "allowance".
    I DID NOT USE IT! I SWEAR.
    I secretly placed it in a drawl and saved it. I was determined to give it back to him.
    Eventually we got serious and he wanted to buy a house he liked but he didn't have enough in his bank for the down payment and guess what
    SURPRISE
    yes he did because I didn't spend a dime of what he gave me. I was so happy to give it back to him

    Then on my birthday everything closed and he took me to the new house. I told him he choose well it was lovely. He kept asking me if I liked it. I finally said it doesn't matter if I like it. You have to like it.
    He shook his head took my hand and dropped the keys in my hand as he said happy birthday it's yours.
    I tried to refuse but he insisted he had his lawyer finishing the paperwork
    I yelped NO
    I deflated him
    I loved him so I took a leap of fate
    I told him the only way I'll accept is if both our names were on the paperwork.
    We moved in together and been together since.

    • That sounded controlling at the start but it had a happy ending. A pleasant read.

    • @BlueEyedBirdWatcher We were friends We helped each other's out I first towards him He was lonely recently widowed Then I got injured at work no pay for the longest comp dragged their heels We sort of balanced each others

    • I agree with @BlueEyedBirdWatcher. But @meetkitty123 I was really impressed with how you saved the money like that. You are a rare woman. You have my utmost respect.

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  • I would say both genders spend money on the pursuit of sex - for women it's lingerie, nice clothes, general appearance, hair removal, etc.

    I don't really 'make' anything out of it haha. My boyfriend of 3 years doesn't take me out anywhere or even have sex with me most of the time. Taking that into consideration, I do spend some money in the pursuit of it. I mean I don't buy designer stuff and I am not high maintenance, but I do always try to look nice. I have spent quite a bit of money on lingerie in the past, but that has died down a bit now because I feel like the lingerie I already have doesn't get enough use.

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  • I spend zero dollars pre-date, but i probably spend $1000-1500 a year on dates in some way or another - between meals and tickets/entrance fees, gas and bridge tolls, general mainstream entertainment (pool/darts/bowling/shooting/etc.), and so on.

    Does it get me laid? Around 1/3 to 1/2 of the time, with that girl, but not necessarily that night.

  • If your married then all your money lmfao but I don’t feel like that’s the case all the time like my girlfriend doesn’t want me to buy her things I just do because I don't know I just want to lmao but she hasn’t ever asked me to buy her anything so it’s not with all girls but a lot of girls you spend anything you have lmao

    • But when I do buy her things it has no association with getting her pussy I get that for free i just buy her things because I care for her and I like to show it and yes I could show it without having to spend money but it’s nice because she can have those things I buy for her as long as she wants to keep them

  • I could write the shortest GAG opinion I've written yet and simply answer "0", but that aside I'd like to motivate my answer. If you are perceptive and you have the ability to make in-depth psychoanalysis in a short amount of time, you won't be needing any money for the pursuit of sex (unless you really are into the actual whore-type of girl, and even then). There isn't a stronger force than the force of psychology when it comes to any aspect of social endeavors, including sexuality. Attraction is a complex phenomenon and operates mostly from the sub-conscious mind, meaning you don't have much control when it comes to how it operates above the surface. You can turn that to your advantage, especially if you're on the higher end of the intelligence spectrum. But, of course, if your motive is just about fucking girls and you're not really genuinely connecting, it could be classified as manipulation and lead to cyclic psychopathic behavior.

  • Money just for sex? Nah. Money for the two of us to have a good lunch/dinner/weekend/vacation, hell yeah! Before I spent money on a car, school and a trip to Germany in the same year, maybe 200-300 bucks depending on the what and where. I honestly enjoy the simple things and I'll only choose someone who likes the simple things as well, so a camping trip near a nearby lake, or a small town with a few breweries, dinner somewhere nice but not fancy. That sort of thing. If it has sexy ending, cool. If not, I wasn't in pursuit of that.

