21F Virgin. I dont know if I popped my cherry or seriously hurt myself. Please help?

[Anonymous]

Hey, so I grew up in a very strict religious household where masturbation was a huge sin. When I was 20 I moved out of my house and I got a place with a couple of roommates. Since then, I've explored myself sexually. However there's a lot of things I'm naive with. So for the longest time I used my fingers and that felt good. Then I moved on and used a hairbrush handle that was about 3 inches around. That felt pretty good but I felt kinda empty. So... I ended up ordering a dildo. It about 5.1 inches long insertableainsertable it's 5 inches around.(Can't link if not I would!) from what I have seen, it looked like the average size of a penis. So I got myself worked up, I put some water base lube on the dildo, and I suctioned it on the floor and I lowered myself on it. It felt a bit painful but then suddenly I felt a very sharp pain and I jumped off it. I had my eyes closed and after about 10 seconds I opened up and I saw blood. I felt like there was a ton. It was all over my legs and on the hardwood floor. It took me about 6 tissues to clean everything up. I hear that when you pop your cherry there's supposed to only be a few droplets of blood but this was definitely a lot more than that. It's the next day and my vag is a bit sore but it's not hurting necessarily. there's no more bleeding either. That stopped pretty fast the night before. I dug my fingers around and I tried to feel my hymen and I felt like I could still feel it and it seemed like most of it was intact. So I'm confused... I was an active child when I was young and I've used tampons my entire life. I haven't tried the dildo again but I'm sure it'll hurt like hell if I try it again. So, did I pop my cherry or did I hurt myself by being too rough? I jumped off it the second it hurt so I didn't have a chance to analyze what was going on.

[btbc92]

I highly suggest you go see a gynecologist asap. Other than the fact you are not really a virgin when you doing that now, you didn't 'pop' anything. Religion has nothing to do with what you were taught. Your taught to keep your virginity for a GOOD REASON. What you did wasn't just reckless, but dangerous. That was something for you to get to a hospital because you more and likely scraped your vagina and so a lot of blood came out. Making it easy for you to get an infection and other problems. It is not normal for you to bleed out that much from your vagina. What you did was stretched your vagina so the blood came out along with it. Nothing to do with the hymen. The hymen is supposed to stretch, but what you describing sounds something different entirely.

This is why it is a sin more. Not only did you seriously hurt yourself, but you also can't undo it and go back to that. That was your choice. But if you engage in sexual intercourse, you can bet it will not be as great as you would think because of what happened. This is something you will have to speak and see a Gyno about, and I highly suggest you get to a clinic immediately so they can see what was done.

[Anonymous]

Just inspect it with a mirror or webcam. You can find pictures of intact and broken hymen in internet

[In_Trance]

Sounds like you did. Give it a day or 2 and try again

[Berethor]

Sounds like you are not a physically virgin anymore.

[Little21]

This is normal. There's no cherry to pop. You don't pop your hymen. The hymen is a layer of tissue that some women have and others don't. It can be stretched from penetration or even nonsexual activities. Because you were only on the dildo for a second, your hymen hasn't really been stretched (which is why it feels the same). The bleeding is normal for some people. Others don't bleed at all. Even though you used lube, your vagina was probably not naturally lubricated enough to take the dildo without tearing (these are micro-abrasions, nothing serious). Again, this is all normal.
The lube is a good start, but next time make sure that you're naturally wet. This will help the vagina to expand and you'll be more ready for penetration. It takes practice as well.

[poneglyphs]

maybe you tore it a bit or you inserted the dildo way to fast?

[asshole_]

both

[gandolph3]

just go see your gyno be honest with them

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you tore your hymen.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you just tore your hymen. As long as the pain and bleeding have stopped, I probably wouldn't worry about it. If either keeps happening, though, you should see an OBGYN about the issue.