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Should it be the 2nd or 3rd? Even further in?
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- Kinda depends on the situation, and what the two parties are looking for. Where and how I meet someone plays a part in how serious I'll take the relationship. I'm sure it's about the same for everyone. There are spells where I want to find someone to be with forever, then times I can't stand relationships and only want the flirtation and physical relationship.
With you referring to it as the first date, though, I presume there are hopes for future dates with some potential for a more exclusive relationship if all goes well. If I want to be respectful of the potential future I'd pass on being too physical the first few dates. Maybe even the first few weeks. I'd flirt. At this point in my life I'd try to lock the relationship in after an open discussion about our wants, needs and expectations if it was appropriate. If it felt right. Then I'd get right at it, head to toe. You already know.
Real talk? In general, I don't feel too great after sex on the first date. But I also have very little faith in relationships anymore, so might have to take advantage of an opportunity should it present itself.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- As much as I'm a guy and I would love to say "yes, go for it", the truth is that MOST of the time it's going to work against you ASSUMING you are hoping to have a real romantic relationship with the guy. If you're just looking for some fun casual sex, then there's no problem, but guys looking for a relationship are going to be looking for girls who know how to set and observe boundaries, because they can't trust the ones who don't with their emotions. Guys rarely allow themselves to be emotionally vulnerable, and they're VERY protective about doing so, and if they don't feel they can trust the girl, then they simply won't do it.
in my opinion, the "third date rule" is a reasonable threshold for active daters who don't want to wait too long, but still hope for a real relationship.1|10|0Is this still revelant?
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- First date 10th date any date it is okay in my book. It is all about how you personally think about it and no firm rule exists.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
- It all depends on the chemistry, location, etc.
And then you need to be good at discerning as to how truthful he is... lol
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592- I wait until we have a strong emotional connection and I don't feel like that happens on the first date.
www.girlsaskguys.com/share-your-take?id=592021|00|0 - It really depends on what you want from this date. If its a hookup then duh go for it... If your very a very sensual or have a high libido then sex and physical contacts probably gonna be important to your relationship. In both cases first is fine but some guys don’t want it to be super easy.
I think most important is not to go into a relationship thinking when to give sex... you’ll be all overly sexual the whole time and then at the end he’ll expect it... just feel the date out and if the man does a good job give him a lick. Could be fun to lead him on first date and show him what’s at stake. Dress showing neck, shoulders, skirt showing legs. Nice kiss at then end and remind him how much fun next time will be with a hint... you’ll drive him mad way more doing this than just giving it up...
The buildups everything. Yes all men want is sex... but any woman, or hole, can give this. What’s important is the buildup.1|00|0 - Sex on the first date means she's easy.
Sex on the first date can be a 1 night stand.
Sex on the first date can get you in trouble.
Sex on the first date means she needs someone desperately to be with. Which talks a lot about her.
Sex in the first date doesn't mean she likes you. But that she was desperately in need.
Sex on the first date means she doesn't have any morals.
I didn't know i was my girlfriends boyfriend right after. She told everyone. I was Tick Tock about it. So I just played with it like if i was. Good girl. But the way i got to know her made me belief she had no principles. So, that was obvious after our first date. It was really hard for me not to say no when she became completely naked in front of me. I did try to be a Christian at that time. But not many girls look like that girl.1|00|0 - If you want to have sex on the first date, you have every right to finish your pinot and do the d*mn thing.
Unless you’ve made the personal choice to hold out until you a hit a specific dating milestone (maybe you've heard of the Three-Date Rule? **rolls eyes**) for your own reasons, you’re under no obligation to keep your sexuality on lockdown. That should go without saying, but many women these days refrain from first-date sex to avoid being "tainted." It's an awful word and promotes an antiquated societal pressure that somehow (how?) still exists in 2020.1|00|0 - Personally, I think it would be a bit too soon but it depends on the feeling I get for her. For example, if we had been talking for a while now, that we really get along well and that this date was an opportunity to meet in person, to make this relationship more real, I would not mind it, specially if we kind of "played around" the topic of sex.
If we don't know each other much though, I would honestly feel a bit meh or uncomfortable about it. If I accept, it would probably not feel as nice since there would not be all the feelings of love behind it and it would probably be mostly physical.1|00|0 - I have some rules regarding sexual interactions.
- must be in a exclusive relationship
- must have dated for at least 90 days
- must both get tested for nasty things. to prove we're both clean.
1|10|0 - It should be as late as it takes for both parties to be in agreement.
