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Do you think sexual kinks and fetishes should be normalised?

WARNING: Moral police, please keep scrolling and ignore this question.

I'm one of those people who get bored very easily. So for me, I'm always up for trying new things.

I love travelling, have been to many countries and plan to continue this after the lockdown. I love exploring and learning about different cultures.

Same goes with food. I love trying out different cuisines and explore different cultural food.

And also, I love doing different activities. Be it, climbing a mountain or go karting or sky jumping I love trying new things.

While I can openly talk about above without the fear of being judged, I cannot however, do the same when it comes to my sexual adventures.

I like trying out and exploring even when it comes to sex. But it's difficult to engage in an open discussion without having moral police jumping to conclusions.

I have done many things, including threesome, foursome, gangbangs and Orgy. I also have had other fetishes over the years like being with Virgins (over 18s), being just a side pleasure toy etc. They are not common but they things I like to explore. There are things I'd like to try and things perhaps I can learn from other people. But It's hard to engage in an open discussion about it.

And of course there are guys who would take this as an invitation to sext. You will only get yourself blocked if you try that.

2. What are your thoughts?

3. Do you think we should be more open about sexual desires, be it "weird" or "uncommon".

4. What are your abnormal ideas?
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Ok, seems like the majority of the verdict is they shouldn't get normalised as normalising would reduce their significance. I guess that makes sense. I was talking more about being able openly discuss them. But then I guess, it won't be taboo anymore. 🤔🤔🤔 paradox
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  • Yes and no. You don't normalize behavior that is damaging. Take promiscuity, you are free to do it but pretending like it has no consequences is irresponsible and only going to result in pain and suffering. Statistically the more partners a person has the greater their probability to cheat, divorce, be unhappy in long term relationships, be disatisfied with sex, more likely to develop anxiety and depression etc. etc. This is not healthy behavior. Its kind of like saying that since drinking a beer is okay, getting black out drunk all day every day is equally okay, its not.

    We can also see a womans relationship with her father based upon her sexual activity. The more promiscuous she is the more likely that she has a bad relationship with her father or he was absent in general in her life. We know sexual abuse, especially at an early age is also linked to increased rates of promiscuity. So clearly promiscuity is a symptom of an internal emotional/psychological issue and pretending like its not is not helpful to any one.

    It can also increase the probability of out of wedlock births which is very damaging to the child (children from fatherless homes are more likely to be promiscuous, have higher rates of criminality, academic failure, substance abuse, poverty, and even health issues (due to higher cortisol levels over their life time)).

    That said does that mean ALL fetishes are bad? No. I mean should you be aware of what the source of it is? Of course, the source of the fetish is usually a personal issue you have and it says a lot about you and what you want (I like to be called daddy I like the girl to be eagerly submissive. This is due to my own child hood trauma and feelings of not being wanted so when I began to sexually mature those feelings morphed into this fetish (and the more I feel unwanted the stronger those "fetishes" get)). Is their anything wrong with that? No. Is their anything inherently wrong with having an oral fixation, or bdsm or spanking or what have you? Again, no. So should those be seen as bad? No.

    So it depends on what your talking about, the things that don't hurt people or are a symptom of trauma that only excacerbates the trauma shouldn't be seen as particularly bad (their is nothing wrong with sex their is nothing wrong with liking sex (every one does, we are wired to want it)), but those that do hurt people or damage the individual partaking in them (like threesomes, swinging, orgies, promiscuity etc.) should be seen for what they are, no different then when we would step in and try to discourage some one from being an alcoholic.

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  • I think it's unrealistic to expect or even hope for broad, mainstream acceptance of these things, but that there already exists a large "kink" community of people who share your mindset and who will be open and supportive of you (obviously under the assumption that you are using safe-sex and safe-kink practices). You can actually have those kinds of discussions with folks in the kink community and not be judged for it or ostracized over it, because even if they don't share your specific kinks, they understand what it is to have them and they're far more accepting of having them and even of talking about them.

    And the kink community is a lot larger, and a lot more "normal" than a lot of people probably realize.

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  • No way, and i consider myself kinky af. For one, part of what makes sex good is that its not common and you only share it with someone special (hypocritical i know) and if its normalized then that crazy, sexy, fun thing you do with someone, that's crazy, sexy, fun thing that exist because its unique and rare and isn't normal, becomes normal and accepted and its not that anymore. Worst you're going to start a spiral when its harder to get kinky since everything is normal, and you have people doing sick shit to get kinky because everything is normal and bland.

    And you're completely ignoring all the gross fetishes people have, and i for one don't want to be watching youtube videos and see futa furry or scat porn porn on my ads because its the new normal. You're really not thinking this one through op. f

  • I do not think they should be normalised, not everyone will be accepting to the variety of kinks or fetishes out there. The fact that they are not normal also add to what you get from them. I like mine because they are taboo, more risqué and I wouldn't share them. with just anyone.

    Sex itself is rather boring because it is normal, who you do it with and the chemistry you have makes the experience

    • Taboo means?

