I have been booked into a bondage session and the mistress is already trying to get me into the habit of the obedience. Anyone w/ prior experience?

[Anonymous]

Her rates are 200 for 90 minutes, money wise it is a bit steep but as soon gave her a call to discuss details she insists that I strictly refer to her as mistress. Is this a little over the top? Is it a more intense pleasure for her or for me?

[Anonymous]

That’s seems cheap for the US but it probably varies by market. Probably most of her clients like addressing her that way. It wouldn’t bother me. I hope you have a good experience. Some pro domes are are great, some not so much. Her playroom should appear clean and neat. Ideally it’s dedicated to the purpose. If it’s unattractive or you are uncomfortable for any reason leave the deposit and say “sorry, I’m afraid this isn’t going to work.”

[Asker]

I am based in Canada, I suppose if it is her full time job then she needs to charge fairly high (well, what I think is high). If it was her part time vocation, then I am sure it would be cheaper. In any case, it is still a highly vocational position.

[MrOracle]

Most people seeking those kinds of services are looking to be treated just that way, and it is exciting for them. BUT... it's also a means for her to have control, so you are not wrong to be somewhat wary about it, and you SHOULD be able to discuss those things with her ahead of time, so that you know what you're paying for, even if you have to play by her rules to do so.

[Asker]

Well I actually felt that it was a necessity for her to that, when I called I was very civil and non provocative in my manner. I said I have a mundane fetish for role play bondage, but near the end of the call she says refer to me as mistress and be obedient. Which was kind of a separate subject matter.

[MrOracle]

Then, yeah, I'd say that's pretty common and normal. Dominants expect to be treated respectfully. They have enormous responsibility with a submissive, at many levels, and have to do a lot of work and preparation, and showing respect is part of what you signed up for.

[Asker]

Yeah but I sense that their is something about it where the she likes domination. It isn't just a job for her, that is for sure. Let me tell you something sketchy that happened on the same day:

[Asker]

I signed up to a fetish dating site that turned about to be a complete waste of time. I did however have girl who contacted me and told me to message her in Google Hangouts. I messaged her on google hangouts and she wanted total obedience from me in a long term relationship. She said I must complete a task in which I would pay her 350 dollars for her to buy equipment to start training me. I asked if I could video call her and then she said "only mistress ask for that", at which point I thought the prospects of us meeting are worthless as it could be a man behind the profile!

[MrOracle]

It should be no surprise that there are women out there who have figure out that it's an easy way to scam guys out of money. That's why it's better to find people who are known to the community and/or have reviews.

[Asker]

Even the review could be fake!

[MrOracle]

Yes, but if there are 10 reviews over a couple of years, it's less likely to be fake than a random one-off who wants $350 up-front. There's never any 100% guarantee, but you can certainly improve your chances significantly.

[Asker]

I will let you know how to session goes on Friday. My only concern is the money really, that could have got me two chiropractic adjustments.

[Asker]

Just finished a few hours ago, I was bound abd gagged quite a few times. During this I would kiss her feet, legs, butt. She then requested a few massages and pulling her socks off with my teeth. I have to say that the reality didn't come close to the fantasy.

[MrOracle]

Fantasies can often be that way... But sometimes the experience exceeds the fantasy, so it's worth trying it out to see.

[Asker]

I will see her again, I believe we had an interesting bond as she opened up to talk to me about personal things. After the session was over we hugged/cuddled and then she wanted me to kiss her on the cheek and the hand. In short, there was some non sexual love.

[Farmer27]

Why waste money on a whore

[Asker]

Why waste money going to Disneyland? It is a one off experience to see if my fantasies can match the real world.

[Farmer27]

At least disneyland pays it's taxes. Whore just whores.

[Asker]

They are not whores but fetishists, In any case both have to pay their taxes.

[Farmer27]

If you accept money for sex you're a whore. Pretty sure whores don't pay taxes.

[Asker]

Fetish isn't set, I actually abhor poronographic bondage. I prefer role play.

[Farmer27]

No matter what the whore does she's still a whore.

[Batuthekhan]

It's perfectly fine you will get used to it