I'm not a psychologist, but you might want to consider the possibility that you be more happy with women than that, or at the very least bi. If you haven't felt emotionally free to explore your sexual preferences then that would also have a very large contributing factor to not enjoying sex. It could also be something simple like maybe the guy that you had sex with the first time wasn't the gentlest type and both guys after just wanted to ram it in. I've actually found that the case with a lot of women. that's why if I ended up having a partner that was still a virgin I made sure to be very gentle with her and use a lot of lube for her first time. First-time experiences can have a lasting impact, especially when it comes to losing your virginity. being able to take a good heart pounding doesn't come until later. for the first few times you're going to need to make sure that you're with the right guy, that you're in the right emotional state, and that he knows what he's doing. Typically speaking I would say that for most men knowing what you're doing on your first time comes down to basic instinct more than anything else. Women will also tell you how and where they like to be touched. Not literally mind you, but if you key into the areas of her body that are secreting high concentrations of pheromones and just let your hands do what they do the rest should fall into place. after the first few times she should build up more of an emotional connection to you and become more willing and open to explore different positions, and do different things with you.
You’re so right about the first time experience. I wonder if most women experience that
It sounds to me that you didn't have a partner you had real trust and bond with - you didn't feel free to let loose and "let go" of your anxiety - and you'll never have good sex that way. I'm a HUGE believer in building trust and communicating in my relationships, and I've brought a few women out of their shells, and what a transformation that can be.
Make no mistake: it's not all on your partner, though - YOU have to be willing to let go and be vulnerable and trust him, and that's hard sometimes, but choosing a good partner who IS trustworthy makes it much easier.
How well did you know these partners? Try making a emotional connection first before getting into bed with a partner.
2 were long term friend I met in college , the last one was someone I knew from high school. Not strangers
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!No you aren't. You may have trouble connecting with people, but that can be fixed.
Totally right. I have an extremely hard time connecting with people because I’m an introvert
No, sex is personal, tthere will be a time when you may change, but u decide that.. I used to have casual sex but now I dont unless I dexide, your not damaged, just classier!
Maybe you desire a higher connection for sex
I think you’re right
Have any of your lovers given you an orgasm (s)
I have never orgasmed with a guy
Sounds like you weren't with the right person, which is why you never really enjoyed it.
You aren't damaged, you just need to find the right person to connect to.
Women Goe years without sex, guys longer.
You haven't found the right guy to give you an orgasm yet, that's why sex isn't enjoyable as much yet
Yes I never orgasm with a man before
I find it sad but I cannot understand why A guy yes , but a young girl i would have thought you would have a pick of men...
Not sexually damaged. You just need to find a guy that makes you feel safe (which is probably why you turned down the opportunities).
I think you’re totally right
For the record I'm not a phycologist / psychiatrist / sex therapist.
I found this when looking for something else.
www.theguardian.com/.../im-new-to-sex-dont-really-enjoy-it-am-i-broken
I also haven't. But hadn't had an opportunity.
I'll fuck ya 😉😁
That sucks you were not able to freely express yourself.
yeah
Yeah im sorry but you're going to die within a week for the lack of sex.
If that was the case, I’ll do it everyday lol
You weren't mentally free because you weren't with the right person. Keep trying.
No you're perfectly fine I went 10 plus years
Wow that’s insane. I’m almost scared to ask how you did it
Easy sex isn't really that important to me and I had a lot of time to work on myself
Why isn’t sex important to you?
You don't need sex to live. You probably have a low sex drive and if you are fine without it, why bother?
Can you maybe give me signs of a low sex drive?
To be honest, I don't know, but such people might not need sex often or is not interested in having sex continuously. Some people may also find sexual scenes in movies and series unnecessary.
No you are not sexual damaged. You just haven't found the right guy who connects with you.
first, do you masturbate
Sometimes. I actually went some months without masturbating and other times, I’m doing it a few times a day for some days (but never long term)
Do you cum
That building up feeling then relief? Yes, all of the time if I go through with it
Yes, sorry.
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