How can I teach my boyfriend to bring me to orgasm?

We've been dating for about a month, and he's attempted to finger me twice now. The first time felt good but I didn't come, the last time it was kind of painful and I started to bleed. He's trying too hard lol. A for effort but seriously he's just doing it all wrong. Basically I'm wondering how I can fix this. Guys -- would you be embarrassed or immasculated if a girlfriend gave you a few tips during sex?
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  • There are a few ways you could do this.

    1. Sit in a chair, on the couch, or on the bed naked, and start masturbating. While masturbating, tell him where you like to be touched, how hard, how fast/slow, etc. Give him all the details. Tell him: "Insert 2 fingers slowly until 3 inches inside (for example), curve them this many degrees, move them here, then there, at this speed, then like this, like that, etc. Then let him do it.

    2. Again, sit in a chair, a couch, or the bed, but this time, take his hand, and guide him inside and around where you like to be touched. Then let him try it without your help.

    Communication is very important for a successful sex life. Talk to each other. Let him teach you how he likes to get a hand job or a blow job. You will feel closer to each other and have more fun doing it. Communication is the key.

  • G-Spot orgasm , piece of cake, now the important factor is you have to be ready, cause right before you orgasm you're gonna ask him to stop, but he shouldn't , so stay on couch open your legs , now ask him to pentrate you with his two middle fingers while the index and the pinky rest on the outside and work as a support, now when he penetrate you his fingers shouldn't go all the way in he has to bend the upward, and then keep moving them up//down fast, now you will come but you can also squirt , works for me, as for the other part, I believe my girl knows her body better than me, and if she wanna give instructions that will help her orgasm I'm cool with it

Most Helpful Girls

  • Guide his hand or have him watch you masturbate (in my experience, that has helped the most).

    My boyfriend admits to being clueless about the female body, haha, so I give him a little guidance when we fool around and he doesn't mind at all.

  • You should walk him through it, tell him what you like its so much easier and he should get better xxx

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  • Masturbate in front of him and show/tell him what you like. It's not emasculating unless you tell him what a failure he is and how he can't make you come and etc etc

  • def. ask him if it OK for you to help...let him finger you but cover his hand with yours to able you to control his movements and speed etc...see how you go from there.

    if that don't work ask him to watch you masterbateing...trust us guys when we say its the most hornest thing to watch...

  • Most guys would love to have a girl show him exactly what to do. Most of us are really trying to give the girl the greatest pleasure, not just getting her enough into it to have her please us. Teach him what works best for you. If he does not greatly appreciate the help, he is not really interested in your enjoyment (read that "using you").

    Besides, almost every guy will really love watching his girl open up wide and masturbate for him! Learning and gratification in one step!

  • not really lol as long as your not getting frustrated then id just stop all together

  • Just let him know I think all men want to make their girlfriend happy physically and emotionally.

  • no way .I will be proud to have my female companion be open about her sex life and what she likes or not.I consider it an honor. Question Have you ever try masturbating with yourself before introducing someone else.

    Hope it helps

    • yea, I know how to have clitoral orgasm by myself but have never been able to have the ever elusive gspot orgasm. I think he got kinda close to it but since I've never had one idk

    • Yeah I see what you are saying