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If you had a sex dream about a friend you find attractive, should you tell them?

There's this woman whom I've worked with for a few years, she knows I like her and find her very attractive, but she wasn't interested, so we agreed to just be friends. I still go out of my way to help her out with things and compliment her without overstepping personal boundaries, but I still feel she could return those feelings. But she has her own life with personal relations with others, so I respect her enough to not push anything. I'd rather have her for a friend than being in a complicated relationship with her.

Last night, I dreamed I was video chatting with her online and she stripped all her clothes off til she was totally nude laying down on her bed and I remember feeling very excited.

Of course I wouldn't actually tell her that cuz I don't wanna make her feel awkward or uncomfortable (tho I do feel tempted to tell her to see her reaction), but in what scenario would it be appropriate to tell someone that? Have you ever done something like that?
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So just about damn near every one of you says nay, so it sounds about unanimous, even though this is a hypothetical question. Seriously, I was never gonna tell her that, especially now that she's involved with someone else.
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  • This scenario sounds almost identical to a previous question you asked, and I and others answered mostly no. I think the deciding factor is only tell if they first bring up something sexual. If they act as if just friends, nothing more, you'd be risking the friendship if you brought it up out of the blue.

    • Risking the friendship, that's something I hadn't considered but really should if that were to happen but ain't going to happen.

Most Helpful Guys

  • I could only see telling her that being a good idea if there's a background of sexual attraction between you two and you want to turn her on. There might be better ways to do that, and I feel like the best time to tell her would be in bed, or after a bunch of flirting and when things are getting pretty hot.

    Going by your update about her being with someone else, I would say nay as well. I hope you find someone to fulfill your dreams ;)

  • if you were close enough to share those things, but not if she's with another guy or has told you they aren't interested.

    • Obviously

    • its not obvious tho, i mean you could jokingly say it but it's like you're hitting on a girl

Most Helpful Girl

  • That has never happened to me. If it did, (which would be impossible) I wouldn't tell him.
    The only way you could tell her was if she was sexually attracted to you. Or if she was flirting with you.

    • That makes sense

    • I'm glad you agree.

    • Thank you very much for the advice.

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  • Yeah, if you work with her and she's in a personal relationship probably best not to tell her...

    • Well of course I wasn't really gonna tell her literally, just hypothetical. But what about a girl I used to know before but recently reconnected with and am currently dating her?

    • Think we had this convo before lol that would depend on the level of comfort with each other and where you are in the relationship

    • Yeah, you're right

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  • I have, but I'd never tell them.

  • I guess I would only do it if we were actually together, this right here was so much better than my dreams, like thst kinda thing

  • it really depends

  • It probably would make her uncomfortable. Maybe hold out unless you get to know her real well.

  • That would be weird.

    "Hey, I dreamed I banged you"

  • I wouldn't. Id feel like a weirdo lol

  • I think that would be very awkward.

    • Most likely

  • Just don't tell her brother, you'll upset her and probably lose friendship with her too

    • I wasn't really going to tell her literally, just hypothetically

  • No!!!

  • Unless you trying to make it happen

    Just leave it alone

    • It was more hypothetical than literal

  • No, I wouldn't tell them/

  • I think it would make them feel awkward.

  • Only if you have a chance to go it in real life. If I told all the girls I've had dreams about I would be very busy...

    • If you told all the girls you had dreams about you'd probably wouldn't have been very busy at all🤣

    • @19magic I don't know about that, but it's ok to dream. Not doing anyone any harm...

    • You only live once but in your dreams you can live a thousand lives

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  • That all depends if you or she were going to be moving on to a new job (and yes, I saw the update).

  • It's okay if you're dating

  • if you think you should

  • I don’t think anyone wants to hear about that. People should probably keep their sex fantasies to thhemselves.

  • shaking my head

    only acceptable to a girl you're currently banging

    • what about a girl you knew before and are currently dating her?

    • is that a girl you're currently banging?

    • no it isn't, this is hypothetical

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