Why do men lose interest or don’t have an interest at all in fucking their partner?
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centerlineXper 6
+1 y
i dont know the specific reason to the question, but I can tell you how I feel and what I think.
guys get bored after awhile with the same ride night after night, and so we need to space it out a little. when the relationship is new and fresh, we can't get enough, but then it wanes... there are times when the libido sparks a little brighter at times, which may last a couple days to a week, but it will fade again...
this is why some people try 3sums and wife sharing, as it makes the spark burn brighter again, and can really amp up the lovemaking in the, even after the "guest (s)" leave...
if the picture posted is actually you, there is no other reason for your guy NOT to be all over you...
try some dirty talk and maybe some toys, but try not to make him feel like he has to get an erection and perform, but just be involved in the fun with you. toys and oral is always fun...
for me, the pressure of knowing my wife wants my dick hard so she can get a good fuck causes me some anxiety to perform, and lose some interest, but when she just wants to play with oral, i can get into it and stand tall and proud, and perform like a stud horse... its all in the mind set of the guy and how turned on you can make him without his knowing that your trying to get something going...
most women know that guys are always thinking about sex, but very few of them know how much energy we need in reserves to feel the urge to fuck... or how much energy it takes out of us if its performed with enthusiasm , as it should be...
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TouchMyKitty
+1 y
I will definitely true toys. I need to order some.
TouchMyKitty
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Try toys*
centerline
+1 y
toys can add a whole new dimension to sex... there is an endless choice to experiment with, and even the toys that dont work as we think they should, they are still fun to try out... purchasing online can save a few dollars, but I would suggest going to an adult bookstore/toy shop and look to see what is available on the shelf/wall... it will give you a better idea of what the products are and what you may want to try before buying online... if you have never been in one before, its a bit overwhelming at first, and may seem a bit embarrassing, but one has to just act like its a normal everyday experience and go with it... by the way... you have a rather alluring user name.. I like it!
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MrOracleInfluencer
+1 y
The #1 reason is stress/exhaustion. Men bear a lot of pressure to earn and provide for their families, and most men don't have an alternative or a "backup" other than what they make/earn for themselves, so there will be times when the pressure and stress builds up, and that will affect libido.
The second most common reason is as a side effect of medications - especially but not limited to depression meds. SSRIs are well-known to have this side effect, but some SSRIs will affect some men more than others.
Third, is that testosterone production will lessen over time, but for some men, it falls off much more dramatically than for others. This is something that doctors can help with, but the guy needs to actually go see a doctor and deal with it, and men tend not to want to do that.
I have no idea. I know that happens but not to me if we have compatible kinks. Wanna compare notes? DM me.
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hellionthesagerebornGuru
+1 y
Its not that he "lost interest", its that your estrogen levels are dropping and his testosterone levels are dropping. Ironically your roles are now inversed as your testosterone levels are higher (happens when you get older) so your sex drive is now were his was when he was younger and now his testosterone levels are lower so his sex drive is were yours was when you were younger.
Its why I always suggest people have sex with their significant other even if they are not in the mood because one day the roles will be reversed (but hindsight is always twenty twenty).
So his sexual desire for you is lower because of biology and yours higher for the same reason. As such don't take it personally and don't blame him for it, I'm sure he loves you as much as he always has and finds you as sexually attractive as he always has. So now ironically your the man at least when it comes to the sex. So do all the things you needed done to you when you were younger to get into the mood and hope that will be enough i. e. foreplay (for men its visual, its her teasing and flirting. You want sex make a show of it for him when you can (obviously harder to do with family and kids around but when you can do it)). It is again, not unlike with younger women, the urge isn't their but once you get him in the mood he should be ready to go he just now takes more time and effort to get him in the mood.
You should also realize your probably going to want more sex then him (again, your roles are now reversed) so your still not going to get as much as you probably want but if you put in the work, tease him, visually stimulate him, flirt with him your probably going to manage to get more out of him then you otherwise would.
Also if this doesn't work talk to him and maybe he will be able to put in more effort to overcome his drop in testosterone levels (but again, this is physical so don't take it personally).
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integrale77Yoda
+1 y
It was the complete opposite for me when I was married I always initiated and if I was lucky I got sex twice a year!
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MarcuslrhXper 7
+1 y
Lucky guy he must be losing his libido not to want to fuck you all the time if that's you in the image or he is just over tired from work or out of shape
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Rocco7070Xper 5
+1 y
Because I guess your a smart girl, enjoy him, WISH GIRLS AROUND HERE HAD YOUR ATTITUDE!
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dwcl99Xper 5
+1 y
What a coincidence, I also want to fuck all the time, lol ;) He's a lucky guy!!
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normaliceMaster
+1 y
It's a sad fact of life that as women get older they lose their sexual inhibitions and thus tend to want more sex. But as men get older we lose testosterone production and want less sex.
It could also be that you don't share each other's kinks, though. Guys tend to zero in on a few specific things they want women to be enthusiastic about and when their woman isn't interested in those things the guy tends to take it as a blow to their own sexual appeal. As we get older we also realize that women never really wanted us to fuck them like like we were an animal. They wanted a "mate" and the sex was just sort of a thing they got used to as surprisingly pleasant. So all the time we spent building ourselves up as beasts of sexual prowess turns out to be self delusion and nothing disillusions us faster than a woman who isn't into what we're into sexually.
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triffXper 7
+1 y
WOW I couldn't say no I think when you have been with someone on a serious sexual loving relationship It can become mundane The guy feels save and secure You become so much more to him than sex He comes home tired so not in the mood knowing it's on tap Maybe due to stress he can't stay hard Sit him down have a heart to heart 💘 What's your main fear
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slatybMaster
+1 y
“Men” don’t. Your guy has. At your age I was very happy to do it twice a day every day.
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BeenThereLovedItYoda
+1 y
Some men just don't have high libidos. So it's harder for them to get off - and sex becomes work. This is also why they tend to cheat on top of seeming disinterested - it's simply that they need extreme excitement to achieve arousal.
This is where high libido men like me really shine for once :)
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