Hapve you ever suffered apny kind of s*xual abuse?

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BlueEyedBirdWatcher · Accepted Answer

Maybe, I'm not really sure

It wasn't an overt abuse, and it wasn't as serious as other cases definitely. And the words we use create a serious imposter syndrome, it is a difficult leap to go from, "I'm having girl problems" to identifying yourself with the same words as a violent rape victim.

And to be honest because of this it took me a while to see that if a woman was treated the way I was I would be outraged, and I should give myself the same kindness.

My ex would make me feel guilty about her being alone and then again about her not having sex.

It was at times a fight with her trying to make me justify why I didn't want to, she said I owed her, or threatened suicide, or made me choose between sex or insulting her which had punishments too. I think at times she might have intentionally deprived me of sleep.

The main driver that forced my decision was that if she made me feel shit enough, I would seek out company and it could only be from her, and it would only be a positive encounter if we had sex.

I wasn't able to talk to her about it because she had been in an abusive relationship and could always say that she had been through something worse.

The worst thing for me about covert abuse is you don't know what was abuse and what was unintended, you don't know when it started, and you don't even know everything that happened to you.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not me personally but I know people who have been through it. I dont think perpetrators should ever be forgiven. They should have it hacked off in the most painful way possible so they can never reoffend.