  • Never enough that's for sure I make money so I can do the things I want to do when I want to do them as for the pursuit of sex I don't think that much and for sure not this year i think after sex i spend more because i want to do things go places buy things

  • I do not want to know.. it could be scary!

  • I'd say when I was married £600-700 a month would be spent on the ex and reciprocated in sex 1-2 times a year... So technically I could have paid for a high class escort once a month and saved money

  • I don't go to bars or anything like that. My goal isn't to have sex with a girl and never see her again. I'm going for the relationship. It is sadly much more expensive to do it this way tho hahaha
    I don't know how much I've spend and don't think I want to know

  • I've only paid several times for getting a room for several hours and invited a guy in the restaurant. I like to give birthday and new year gifts to those who I like, so I'd say maybe I spend like 500$ a year on a guy that I like.

  • Not a penny.

  • In guy speak, you're referring to a mathematical formula we use called CPI (Cost Per Insertion). If a chick has a high CPI ratio, that's fine, but she has to be either hot AF or sensational in bed - or both. If she's not, you don't. As for spending a fortune on drinks, dinners etc, when I go out (or 'Out, out!) then I know I'm going to spend somewhere between £100 - £150 and I don't mind spending it, don't play the game if you can't afford to be at the table.
    As for the freeloaders... you get much better at spotting that as you get older and again, you calculate the risks accordingly. The more you both have to drink and the more she can see the size of your... wallet, the more likely she is to switch from blowing you off to... blowing you off.

  • I've never paid for another person on a date and I have never treated a woman to anything.
    I don't believe in that, all my dates and partners have always paid their own half of the bill.

    I did buy my partner gifts in a total value of approximately $60, but that's about it.

  • Zero, I don't have sex as a goal. That is something that is a equal trade sex for sex. Anything before isn't about getting it.

  • zero

  • None. i haven't done any of buy girls drinks or anything cause just kinda don't want to date like that, then i don't really want a one night stand like that. If i went to see a band tho and got along with a girl may buy her a drink but that's not really for the pursuit of sex just a casual nice thing to do. To spend it in the pursuit of sex i would have to actually be getting something And if i wasn't you pay for what you got i pay for what i got not hard to pay for what you ordered.

  • Twice as much as I should because women NEVER pick up a check. Your question is going to point out something most guys realize-even a high cost escort is cheaper than dating these days and comes with a guarantee that dating does not

    • "women NEVER pick up a check" It's funny how liberated women are on paper and how UNliberated they are when it comes to actually paying their fair share. Suddenly, when the bill comes, "equal rights" magically evaporate.

    • @RingOfFire There are women who do offer to pay when on a date so not sure why you felt you needed to generalize all women as if non of them pay.

    • There are? Since I haven't dated all women, I must have missed her. ;-)

  • Add up the sex toys, dinners, nights out, hotel rooms, etc.. I'd say I spent 1.5k, per year. Total guesstimate.

  • If I had a dollar for every time women didn't find me attractive, women would find me attractive.


    Dating for a man is like getting a job in a recession. You go to a job interview and there are a dozen desperate guys willing to work for less and the lady in HR has far to many resumes and is just looking for a reason to turn you down.

    At the end of the interview they give you a response meant the Keep you from looking for another job, but not a yes. You then get a bill for the interview and have to pay for parking.

    • Oh, my last date cost me $1100. She wanted to try this new restaurant... At the end of the date she kissed my cheek and told me she was going back to her ex. I never dated again, that was many years ago.

  • I can spend maybe $400 a year at most for sex toys or lube if that counts?

    • if you need to spend $400 a year on lube, then you're not doing it right. You're 28 for Christ sake

    • I said sex toys AND lube. If you can’t understand, take a reading comprehension course.

    • Oh i understand, you're an incel that keeps breaking her dildos from overuse

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  • I’m in a relationship, so I don’t spend as much, I will admit I eat out more at restaurants /takeout since I was single. We split every bill so I’m mostly paying for myself, so prolly about $100 a month, as in $25 per date that we have together.

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