Why do girls like giving blowjobs with no strings attached?

[Anonymous]

I did something I regret. I noticed my girlfriend getting messages from guys whose names I never heard of, so while she was away for a weekend I took my time and dug through her messenger on her laptop. Her past is her past of course but it shocked me a lot. There were, since we are together for 2 years, a lot of different guys who she had done something with in the past still casually asking if they could come over. She declined but it annoyed me that she was so friendly to them and even a bit flirty. Some subtlety asked to "come over", but others just asked when they can get heir dick sucked or ordinarily told her they really needed their balls emptied. When she told them she had a boyfriend they even dared to ask if they could come over when i was at work. She kept declining but she was still friendly!
I also looked in her messages with her BFF's and guys from 2 years ago and it seemed she had a lot of casual hookups but very often just gave those guys a blowjob. And in how she talked about it to her friends and how she reacted to the degrading way these random guys talked to her, she seemed to like doing that. Also her friends talked about who they blew and they seemed to like it as well. It's like all the girls pretty often blow a random guy no strings attached while I couldn't even get a normal hookup. She rarely blows me since she wants sex where we both enjoy it physically, and even that is becoming rare.
What is it that makes girls like doing that and how do I handle this situation best? Because my confidence is kinda below zero at this moment.

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

it sounds like if you care for her at all and want to contenue to be her boyfriend you should start doing what you were doing 2 years ago when you got her she's not cheating if she was you would have read about it so if sex has dwindled down to one or two times a week your fixin to loose her if you dont do something quick now if she was cheating it wouldn't be a big deal just let it die but clearly she wants you over all those guy granted that i wouldn't like the fact that she still talks with those guys but its kind of good that you read those messages because you know she loves you and she's not cheating i sagest that if you can cook then do so cook her a romantic candle lit dinner if you can't cook order something and treat her like you love her because if you dont someone else will just some friendly advise id hate it if you lost her over nothing but not as much as you would

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

This is a simp settle down relationship and she's low value so he shouldn't care if she's faithful, this is more a friendship relationship with the odd sex. She's gotten comfortable from the get go and she has his under her thumb well that's not something worth a guys time.

[BeyondCuriosity]

I think you're looking at it all wrong. You now know that she likes to do that sort of thing, but she's loyal enough to not do those things with other people, even though she has every chance to. She's all yours, and her being able to continue talking with those guys and having those temptations present is a testament to the fact that she is.

As for her not giving you oral and the sex slowing down, maybe just be a little more vocal about how much you want those things? It kind of sounds to me like she's very much into pleasing the other person. Maybe she just needs a little more feedback about how much you like it?

[Asker]

Believe me, she knows how much I like it and how blue my balls are. It's just like she sees me, her boyfriend as someone she doesn't want to get as nasty with as those chads.

[BeyondCuriosity]

Hmmm... Maybe she's more comfortable behaving that way with people she doesn't actually have feelings for? Maybe she can go there mentally with them easier because she sees them more like objects and you as a person?

[Asker]

Yes that's what I'm also afraid for... Getting a casual bj from a random drunk chick has always been like my ultimate sexual fantasy that seems so out of reach. Now I have a girlfriend that I love but won't get too much sex from while she made so many other assholes enjoy that experience. I literally jerk off daily to the thought of being one of those guys treating my girlfriend with zero respect and still getting to blast their balls empty in her mouth. I can't imagine any situation where you feel more like a total winner. My ego is shattered I guess...

[BeyondCuriosity]

She needs to give that to you. That's nothing you should feel bad about yourself about though. That's just a mental block for her. Keep working at it. Have you asked her why things have slowed down?

[KrakenAttackin]

Start being more aggressive with her. Push her to give you head and be more dominating. If she doesn't respond dump her.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

@KrakenAttackin yeah exactly, she's ruining his self esteem and treating him like she doesn't have to do much to please him. Dominate her if she doesn't comply, no sex. I guarantee this guy goes down on her. I would never go down on a girl who doesn't blow. I'd not even be with a girl who doesn't blow. A BJ is the first thing we expect before sex.

[KrakenAttackin]

@ChocoBrownieMonster Absolutely. She does not feel the need to please him which means she does not respect him.

[neilsmart]

We like the feeling of being dominated by a hot guy

[Asker]

I actually would like to hear more detail from you since you are a woman after all.

[neilsmart]

private message?

[Asker]

ok I'll send a request

[normalice]

Please introduce me to her friends..

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

I sat round 3 girls in a coffee shop who shared with me exactly what you're talking about. It's not rare and they enjoy the sexual tension. They all had boyfriends and i know for a fact they would all cheat on them. Funnily enough, they all tried to slander each other.

[Asker]

What exactly did they say? That they liked sucking dick? That they liked sucking casual dick? Or that they wanted to suck another dick while with their boyfriend?

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

they didn't say any of that. one of them said she hasn't had sex in 4months. They just had messages from guys telling them exactly what they want to do to the girls or want from them. Some wanted hugs, some wanted BJs, some wanted to taste their bodies.

[Barry88]

Never read old messages, e-mails, whatever... Because you don't want to know everything. Your confidence is below zero because of things your girlfriend did some years ago when she was single. And it seems that she is faithful to you.

[Asker]

I get that. But do you understand that it annoys me that those guys treat her like that, now still try to get her to give them head in a sleazy way and she is still friendly to them?

[Barry88]

I don't see the problem with being friendly. Sure, these guys don't treat her good, but it's a sign of maturity that she can politely reject them and stay friendly to them.

[HATR3D]

But why does she still have them as friends 👀 and in contact with them hmm

[Barry88]

@HATR3D Because she knows these guys and doesn't hate them?

[KrakenAttackin]

Wrong. Read everything. You do not want to marry a fucking whore.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Asker she's settled for the nice guy and she's low value because she's not giving you what she gave those guys. I guarantee if you dominate her she will dump your ass and if you marry her she will cheat on you. Find a girl who will treat you the way this girl treats a hot guy. Then make it even. You don't have to tell her you did this, it's for your own self esteem

[KrakenAttackin]

@barry88. Stop being a SIMP.

[KrakenAttackin]

@barry88. SIMP.

[KrakenAttackin]

@ChocoBrownieMonster Yes, spot on!

[Dargil]

Do they really?

[Iron_Man]

I doubt this

[Asker]

I don't. I read it

[COMMODOREII]

I'm surprised she doesn't want to give you bjs.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

He's easily pleased and thus a simp that's why. I bet he goes down on her and licks her entire body.

[KrakenAttackin]

Dude, your girlfriend is a cock sucking whore. She will eventually return to her random cock sucking ways.

Would you want those lips kissing your children? Didn't think so.

[Asker]

She's not a whore and I really don't think she will suck random cock again. What you say about those lips kissing our children or me for that fact, it does have a disturbing factor, knowing who they have been around. Therefore I wish I didn't read all that

[KrakenAttackin]

I would not stay with this girl. It is clear she has sucked a lot of cocks, probably including guys you know. When you are with her and see these guys they will always be thinking about her sucking them off. I couldn't live with this.

[Asker]

I know it were quite a lot of guys I know and still see and I also feel like there is a weird tension between the tree of us. But till I think you overreact.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

This girl will suck a random guys dick at a house party.

[In_Trance]

power and control

[scott04sa22]

Greed too

[Cryptic-Game]

It makes her feel feminine.

[Asker]

What exactly do you mean by feminine

[Anonymous]

Ever watched a cat play with a toy tied to a string? That's why girls love balls to. They just like pets.

[Anonymous]

I rarely found any that liked it but I hope you are getting them often or asking for it now that you know this