    • Google is your friend...

      https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taboo

    • I mean what is your taboo

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  • To an extent, they ARE normalized. The so-called moral police are largely concerned with the widespread acceptance of sexual liberation and the feminist movement and all of the subcultures of sexual activity that have come about with the rise of the internet. But this is a loud minority of people who are dying of old age and otherwise shrinking in size every decade. Of course there's a time and a place to discuss these things, but most people I know have a very live and let live attitude towards consensual sexual activity.

  • In a way yes as it would make a lot more people feel comfortable to express their kinks however...

    I think part of what makes kinks exciting is the fact that they're a social taboo and they're seen as naughty or dirty which is a main part of the appeal for me at least

  • Why should perversions be normalized? you should be able to talk about them but they are not normal, also if you talk about it help highly moral guys to stay away from you, so win-win.

  • I think they are already about as normalized as they can be. At some point fetishes become time consuming, which will automatically render them inaccessible to most people - and nothing can become normal to a person who never finds the time to do it. But guys, at least, are generally down for whatever a girl wants to do. It's usually girls who don't see the point of things like anal sex or deepthroating. So, without some critical mass of women deciding they are going to offer themselves to any who look interested, I don't think it will become more normalized than it already is.

  • I like your thinking and I agree with others that discussing kinks and fetish type play should be kind of under the covers. The reason is that most people - boys and girls - stay in the more vanilla kind of play and rarely ever venture beyond that realm.
    I, like you, enjoy exploration and variety in Life and Sex too. So I keep my conversations about sexual kinks and things to only those I know who I can talk to about it, basically other players.
    So, enjoy it, but keep it to yourself as far as conversation with most people. I love to discuss it, but only a very few people I can talk to about it. :(
    If you want to discuss it, try joining a kink community... we love to chat about it.

  • they should be embraced by those that have the kinks/fetishes but here's a thought... if they are all normalized they become no longer taboo and with a lot of kinks/fetishes its that very taboo aspect of it that makes it so exciting in the first place

    • Perhaps the question was phrased in the wrong way. I meant, we should be able to have open discussion about it. Having taboo shouldn't be seen as weird

    • thats the point though... whilst i do see what you are saying, its not taboo if no one sees it as at least a bit weird... i mean im all for being able to talk openly and ideally live in a world where kinks/fetishes are accepted but it would be good to keep that risque excitement element too rather than it all becoming as vanilla as vanilla

  • No - as then they wouldn't be "kinks" or "fetishes".

    You're forgetting that it's the taboo and illicit nature of some BDSM that makes it alluring.

    Just like underage drugs, sex and alcohol consumption. It's not the deed but it's "cool" factor and two fingers to authority it represents that is it's attraction.

    As far as normalising it goes - no one is being prosecuted or kink shamed for what they are open about. It's only those who lie or live double lives that get it in the neck.

  • 2- My thoughts are that in a way I like that 'taboo' is taboo. If it were normalized, then it wouldn't be taboo anymore. A big part of the taboo is that simple concept that being bad feels good. If it's no longer bad, it loses that edge.

    3- Yes I think people should be more open, especially accepting that just because they aren't into a kink that someone else is, that it doesn't mean that it's gross or bad or weird, just different.

    4- Oh boy.. I'm waaaaay out there in left field on kinks and fetishes. Probably best not to list them all in a single post. It could break fragile minds lol

  • It really depends on the kind of kink/fetish.

  • I think normal people should be banished from the bedroom on the first offence and from the country on the second, from the planet on the third with a Danish Dominatrix writing on their back and genitalia "HOPELESS SEXUAL PRUDE" with permanent ink.

  • Some can, some can't.

  • It should definitely be normalised. It will do wonders for us. Talking about it openly will only enlighten the minds and the couples will be more active, intimate and satisfied.

  • Yes, it should be normalized, and people should feel free being open about it without fear of being shamed and treated worse for it.

    I'm open to a lot of abnormal ideas, I had no experiences and there's a lot I'd like to try. Basically I want a woman to experiment on me and push my boundaries until I find the limit to my comfort zone, then I'd have a clearer idea of what I'm into actually doing.
    My list of abnormal things I like to watch (through browsing art mostly) is definitely longer.

  • i think people should be less judgmental... but i think there is still valid reason for discretion :)

  • I think that anything that goes on between two consenting adults should remain between them- or 3 or 4 consenting adults, As long as it doesn't involve children or coercion that it's their business

  • No, just ignored.

  • Def, you try new things and have fun for new experiences.

  • No, I don't they should be normalized. I think kinks and fetishes should stay low key. It's just better for society. Some things can be public and normalized but something's need to hide in the dark.

  • Well every person has their kinks and they might find other people s kinks disgusting so even while saying kinks and fetishes should be normalised some will say, this shouldn't but others should,

    • You are 13? Please leave my profile, sorry.

  • Only read the headline because the rest is too much. It doesn't matter what is normal if you don't worry about what others think.

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