Does me wanting to watch my boyfriend sleep with other women mean I am mentally ill?

[Anonymous]

I know there are a lot of guys into having their girlfriend/wife cuck them and sleep with other guys but I am a woman and want my boyfriend who I have been dating for almost three years to sleep with other women while I watch. I don't know why I do but the urge has been slowly growing for a few years. I have never heard of other women being into this and thinking back it seems to have started after I broke up with my last boyfriend after catching him cheating. So I am wondering if I should go see a therapist for it or just indulge it?

[Berethor]

It's a paraphilia AKA perversion, and nowadays society tolerate all kinds of perversions, so I am not sure if you would find a therapist that can actually help you with that. Men tend to be more territorial than women, so it's actually more weird for guys to be into that kind of shit, it's also makes them a lesser men, there few things in the world that can come close to the level of emasculation of male who allow girlfriend to be fucked by other men, you likely hear about it more because it's more rare, not because it's more common, a man bites dog kind of thing, also his girlfriend is a slut, no way around it, even if he allows her to be a slut she still a slut. You as a woman can't be emasculated, because you not a man in the first place, people can say that if you allow your boyfriend to fuck other women than you lack self-respect, but women are not expected to have as much self-respect in that area as men.

You never heard of other women being into this? maybe not directly, but women is far more likely to forgive for cheating than men, I know far more cases of women that tolerated cheating than men who tolerated cheating, because tend to be more territorial than women, I also know far more men who turn down a women for their slutty past than the other way around. Ironically you had became your own antithesis, you didn't forgive your previous boyfriend for fucking other woman, but now you want your current boyfriend to fuck other women. It's looks like your paraphilia come out of trauma, as you didn't had that paraphilia before your previous boyfriend has cheated on you.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/BecameTheirOwnAntithesis

[hellionthesagereborn]

See a therapist. Its clearly some unresolved issue you have and indulging it is going to more then likely ruin your relationship (think of it this way, how would you feel if your parents did this? Would that change how you view them for the better or worse? Probably for the worse. Same applies to you.).

As for the kink itself, yes women have this kink, they are called cuckqueens. I would recommend not indulging in the fantasy as the more you do the more you will want to. So go see a therapist and see if you can't work this out in a healthier way that won't jepordize your relationship.

[TraceyByrd]

Or maybe ur retarded

[andreasderjuengere]

No. You're only culturally ill. Something in your early socialisation phase went wrong.

[dreamstar72]

No, but it could, 95 percent probabilities it will end up backfiring. Now you have no boyfriend.

[Ripper_E]

I would tread with caution if you want your boyfriend to do that. Some things are best kept as a fantasy.

[wondering_guy]

I'd say keep it to a fantasy, you might not see it now but unwanted questions may pop up in your mind like "how was she? Was she better than me" and alsorts.

I'd say if you do want this then even the playing field, you watch him then let him watch you have sex with someone or have a threesum

[coolaboola]

Its surprisingly popular. It means you're a cuckqueen. My current partner and my last have watched me fuck others... m last girlfriend watched me fuck her best friend. Have you said it to him yet? Does he have similar views? The only warning ill give you is to not do it unless your relationship is strong and you have full control over any potential jealously

[Jamie05rhs]

Why don't you just dye your hair and cosplay and then make a video and it will look like he's fucking someone else? Then you can jill off to it later.

[mike542]

I think your boyfriend would love it if you asked him to do it !

[jahaims]

My wife has that fantasy but we haven't done that yet.

[Meatunnel69]

Prolly cuz you want to see other girls find your man attractive

[In_Trance]

whatever works for ya

[Batuthekhan]

It's reverse cuck. Seeing how popular it is, no need to go to a therapist

[Waz2020]

Nope

[gandolph3]

Yoi are fine

[gandolph3]

fetishes and fantasies are all normal, we all have them. i hope you get to enjoy yours

[heyya1999]

Is that really an issue. Wish my girlfriend wanted me to sleep with other girls

[Anonymous]

It means you are smart enough to understand male dynamics.

[Anonymous]

You might need to see a therapist, but I would go watch first

[Anonymous]

No, you're not mentally ill. Basically your brain takes that trauma/pain of cheating and copes with it by turning it into pleasure, and you get his mix of being turned on and feeling shame because they're confusing thoughts.

There are actually lots of girls out there who share your desire and feelings. The term is "cuckquean" for women, and although it's not as big as cuckolding, it does exist.

I also totally understand where you're coming from. My first girlfriend cheated on me, and the more I thought about it with later girlfriends, the more I wanted to see them with other men. I think it's a way of the brain playing out that trauma in a "safe" way, so to speak. A situation you can control. I don't think you need a therapist, but if you ever want to talk out your feelings more, feel free to drop me a PM. I think exploring kinks and their origins is interesting