Personally, I won't have sex anywhere near the first date. I don't go out with women just for sex, nor is it a big motivating factor; I want to get to know her and figure out if there's a good chance at a future together first.1|00|0 - It depends on what you mean as first date,,, most of the time when I go on a first date that can mean I know you and this is our first time out together or one day I say hi to someone I say would u like to go on a date. Well the first o e if I know you if we make love first date I love it
The second one if there is a bond happening you both know it and feel it yes but if you don't think it's going to go anywhere don't use the person. Just hug and say thank you goid night1|00|0 - I think it depends on how the evening goes. If a degree intimacy seems to exist and the time and place are good, I've done it and it's never been any coerced thing. In other cases, I've waited. Probably not much longer than 3rd date as it's an important issue and I'd want to be as sure about sexual compatibility before investing too much time and energy. That's from the perspective of someone who doesn't need to worry about place1|00|0
Anonymous8 moI've gotten blowjob and had sex quite a few times on the 1st or 2nd date. 1 girl was even down for anal
My female acquaintances mention they have sex on the 1st date much more than you would suspect, so there's that as well
Its getting to the point where if a woman isn't wanting sex after 3 or 4 dates then it means she isn't interested1|00|0- there really isn't right answer to this. I mean you could apply any arbitrary social or moral standard to this question. but at the end of the day expecting every relation to be a complete failure or permanent instead of the reality of we just never know? we dot know. so the only real right answer is as soon as the mood takes for both and then as often as it follows1|10|0
- I think it depends on the person you are with. If you both want to wait or it's more about getting to know that person a little better than go for it. If you click right away and you don't want to wait for dessert then go for it. Human biology and human sociology is very fluid and not exact, it is not logical to try to implement unnatural conditions on yourself or on someone just to be approvable in society's eyes.1|00|0
- It all depends on how everything is going. If you feel that you have that connection and they are not going to think you are easy. Then go for it. Is what I say. Ot if you are just horny. And you don't think it will be a second date. And, you just want to give them a good bye present. Then do so. Lol1|00|0
- Sex is sex! If you make more out of it, then you probably want to hold off for a little bit. Personally as long as it's good sex I'll come back for more no matter when I get it, so long as the intervals are more on the frequent side. It's like the rest of the relationship, let it happen when it happens, don't force it.1|00|0
- No set time-table!! What kind of crap is that? Every woman is different, and it is when we both feel ready, not some calendar event!!
Who came up with that nonsense?1|00|0 - If you enjoy the person and are just looking to enjoy the sex, not expecting a long term relationship, then why not, as long as you are cautious about std’s.1|00|0
- I just go with the flow, if she wants Ill work my ass off to make her get off several times always once before me, then another run, its important to work real good, rock her world, or his.1|00|0
- I don't have a set rule of when sex should happen. I don't try to initiate sex on a first date, but I wouldn't turn it down either. I want a meaningful relationship and I want a connection with whoever I am dating before we have sex.1|00|0
- I prefer to wait a few months until I know they will be a good fit for My personality.0|00|0
- Its fine. If a guy is going to judge women for having sex too early , he deserves to be trapped in a sexless marriage with children.1|00|0
- Nope, try like 6 months. People are married for years and realize they don't really know the other person. People can hide stuff for long periods of time. Maybe not from me, because I check people out.1|00|0
- depends on the person and the situation, but normally the 3rd date is a make or break deal...1|00|0
- It's not for me. But if it works for you, it works for you.1|00|0
- If you are looking for a fuck, then perfect. But if you are looking for a serious relationship, then most likely not a great idea.0|00|0
- I thought I answered this but if not I think it should be just done on the ride to the date driving not pulled over builds trust it's fun and a little dangerous but a little danger to make for a lot of fun1|00|0
- Honestly I never had a 1st date where sex wasn't involved. I wouldn't even make the first move.
But I'd say 2nd or 3rd.1|00|0 - Its best to avoid such thoughts till you get to know the person better.1|10|0
- Whenever you feel comfortable, but are actions have consequences.1|00|0
- Depends on the date. How it flows are you comfortable. I would love it, but some guys are so judgmental. Like oh she's easy. Just depends. If she has sex with me on first date i only think she limes me1|00|0
- I don't think there's a set amount just enough that you trust each other I'd imagine.1|00|0
- I think its completely up to the couple
If they're feeling it in the first date then why not.
I don't think there should be a certain rule.1|00|0 - Interesting comments.
Experience tells me that sex on a first date is better than sex on a last date.1|00|0 - Asap. Sex is what dating is all about. Why delay the inevitable? Feels good whether it's the 1st or 5th date.1|00|0
- I will do it no earlier than 3 months for a nonvirgin. No earlier than y months for a virgin1|00|0
- It has happened to me (when I was dating) a few times. MOstly it has been on the second or third date.1|00|0
- Yea, should be way further into the relationship. Definitely too sudden for first date1|00|0
- It depends on the connection one has with the person.1|00|0
- I've done that but it's always led to problems later on1|00|0
- Personally, I'd need to be close and comfortable with someone.1|00|0
- Very bad idea, I wouldn't do sex til after 4th or 5th.1|00|0
- do it whenever it feels right... i don't like to set rules like that personally1|00|0
- in my opinion, it makes no sense and I would never do it. But, people can do what they want.1|00|0
- Anonymous8 moIf a woman sleeps with a guy that quick i'm done with her right then.1|10|0
- It isn’t really a date. It’s just to lonely people having sex.1|10|0
- Depends on circumstances and couple. How they're coming close to each other.1|00|0
- It can happen but it's not a deal breaker either way1|00|0
- I prefer it because nobody should aaste tbeir time on soneone they aren't sexually incompatible with1|00|0
- I'd say like 5th or 6th date in but if I she's wanting sex on the first date I'm fine with that1|00|0
- Tbh is you are both feeling each other sexually then def on the first date. Just depends.1|00|0
- It would depend on the individual situation but I personally don't see a problem with it1|00|0
- Anonymous8 moThat doesn't sound like a good idea; but what do I know, as I am waiting until the wedding date.1|00|0
- If there's chemistry, then go for it.1|00|0
- Anonymous8 moShould at least be the 2nd or 3rd date never the first kes1|00|0
- Sex on the first date? will never happen.1|00|0
- I'm buck enough if you're doe enough. ;)1|00|0
- If y'all both feeling each other, go for it.1|00|0
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